Comments on: FGM and Sex: Does sex ever become pleasurable? http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more... Wed, 16 May 2012 19:14:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-694 Nana Thu, 21 May 2009 22:54:05 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-694 @bijou - Thank goodness you were spared the ordeal. Yes I agree with you that one of the saddest aspects of FGM is that girls/women buy into the "beliefs" around FGM and so themselves perpetuate it. Of course there are also lots of women and girls who have suffered the practice and are working to ensure no one else has to undergo it. @bijou – Thank goodness you were spared the ordeal. Yes I agree with you that one of the saddest aspects of FGM is that girls/women buy into the “beliefs” around FGM and so themselves perpetuate it. Of course there are also lots of women and girls who have suffered the practice and are working to ensure no one else has to undergo it.

]]> By: bijou http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-685 bijou Tue, 19 May 2009 02:04:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-685 My sister and I (thank God) escaped FGM because my mother fought my father's family, whose 'tribe' perform it routinely.<br /><br />I have cousins my age who have never enjoyed sex, loathe it and don't know what an orgasm it.<br /><br />What is really sad, is that girls from my dad's tribe are inculcated with the belief (at a young age) that going through FGM somehow makes them 'superior' to other women. There are girls who literally cry to have it done to them My sister and I (thank God) escaped FGM because my mother fought my father’s family, whose ‘tribe’ perform it routinely.

I have cousins my age who have never enjoyed sex, loathe it and don’t know what an orgasm it.

What is really sad, is that girls from my dad’s tribe are inculcated with the belief (at a young age) that going through FGM somehow makes them ‘superior’ to other women. There are girls who literally cry to have it done to them

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-677 Nana Fri, 15 May 2009 00:29:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-677 @Nii Ayi - Charle, I feel the Ajesh true. Apparently the clitoris is "superior" to the penis because it has more nerve endings and it's sole function is pleasure:) Thanks for sharing your thoughts<br /><br />@Evelina - It is really gruesome when you investigate the various types of FGM that exist. Research indicates 4 types of which you listed 3. The 4th one I belief is where the clitoris is stretched...I think it is done in some parts of Southern Africa. Thanks for your insight<br /><br />Nana Darkoa @Nii Ayi – Charle, I feel the Ajesh true. Apparently the clitoris is “superior” to the penis because it has more nerve endings and it’s sole function is pleasure:) Thanks for sharing your thoughts

@Evelina – It is really gruesome when you investigate the various types of FGM that exist. Research indicates 4 types of which you listed 3. The 4th one I belief is where the clitoris is stretched…I think it is done in some parts of Southern Africa. Thanks for your insight

Nana Darkoa

]]> By: Evelina http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-669 Evelina Wed, 13 May 2009 18:33:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-669 One of my aunt's (family friend) was FGM'd and only had sex when trying for children as it was a very painful experience. She now has 4 children and has not had sex with her husband since the 4th.<br /><br />I did some research on FGM & found there are different ways to torture women with this practice. Some they just eliminate the clitoris; others they eliminate the clitoris, labia etc; other still do the above AND sew everything together leaving the tiniest of openings for urine, menstrual blood etc. Just thinking about it has me crossing my legs (not to mention cringing at the issues of hygiene).<br /><br />I know of no one else who has been mutilated in this way so cannot really speak as to whether sex would be pleasurable for women who have gone through this. To hazard a guess though, sadly I would have to say rarely, if at all. One of my aunt's (family friend) was FGM'd and only had sex when trying for children as it was a very painful experience. She now has 4 children and has not had sex with her husband since the 4th.

I did some research on FGM & found there are different ways to torture women with this practice. Some they just eliminate the clitoris; others they eliminate the clitoris, labia etc; other still do the above AND sew everything together leaving the tiniest of openings for urine, menstrual blood etc. Just thinking about it has me crossing my legs (not to mention cringing at the issues of hygiene).

I know of no one else who has been mutilated in this way so cannot really speak as to whether sex would be pleasurable for women who have gone through this. To hazard a guess though, sadly I would have to say rarely, if at all.

]]> By: Nii Ayi http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-667 Nii Ayi Tue, 12 May 2009 16:37:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/11/fgm-and-sex-does-sex-ever-become-pleasurable.html#comment-667 Well I am not a woman, but from my knowledge of science, the clitoris is equivalent to the males penis and having it cut off denies one of a significant ''instrument'' for intercourse. I have read Hirsi Ali's book too and FGM goes beyond sex and into child bearing.. not a woman but I can feel the pain.. Ajeshh..(Gh cry for pain!!) Well I am not a woman, but from my knowledge of science, the clitoris is equivalent to the males penis and having it cut off denies one of a significant ”instrument” for intercourse. I have read Hirsi Ali’s book too and FGM goes beyond sex and into child bearing.. not a woman but I can feel the pain.. Ajeshh..(Gh cry for pain!!)

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