I believe the word virgin applies to ladies only.

I believe the man in your post did the right thing. Not fancying you that much is besides the point. Do men sleep with ladies because they fancy them?

..let me not get too deep into the following subject matter, but the problem with race (in the US) is that people have learned to keep their thoughts to themselves. Since it’s not spoken, they continue with their beliefs because there is no discussion with people from different perspectives.

That being said, it’s important to know what everyone thinks. And I know that no one in here intended to offend…so no worries on that end.

Nana Yaw- I get what you are saying. But I actually do think what was said is a personal opinion. We can’t actually measure whether all men perceive virgin women in this manner, so we can’t conclude it to be a fact.

Sorry to seem like I was breathing fire. LOL I guess I’m just sensitive about how women are perceived by men. I’m really a friendly person.

But the bottom line: This is an open forum. By all means, voice your thoughts. But that doesn’t mean that people will agree with you. Besides, if we all agreed, it’d be kinda boring, eh?

@Awansona – I laughed so hard when I read your comment. I appreciate the candour. I also like that you want to marry an “experienced woman”.

@Esi – Thanks so much for the great definition. In fact I did not even know “born again virgins” were so for religious reasons but that makes total sense. I also agree with your feedback to Awansona and was especially pleased that he agreed with you

@Awansona – Thanks for taking feedback so well and doing your best to be responsible. I shall definitely do a post on “friends with benefits” aka f**k buddies

@PenPowder – Thanks for sharing your viewpoint. I am very much aware it has not gone down well with everybody but if we cannot speak openly and honestly in cyberspace then where can we share?

@Lovelylind – you present a great perspective that to be honest I hadn’t thought of initially. True, some virgins make a conscious decison to commence sexual relations. You made me reflect and recall that I made such a choice in the past.

@Abena – Hmmm, a memory book for your girls is a great idea. Personally I did not feel offended by PenPowder and Awansona’s comments. I thought they were merely being candid and sharing their views. However, I can appreciate that the assumptions made about virgins/women’s attachment or not to men with whom they have sex can cause offence.

@PenPowder – Personally, I do not think you meant to offend anyone. I would like you to continue sharing your views. On the other hand, it’s also good to get feedback when your views offend people albeit unintentionally.

@Nana Yaw – I think its great that everybody expresses their opinions. I am sure Pen Powder appreciates your support

Wow! I had no idea this subject was going to be so controversial. Love it! Thanks for the feedback all

-Nana DK

At the same time, I’m grateful for Pen powder’s views. I plan to print bot his and Awansona’s responses to this post and place them in my girls’ memory books so that they can see FIRST HAND how some men regard women in the area of virginity and sexual intellect. They are 2 and 4 yrs old now, but I doubt the minds of men will change much in the next 12-18 years when they have the potential to become sexually active. Someone wise once said: I can show you better than I can tell you. And as for today dieeeh, these men have shown me papa!

And then to associate all of this “baggage” with rape?? This in itself can be another rant entirely.

This leaves no room for the thought that some women could actually be eager to lose their virginity. It leaves no room for the idea that even if a woman might regret losing her virginity, she won’t go into ultimate hysterics because of it. It leaves no room for the thought that some women actually can have sex with no strings attached.

As for me, I agree with Esi’s definition of “born again virgin.” However, I never really associated it with religion as much as I thought of it as maintaining celibacy until…you feel like it. But Esi’s definition is most likely more accurate.

I actually thought men who didn’t want to mess with virgins did so because of the lack of sexual experience.

I don’t know if I agree with the idea of “types” of virginity. And quite frankly, I don’t think I completely understand why a woman would do anal sex just to say that she’s still a (vaginal) virgin. lol It’s just a ridiculous thought to me (perhaps because I perceive it to be WAY more painful than initial vaginal intercourse).