I think like most things, kissing is an art you learn. And if most guys and girls learn to keep their saliva to themselves (which has nothing to do with kissing anyway), their kissing skills will improve tremendously. We all get uncomfortable when somebody drools all over us. It’s disgusting.

Because we are all wired different biologically, I think it is okay to ask your lover how they like to be kissed, touched, etc. Never assume. Just because your ex liked that doesn’t mean your new lover will.

.. There was this caucasian dude in my college that i met at a house party. The party was a little on the boring side, but there was a lot of alcohol….no surprise there, my friend whose birthday we were celebrating is Bulgarian (alcohol is like water for her). Anyhu, so this dude, lets call him X, and I hit it off, talked, and i was even teaching him how to dance, after awhile i gave up on the 'i'm going to teach this guy some rhythm' idea, and just resorted to just grinding with him. We left the party to just hang out in his apartment with some other friends. Next thing i knew we were making out … the night ended there though because i didn't want to have some random one night stand with this dude, seeing that we were both pretty wasted and a lil high.
We ended up friends though, went on a couple of dates and were watching 'Family Business' at his place when we started making out. OH EM GEEE!!! I WAS SOOO CONFUSED!!! WAT!! Homeboy was all over my face..saliva bathing my face..tryng to kiss the skin of my whole face. I was like what the hell..and how come i thought our first make-out session wasn't that bad (pro'ly because of the mixture of alcohol and weed – never again – the mixture i mean). It all felt like a dream, and then i just had to leave. After that i decided never to see him again.
I was so disappointed and so shocked…hweh, i even thought maybe it was a caucasian thing. Wow, i was in such a state of shock that i complained to my housemate (a guy), who told me to give the guy another chance. So i did..and then again…he got better…basically all i did was ==> ONCE HE STARTS HIS 'amma suck the skin right off ur face' NONSENSE, I WOULD JUST FIND HIS LIPS AGAIN…It didn't take King Solomon to tell him that homegirl probably prefer ur lips on her lips, no drooling..instead of all over her cheeks, nostrils..lol. He's an alright kisser now…. but he graduated and i can't be bothered with him now.
Oh and i also found out that ..no, it wasn't a caucasian thing..he was just an 'all over the place' boy!

Confession: I am an fledging when it comes to love, sex and everything in between; 23 years old and still awaiting Mr Wonderful’s descent from the very heavens (what can I say, I’m a typical Ghanaian ‘good girl’. Can’t be the only one…am I?).

Have only ever kissed one guy, it felt good at first until he decided to make a face mask of his mouth over my nose and mouth. He also did this strange thing where he wriggled his tongue rigidly from side to side inside my mouth.

I imagine kissing a woman might feel better? more soft? sensual?

When I was a teenager, I found out(I think from a movie or a book I read) that most ladies tend to judge a guy based on his kissing. This meant I had to learn how to do it, else…lol.

Anyways, I watched a couple of how-to videos, read some books and the rest was purely my imagination. I must say the first time I kissed someone, I must have done it right, cos there were several other times…:-)

I agree with one of the comments that said bad kissing is not about gender(cos I have met some girls who didn’t know what they were doing).

I guess we should all(male or female) just be humble enough and learn how to kiss your partner the way he or she wants to be kissed.

I like the blog entry…good piece

As to us expecting them to be good kissers, i dont think it is as much expecting as it is hoping that they are good kissers!! But i have had more good experiences than bad ones – so then I start to think thats the norm until I meet a drooler that destroys that notion!

As for me, I actually have never had any horrific experiences. Some guys were better kissers than others, but none were terrible. At the same time, I haven’t kissed that many people.

But reading these comments are not making me happy about dating African men! LOL I really hope it’s a stereotype and not the truth. If it’s any hope, I kissed 2 Nigerian men and neither were bad.

Ok, I lied. My “horrific” experience was with one of the Nigerian men, but it was mainly because I felt it was too soon for us to be kissing. We had met like the day before and I’m NOT a casual relationship person at all. I wasn’t comfortable with it, and I never saw the guy again.

The other Naija boy, though…he was cool but also quite sexually aggressive (which would’ve been okay under other circumstances).

A good kiss is gentle, not too wet, at times playful, always sensual