Comments on: Guest Contributor Ms A on Celibacy, Temptation and Sex http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more... Wed, 16 May 2012 19:14:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Anonymous http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-682 Anonymous Sat, 16 May 2009 19:28:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-682 I vote for waiting...<br /><br />The time might allow you re-discover and be consumed by yourself for a bit. <br /><br />I'm going to take another 'Oprah pill' and suggest you talk to him about it.<br /><br />Fufilling your goal cannot do harm to your self-esteem; boost your confidence in your ability to see a promise (esp. to yourself)through. Sex is still going to be waiting and wonderful in seven months, three weeks and five days...maybe even more so after such a long fast ;)<br /><br />So go ahead, tell temptation to get in line behind you and God. I vote for waiting…

The time might allow you re-discover and be consumed by yourself for a bit.

I’m going to take another ‘Oprah pill’ and suggest you talk to him about it.

Fufilling your goal cannot do harm to your self-esteem; boost your confidence in your ability to see a promise (esp. to yourself)through. Sex is still going to be waiting and wonderful in seven months, three weeks and five days…maybe even more so after such a long fast ;)

So go ahead, tell temptation to get in line behind you and God.

]]> By: Ms A http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-681 Ms A Fri, 15 May 2009 13:25:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-681 Thanks for all your comments. Temptation lingers and I honestly don't know what I'll do. I decided to make the vow when I was in a really bad way and men had become the antiChrist. But as the months move on and I find myself home alone one too many times and in desperate need of affection when one issue overlaps another, I'm kinda wishing I just had someone to spend my nights with...<br />However that often leads to bedding the wrong person and adding more issues and isn't the healthiest way of sorting things out. We'll see Thanks for all your comments. Temptation lingers and I honestly don’t know what I’ll do. I decided to make the vow when I was in a really bad way and men had become the antiChrist. But as the months move on and I find myself home alone one too many times and in desperate need of affection when one issue overlaps another, I’m kinda wishing I just had someone to spend my nights with…
However that often leads to bedding the wrong person and adding more issues and isn’t the healthiest way of sorting things out. We’ll see

]]> By: Nana Yaw Asiedu http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-679 Nana Yaw Asiedu Fri, 15 May 2009 07:11:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-679 Great post, by Mrs A. Do you have a blog? <br /><br />About the comments, that quote by Katherine Hepburn does not sound, to me, like the words of anybody ahead of her time. The quote, to me, points to a temporal (as in time-related) maladjustment. But that's just little me.<br /><br />But, Mrs. A, great post on the power of temptation. Great post, by Mrs A. Do you have a blog?

About the comments, that quote by Katherine Hepburn does not sound, to me, like the words of anybody ahead of her time. The quote, to me, points to a temporal (as in time-related) maladjustment. But that’s just little me.

But, Mrs. A, great post on the power of temptation.

]]> By: womenquestions http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-676 womenquestions Thu, 14 May 2009 17:40:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-676 Truly, the temptation is always there and I have come to believe that, hey u know what, I am going to have to allow my poor self to be loved and be made love to. (I in my mid twenties and still a virgin though)Soon to be married, but I am going straight ahead to enjoy it with him before our marriage.<br /><br />The thing is that, well I am glad I abstained all this while but probably if I knew about the genuineness of my boyfriend way back, then I would have slept with him. but even now, well anything can still happen and that's why after such a long time of waiting I am thinking 'enough is enough'. Truly, the temptation is always there and I have come to believe that, hey u know what, I am going to have to allow my poor self to be loved and be made love to. (I in my mid twenties and still a virgin though)Soon to be married, but I am going straight ahead to enjoy it with him before our marriage.

The thing is that, well I am glad I abstained all this while but probably if I knew about the genuineness of my boyfriend way back, then I would have slept with him. but even now, well anything can still happen and that’s why after such a long time of waiting I am thinking ‘enough is enough’.

]]> By: Kajsa Hallberg Adu http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-675 Kajsa Hallberg Adu Thu, 14 May 2009 16:52:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-675 Thanks for an interesting post.<br /><br />But isn't life too short to deny yourself sex? Can't clarity coexist with the occational sleep-over?<br /><br />@BrownAangel Interesting Hepburn-quote. Is that all marriage is? Thanks for an interesting post.

But isn’t life too short to deny yourself sex? Can’t clarity coexist with the occational sleep-over?

@BrownAangel Interesting Hepburn-quote. Is that all marriage is?

]]> By: BrownAangel http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-673 BrownAangel Thu, 14 May 2009 13:20:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-673 hmmm temptation is roving looking to trap you, engulf you and then consume you unless... Unless you ignore temptation and discover temptation 2 and 3 and 4 and 5. <br /><br />That way you can pit the temptations at each other, remain celibate and enjoy the affections of the tempters.<br /><br />Katherine Hepburn (A woman ahead of her time) said "If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married"..<br /><br />Best way to remain celibate, have multiple admirers whom you flirt with. hmmm temptation is roving looking to trap you, engulf you and then consume you unless… Unless you ignore temptation and discover temptation 2 and 3 and 4 and 5.

That way you can pit the temptations at each other, remain celibate and enjoy the affections of the tempters.

Katherine Hepburn (A woman ahead of her time) said “If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married”..

Best way to remain celibate, have multiple admirers whom you flirt with.

]]> By: Nana http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-672 Nana Thu, 14 May 2009 11:21:00 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/2009/05/14/guest-contributor-ms-a-on-celibacy-temptation-and-sex.html#comment-672 Ms A, This is a fantastic post which in a new way continues the conversations on this blog about the pros and cons of abstinence/celibacy.<br /><br />There is a part of me that wants to say "give in to Temptation" and there is another part that thinks "hold on to your celibacy goal". The advantage with the latter is that you would have proven to yourself that you are not fickle and when you make a goal you stick to it. Okay, I have convinced myself, stick to your goal<br /><br />Many thanks for your contribution<br />Nana Darkoa Ms A, This is a fantastic post which in a new way continues the conversations on this blog about the pros and cons of abstinence/celibacy.

There is a part of me that wants to say “give in to Temptation” and there is another part that thinks “hold on to your celibacy goal”. The advantage with the latter is that you would have proven to yourself that you are not fickle and when you make a goal you stick to it. Okay, I have convinced myself, stick to your goal

Many thanks for your contribution
Nana Darkoa

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