Comments on: Abstinence in a sex obsessed world? http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more... Wed, 16 May 2012 19:14:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Anonymous http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-576 Anonymous Thu, 09 Apr 2009 14:27:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-576 @ Nana Darkoa -<br/>like I said, I am intensely curious - yes, i watch movies and you see people having sex (what movie doesn't have that nowadays), but it is still pretty hard for me to imagine what goes on, since i have never been in the position....so I am really curious, but i don't like NEED to have sex.....But I am NOT asexual either.....I am really curious. and one day I'll find out! (hopefully, it doesn't come before i get married, because once i pop, i don't inted to stop, lol) @ Nana Darkoa -
like I said, I am intensely curious – yes, i watch movies and you see people having sex (what movie doesn’t have that nowadays), but it is still pretty hard for me to imagine what goes on, since i have never been in the position….so I am really curious, but i don’t like NEED to have sex…..But I am NOT asexual either…..I am really curious. and one day I’ll find out! (hopefully, it doesn’t come before i get married, because once i pop, i don’t inted to stop, lol)

]]> By: Anonymous http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-570 Anonymous Wed, 08 Apr 2009 01:15:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-570 be like people are pulling a Bill Clinton. abstinence needs to be defined. for some, oral sex is okay but vaginal/anal is not. people might be hiding behind definitions to claim celibacy... be like people are pulling a Bill Clinton. abstinence needs to be defined. for some, oral sex is okay but vaginal/anal is not. people might be hiding behind definitions to claim celibacy…

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-565 Nana Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:12:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-565 Thanks for sharing Shane. I shall try and check it out - that's if I can deal with the slooooowwww internet connection in GH Thanks for sharing Shane. I shall try and check it out – that’s if I can deal with the slooooowwww internet connection in GH

]]> By: Shane http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-563 Shane Mon, 06 Apr 2009 20:31:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-563 just thought i'd share this link to an instructional video (not porn) on sex positions (ironic, since this is in response to a post on abstinence...lol).<br/><br/>it's about an hour long and just ignore the porn-ish ads and pop-ups, the video itself might prove useful :)<br/><br/>http://www.tube8.com/hardcore/lovers-guide-to-sexual-positions/1182/ just thought i’d share this link to an instructional video (not porn) on sex positions (ironic, since this is in response to a post on abstinence…lol).

it’s about an hour long and just ignore the porn-ish ads and pop-ups, the video itself might prove useful :)

http://www.tube8.com/hardcore/lovers-guide-to-sexual-positions/1182/

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-560 Nana Sun, 05 Apr 2009 22:27:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-560 Bijou - I enjoy the comments so do not even think that you are in anyway hijacking the blog...I agree with your comments about porn and have written about porn in a previous post.<br/><br/>Brown Angel - Celibacy and abstinence as a regular part of one's life? Interesting thought...I am personally not good at depriving myself of things I enjoy (I'm thinking of chocolate cake of course:) but I'm sure that will work for some people<br/><br/>Anon 1- Aawww, how romantic. Seriously. Ahem...are you trying to blame the models for any entanglements that may occur with photographers?<br/><br/>Anon 2 - No desire at all? Seriously? I'm trying to think back to when I was a virgin...I think I had a lot of desires but for various reasons did not act on it. I think it's nice though that you have been able to decide for yourself (without the societal pressure) that abstinence is for you<br/><br/>Lovelylind - Thanks for sharing. Mmmm,the romance factor is a big plus for me too...<br/><br/>Novisi - Lol! Bijou – I enjoy the comments so do not even think that you are in anyway hijacking the blog…I agree with your comments about porn and have written about porn in a previous post.

Brown Angel – Celibacy and abstinence as a regular part of one’s life? Interesting thought…I am personally not good at depriving myself of things I enjoy (I’m thinking of chocolate cake of course:) but I’m sure that will work for some people

Anon 1- Aawww, how romantic. Seriously. Ahem…are you trying to blame the models for any entanglements that may occur with photographers?

Anon 2 – No desire at all? Seriously? I’m trying to think back to when I was a virgin…I think I had a lot of desires but for various reasons did not act on it. I think it’s nice though that you have been able to decide for yourself (without the societal pressure) that abstinence is for you

Lovelylind – Thanks for sharing. Mmmm,the romance factor is a big plus for me too…

Novisi – Lol!

]]> By: novisi http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-558 novisi Sun, 05 Apr 2009 10:35:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-558 ah this one!<br/>it's easy!<br/><br/>we all abstain don't forget! it's a natural thing!<br/><br/>it's just what you have before sex, in-between sex and after sex! that makes a count of 3 rounds @ the most conservative!<br/><br/>quite simple see???<br/><br/>and my expectations too a just simple: to make her come and come and come and come... no i mean cum till she can come no more! then i'd as for my turn to break the abstinence!<br/><br/>cheers! ah this one!
it’s easy!

we all abstain don’t forget! it’s a natural thing!

it’s just what you have before sex, in-between sex and after sex! that makes a count of 3 rounds @ the most conservative!

quite simple see???

and my expectations too a just simple: to make her come and come and come and come… no i mean cum till she can come no more! then i’d as for my turn to break the abstinence!

cheers!

]]> By: lovelylind http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-555 lovelylind Fri, 03 Apr 2009 01:58:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-555 I've been celibate for many, many years but not all my life. I have two reasons: 1) At some point, I decided to wait until marriage (or close to it), and 2) I haven't dated anyone seriously in years. Shoot, I barely dated casually. lol<br/><br/>That being said, I'm more of a romantic fantasizer than a lustful one (if you get what I mean?). Outside of a relationship, I don't think about sex <i>too</i> deeply. I daydream more about affection, intimacy, and happiness in a relationship than anything else.<br/><br/>I have a couple of friends who have decided to wait until marriage and some who have maintained celibacy (not all by choice, though lol).<br/><br/>What do I look forward to? Aside from the actual act? LOL! I think about the progress/comfort in the relationship... for it to get to that point (sex). I look forward to that. <br/><br/>BTW, I am SO not a hopeless romantic. lol I just feel this way about this particular topic.<br/><br/>Bad sex or abstinence? Abstinence will always win if those are the choices. I’ve been celibate for many, many years but not all my life. I have two reasons: 1) At some point, I decided to wait until marriage (or close to it), and 2) I haven’t dated anyone seriously in years. Shoot, I barely dated casually. lol

That being said, I’m more of a romantic fantasizer than a lustful one (if you get what I mean?). Outside of a relationship, I don’t think about sex too deeply. I daydream more about affection, intimacy, and happiness in a relationship than anything else.

I have a couple of friends who have decided to wait until marriage and some who have maintained celibacy (not all by choice, though lol).

What do I look forward to? Aside from the actual act? LOL! I think about the progress/comfort in the relationship… for it to get to that point (sex). I look forward to that.

BTW, I am SO not a hopeless romantic. lol I just feel this way about this particular topic.

Bad sex or abstinence? Abstinence will always win if those are the choices.

]]> By: Anonymous http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-554 Anonymous Thu, 02 Apr 2009 15:30:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-554 Personally abstinence was shoved down my throat for a long time, until I got out of Ghana. In a new environment, I began to take stock of the things I believed, and I realized that I do believe in abstinence - for both practical and religious reasons. As for sex, since I have never tried it before, only curiosity exists, no desire (i can't desire anything i've not tried)....... who knows what will happen. tho? Personally abstinence was shoved down my throat for a long time, until I got out of Ghana. In a new environment, I began to take stock of the things I believed, and I realized that I do believe in abstinence – for both practical and religious reasons. As for sex, since I have never tried it before, only curiosity exists, no desire (i can’t desire anything i’ve not tried)……. who knows what will happen. tho?

]]> By: Anonymous http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-553 Anonymous Thu, 02 Apr 2009 09:01:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-553 Since I share a bedroom with an African woman, may I be permitted to comment on abstinence? <br/><br/>My wife (then my girlfriend) and I decided to go the way of abstinence till we got married. We abstained (with much difficulty) for five years till we married. We've been married for four years.<br/><br/>I think the best thing abstinence does for a young couple, is it builds trust. I am photographer. I spend a lot of time with pretty young models and quite a number of them can be adventurous if you allow them. I have never ever cheated with one. I think the practice has made it easier. <br/><br/>I am not saying practicing abstinence means one can never cheat. That's too simplistic a thought. John Milton says "every whore was once a virgin". That's true for relationships that started on such strong grounds as abstinence too. Some just lose it when they discover how pleasant sex can be.<br/><br/>The only point I'm making is, once you successfully practice abstinence, it is never too difficult to do it again when the occasion calls for it. Since I share a bedroom with an African woman, may I be permitted to comment on abstinence?

My wife (then my girlfriend) and I decided to go the way of abstinence till we got married. We abstained (with much difficulty) for five years till we married. We’ve been married for four years.

I think the best thing abstinence does for a young couple, is it builds trust. I am photographer. I spend a lot of time with pretty young models and quite a number of them can be adventurous if you allow them. I have never ever cheated with one. I think the practice has made it easier.

I am not saying practicing abstinence means one can never cheat. That’s too simplistic a thought. John Milton says “every whore was once a virgin”. That’s true for relationships that started on such strong grounds as abstinence too. Some just lose it when they discover how pleasant sex can be.

The only point I’m making is, once you successfully practice abstinence, it is never too difficult to do it again when the occasion calls for it.

]]> By: BrownAangel http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-552 BrownAangel Thu, 02 Apr 2009 08:51:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/04/01/abstinence-in-a-sex-obsessed-world.html#comment-552 Ahhh thank you. Nana.<br/>Well lets see abstinance/ celibacy means you need to have been sexually active and then to be refraining from all such activities.<br/><br/>I was abstinant for a year and then later on for 9 months.<br/><br/>The year was just after I became sexually active in College. At the time I really wanted to meet someone special and not expend energy on guys that I wasn;t really into. It worked out well and was a very productive period for me. <br/><br/>The 9 month period was due to a seperation from my then boyfriend. I was in another country and so I abstained. That is until I saw him again.<br/><br/>Like fasting from food, detoxing, purging, silence, alone time, I think celibacy and abstinance should be a healthy part of ones life. <br/>It is really and truly refreshing to be able to live totally above the animal desires and it I believe it makes you more selective when you decide to break it. Ahhh thank you. Nana.
Well lets see abstinance/ celibacy means you need to have been sexually active and then to be refraining from all such activities.

I was abstinant for a year and then later on for 9 months.

The year was just after I became sexually active in College. At the time I really wanted to meet someone special and not expend energy on guys that I wasn;t really into. It worked out well and was a very productive period for me.

The 9 month period was due to a seperation from my then boyfriend. I was in another country and so I abstained. That is until I saw him again.

Like fasting from food, detoxing, purging, silence, alone time, I think celibacy and abstinance should be a healthy part of ones life.
It is really and truly refreshing to be able to live totally above the animal desires and it I believe it makes you more selective when you decide to break it.

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