Comments on: Dating a sexuality blogger?

By: African Mami

African Mami — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 10:29:49 +0000

If sex blogging is my career…right off the bat! He is going to know. If it’s just for fun, hell no….he’ll know in due time. He doesn’t need to know evvvvvvvvverything on first meet…..

By: Nana

Nana — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:05:07 +0000

@Mike – I so agree with you, when two people click you easily find out about each other…you will be suprised the number of people that are not on the info super highway. The one or two guys who have been “checking” for me recently, do not know I blog…I generally don’t say anything about my blog to guys partly based on the comments above. On the other hand if they do find out it’s no biggie

By: Mike

Mike — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 15:17:46 +0000

If you meet a guy and after a week of talking/ hanging-out he still has no clue that you are open about sexuality, I’d say you two aren’t a perfect match. When two people “click” you find out about each other with ease when you interact. No need to ask friends about the other and therefore, no need to read blogs to know more about the person. You worry about his impression of you? He would already know if u are loose or not from interacting with you. I personally would not rely on blogs to define a person. It would be useful for “history lessons”; things that happened to her in the past that we havent had time to laugh about yet.
But check this out; what kind of man would you meet that wouldn’t know about your blog or find out shortly after you start hanging out? You are surrounded by men on the info superhiway, and in a country where people talk about people.
I dont see any issues except he might not be OK with you blogging about him.

By: Nana Kofi Acquah

Nana Kofi Acquah — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 22:34:38 +0000

Nana,
I’ve had the privilege of hanging out with you a couple of times and both were amazing and unforgettable. You are an intelligent, beautiful, concerned, loving, witty and a “straight shooter” of a woman. I don’t know what man in his right mind won’t appreciate these virtues. I am sure if the right man comes along and he’s patient enough to discover the gem you really are, he might negotiate with you on your blogging future; especially in relation to your relationship with him. I hope such a dude comes along.

I must say, most African men can hardly handle an empowered woman, much more one who is bold enough to write about sex and sexuality. The few who will have the balls to date you might also worry about what their mothers and sisters and grandmothers and fathers will say (people have no idea how often these issues come up in Ghanaian relationships).

I also have a funny feeling you may also have a lot of guys who will want to find out how it feels like to have sex with a sex expert. That will be heart breaking if it comes out they were never genuinely in love with you… it is a danger I foresee. I know of such stories and I think I shared one with you the last time.

Finally, I will give you two suggestions of what I will do if I were in your shoes:

1. I will blog with a pseudonym.
2. I will date men only on celibate terms. No kissing, no sex, no nothing until he’s really ready to commit to a long term relationship.

The former will give you a great opportunity to have a “normal” unprejudiced life. What the latter will do is assure him you are not “easy” and also neutralize the many lies he will hear from his kind and the women who are jealous because they couldn’t have him.

So again… my 2 shillings worth. Cheers

By: Nana

Nana — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 19:47:32 +0000

@Aba – Please say more – what game(s) exactly are you talking about? Personally, I don’t think I play games with men…I’m more of a “straight shooter”. I either like you or I don’t

@Kofi – Underlying motivations are pure. Ultimately I want more women to have fantastic orgasmic sex…blogging about sex will not necessarily have that result but being open about sex, your needs, desires, etc might help in the process

By: kofi ametewee

kofi ametewee — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 10:40:43 +0000

Very articulate collection of views. I don’t think knowing that a woman blogs about sex (sexuality) would really change anything I feel about them in the long run. I’m much more concerned with understanding underlying motivations.

By: Aba

Aba — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 10:57:30 +0000

Nana, you may not like the idea of being considered game, but think about it, we women play that game with the guy(s) we like. The urge to hunt is always there. About you saying you blog on sexuality, I’d say, hold on until you know the person’s thought on sex. Anyway, some guys might actually get a kick out of it.

By: Nana

Nana — Fri, 15 May 2009 00:37:00 +0000

@E- You made me laugh so hard and I think you have convinced me to hold back some info when I initially meet a guy.

What is it with guys and wanting women to be mysterious and a challenge? I know it's suppossedly the hunter gathering instinct but seriously we're now in the 21st century and there is nothing to hunt. Or is there? I don't like the idea of being considered game

Nana Darkoa

By: E's

E's — Thu, 14 May 2009 00:47:00 +0000

I think I agree with Kajsa (cool ass name by the way). Don't tell me about the blog. I don't want to know that much upfront. Actually I don't want to know that much at all.

Let me find out things about you. If I read your blog and I was just getting to know you - I know too much after I read it. What's the challenge now?

I've chased ugly woman (don't get offended ugly women - I love em all) because they've gave a challenge. I'm an information gatherer, so if I read the blog it's an easy maneuver for me to charm those pretty panties down (I'm being bad there, forgive).

Don't ever, ever, ever tell a man you blog about sexuality. Some of these corny dudes will think it's cool, but damn can anything be personal?! keep some stuff yours - personal.

Nice blog by the way:)

By: Nana

Nana — Wed, 13 May 2009 23:13:00 +0000

@Esi – in a roundabout way you were the trigger for this post. Do you remember us bumping into each other in a bar and I introduced you as a fab blogger? That somehow led me to say I blog too and then when he wanted the address I thought “Oh, no, someone has warned me about telling men about my blog”