Comments on: How did you become so bold in writing about sex? http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more... Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:09:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: African Mami http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-3080 African Mami Wed, 09 Nov 2011 03:26:52 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-3080 The African concept of sex is that it should be within the confines of marriage. Growing up sex was referred to as "bad manners". I am totally against the way we are taught to view sex!!!! Look at the HIV/AIDS statistics, higher in relation to other more liberal continents! I would love if we could just be candid and tell it like it is. We should not be shamed about talking about sex! Urrrgh! My peoples, my peoples my peoples!!!!!!!!!! Could write a book about the myths of sex in Africa! The African concept of sex is that it should be within the confines of marriage. Growing up sex was referred to as “bad manners”. I am totally against the way we are taught to view sex!!!! Look at the HIV/AIDS statistics, higher in relation to other more liberal continents! I would love if we could just be candid and tell it like it is. We should not be shamed about talking about sex! Urrrgh! My peoples, my peoples my peoples!!!!!!!!!! Could write a book about the myths of sex in Africa!

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-458 Nana Tue, 17 Feb 2009 10:30:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-458 Ronke, thanks for the support. Ronke, thanks for the support.

]]> By: Ronke http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-454 Ronke Mon, 16 Feb 2009 21:06:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-454 FANTASTIC! I love your honesty and openness - its all about letting go of taboo and cobwebs(literally for some!)<br/><br/>Thanks for sharing.. FANTASTIC! I love your honesty and openness – its all about letting go of taboo and cobwebs(literally for some!)

Thanks for sharing..

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-439 Nana Sun, 08 Feb 2009 17:54:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-439 Hey Sijui - Thanks for the feedback. Glad to hear that your daughter will be getting some positive sex education.<br/><br/>Novisi - Thank you for reading. I appreciate the support Hey Sijui – Thanks for the feedback. Glad to hear that your daughter will be getting some positive sex education.

Novisi – Thank you for reading. I appreciate the support

]]> By: novisi http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-438 novisi Sun, 08 Feb 2009 15:21:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-438 more power 'orgasmic' power to you!<br/><br/>i'm reading...<br/><br/>enjoy!! more power ‘orgasmic’ power to you!

i’m reading…

enjoy!!

]]> By: Sijui http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-437 Sijui Thu, 05 Feb 2009 15:23:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-437 I love your attitude girl!!!!! Anyway my two cents as a female and a mother, I absolutely agree with your philosophy. This Christmas it gave me great pleasure to tell my mom that I was planning on emulating her style when it came to sex education and discussions on sex. My mom's technique was very effective, she didn't give me that tired, stale and highly impractical if not hypocritical "only bad girls have sex".......or "there is great honor in waiting until marriage".....or "do not bring shame to this family." Instead she appealed directly to my self esteem: she told me that I was beautiful and intelligent, and had all the potential in the world, and should not be cavalier about making decisions that would both degrade who I was as a person and bring me great dissapointment through unmet expectations. She also told me not to be foolish enough to let somebody else rob me of my joy. Case closed. For a party animal like me, and someone who was very sexually curious, it made me think a lot and choose my associations very closely because then I became more worried about denting my reputation as a strong, independent, fearless woman! :)<br/><br/>For my 2 year old, I plan on continuing the same philosophy: telling her that her sexuality is wonderful and beautiful and powerful. And that it has much to do with who she is a person and consequently she must not be cavalier about making decisions that might do her no justice. Sex is good, sex is beautiful and sex is powerful.......it requires a level head, a healthy dose of self esteem and mutual respect. End of sermon. I love your attitude girl!!!!! Anyway my two cents as a female and a mother, I absolutely agree with your philosophy. This Christmas it gave me great pleasure to tell my mom that I was planning on emulating her style when it came to sex education and discussions on sex. My mom’s technique was very effective, she didn’t give me that tired, stale and highly impractical if not hypocritical “only bad girls have sex”…….or “there is great honor in waiting until marriage”…..or “do not bring shame to this family.” Instead she appealed directly to my self esteem: she told me that I was beautiful and intelligent, and had all the potential in the world, and should not be cavalier about making decisions that would both degrade who I was as a person and bring me great dissapointment through unmet expectations. She also told me not to be foolish enough to let somebody else rob me of my joy. Case closed. For a party animal like me, and someone who was very sexually curious, it made me think a lot and choose my associations very closely because then I became more worried about denting my reputation as a strong, independent, fearless woman! :)

For my 2 year old, I plan on continuing the same philosophy: telling her that her sexuality is wonderful and beautiful and powerful. And that it has much to do with who she is a person and consequently she must not be cavalier about making decisions that might do her no justice. Sex is good, sex is beautiful and sex is powerful…….it requires a level head, a healthy dose of self esteem and mutual respect. End of sermon.

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-436 Nana Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:36:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-436 Anon - talks for the feedback and tip. I am definitely going to write a future post on clitoral and vaginal orgasms.<br/><br/>HNG - I agree that talking or writing about sex exclusively does not improve your sex life. You cannot talk yourself into a great sex life. I think what one can do is learn what works and doesn't work for you ... practice makes perfect? In talking about experimenting I was thinking about one partner. In my experience the more comfortable/open you become with your partner the better your sexual life becomes. However you can easily fall into a routine which can then become boring. <br/><br/>Hmmm, I am interested in other people's thoughts about what kills great sex. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Are there any other takers? Anon – talks for the feedback and tip. I am definitely going to write a future post on clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

HNG – I agree that talking or writing about sex exclusively does not improve your sex life. You cannot talk yourself into a great sex life. I think what one can do is learn what works and doesn’t work for you … practice makes perfect? In talking about experimenting I was thinking about one partner. In my experience the more comfortable/open you become with your partner the better your sexual life becomes. However you can easily fall into a routine which can then become boring.

Hmmm, I am interested in other people’s thoughts about what kills great sex. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Are there any other takers?

]]> By: HNG http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-435 HNG Mon, 02 Feb 2009 21:18:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-435 I don't think talking or writing about sex improves one's sex life. In my experience, the people who talk a lot about sex get the least sex. I like what you said about experimenting (I hope you meant experimenting with ONE partner; if not, that's OK, too). <br/><br/>What kills great sex: women's magazines, TV and pornography. And, NO, I'm not a woman. I don’t think talking or writing about sex improves one’s sex life. In my experience, the people who talk a lot about sex get the least sex. I like what you said about experimenting (I hope you meant experimenting with ONE partner; if not, that’s OK, too).

What kills great sex: women’s magazines, TV and pornography. And, NO, I’m not a woman.

]]> By: Anonymous http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-431 Anonymous Sat, 31 Jan 2009 22:00:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/01/31/how-did-you-become-so-bold-in-writing-about-sex.html#comment-431 A surefire way for me to orgasm is by clitoral stimulation. I can't say I've ever had a purely vaginal orgasm. Clitoral stimulation followed (at just the right moment) by vaginal penetration results in what (i think) cosmo calls the 'blended' orgasm; slower, less vigorous and perhaps more intense than the clitoral orgasm. A surefire way for me to orgasm is by clitoral stimulation. I can’t say I’ve ever had a purely vaginal orgasm. Clitoral stimulation followed (at just the right moment) by vaginal penetration results in what (i think) cosmo calls the ‘blended’ orgasm; slower, less vigorous and perhaps more intense than the clitoral orgasm.

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