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Good Sex Tips

So, I’m chatting with a group of girlfriends and I ask them to share some “Good Sex Tips”. Here is some of what they shared:

• The orgasm you get from anal sex is mind blowing – Hmmm, if you have read every post on this blog you know my position on anal but despite my personal bias I have to include this tip. This is what I was told – there is a spot/gland in the anus and if that spot is hit – wow, the orgasm is mind blowing. It is important with anal sex that the man’s penis is not too big, that he knows how to use his penis, and that there is lots and lots and lots of lubrication.

• Film yourself having sex and keep the video afterwards – It’s important when filming yourself that you’re comfortable with your body. There is no point filming yourself only to start criticising your body when you watch the video. Hmm, so perhaps this is not one for the overly self-conscious.

• Watch yourself in the mirror when you have sex. This works for the same reason as filming yourself does, you get to see yourself in action which can be incredibly erotic

• Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay – Does anything more need to be said? Yes, foreplay can/should be the main play

• Be adventurous and try different positions

Okay that’s all I (and a friend I emailed to remind me of the tips) could remember. What can I say? Blame copious amounts of wine and too much laughter whilst talking about good sex tips.

Any tips of your own to share?

Posted on November 1, 2009. by Nana Darkoa.
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There are 21 comments to this post.

Nov 2, 2009
1:20 am

Sankofa has this to say,

Kegels, kegels, and more kegels. Adds a whole new dimension/

Nov 2, 2009
5:33 am

Kofi Ametewee has this to say,

I’ve known about the the anal sex orgasm for the last five years. A bawdy woman I was once friends with used to say that it was common knowledge and much desired among her set of friends. She went on to tell me that she had such wild O’s that she was afraid to let just any random person in there, lest she became attached to the man. In her reckoning, getting fucked in the vagina was an emotionally safer, less addictive phenomenon. Unfortunately, I was restricted to the latter pursuit, so have no direct knowledge on this issue.

My sex tip? Invite guys to these discussions. Everyone will get hotter, their partners will benefit.

Nov 2, 2009
6:49 am

Nii Ayi has this to say,

Anal sex sucks, why are you trying to make it desirable? You might as well promote gayism… The ass was not meant for sex guys. Sex is good nobody can deny it, but to promote sin I think is very wrong…

Nov 2, 2009
10:38 am

Nana Darkoa has this to say,

@Sankofa – Yes! That was one of the tips given – I had completely forgotten. The suggestion was to do it whilst your partner was inside you or (and) to do it after he had orgasmed and was still inside you

@Kofi – Hmmm, as for me this was news to me! All that comes to mind when I think of anal is PAIN but clearly it works for some

@Nii Ayi – Re: Anal Sex sucks – Oh, are you speaking from personal experience? Just for the record I am fully in support of rights for gay people. I think you should leave it down to individuals to decide how they live their lives – surely none of us is in a position to pass judgement on others…isn’t there something about “Who is without sin should cast the first stone”. Personally, I would rather not cast stones

Nov 3, 2009
12:12 am

Shane has this to say,

@ nii ayi – “gayism”? wow… i found you comment wrong on so many levels. as i’ve said elsewhere on this blog, homosexuality is a valid sexual orientation and not some perversion. it’s clear from the comments here that many heterosexuals also enjoy anal sex immensely. sexuality is not simply defined by where one sticks one’s dick so to have anal sex does not make one gay (not that there would be anything wrong with that).

from a biblical perspective, re: “promoting sin” – you can’t pick and choose your sins. unless you can claim that you are/were a virgin until marriage, you are just as guilty of “sin” as a person involved in same-sex sexual relations. “gayism” is not more wrong than fornication.

Nov 3, 2009
5:14 pm

Nana Kofi has this to say,

Kegel excercise is also very good for men; and actually very easy to do. I was shocked to find out not that many people know men can do it too. Here is a good link to how to do it and what the benefits are:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

Nov 3, 2009
8:35 pm

Sankofa has this to say,

I agree with Shane in that you can’t pick and choose sin. No sin is bigger than the other so since I’m not Jesus and therefore not perfect, I choose not to judge other people and keep my mouth shut!

Nov 3, 2009
11:34 pm

Nish has this to say,

I had a girl once who was very much into anal, I tried it a few times, but found the whole situation too unnerving. I am not homophobic but the idea of enjoying her from “behind” gave me cause for concern.
Now, I kind of wish i had had the balls to go the whole way, all i remember is how uncomfortable i felt, nothing about if i really enjoyed it or not…

The film/ mirror is a definite turn-on. Its a voyeurist( not sure if its a word) type thing…a definite must do.

In my personal opinion good sex has always been about the chemistry. That comfort makes foreplay so much more fun and playful, which makes the experience a whole lot more fun. Oh and a whole lot of laughter, silly games and fooling around somehow gets me up everytime!!!

Nov 3, 2009
11:38 pm

Nana Darkoa has this to say,

@Nana Kofi – Ei! I had no idea men could also do kegels. Thanks for providing the link – I have already checked it out.

@Nish – I think being comfortable with whatever sexual activity you participate in is very important. If you don’t feel comfortable you just shouldn’t do it…my two pesewas worth. Yes please to Laughter, Silly Games and Fun

Nov 4, 2009
6:18 pm

Nii Ayi has this to say,

am shocked!

Nov 4, 2009
8:06 pm

Nii Ayi has this to say,

I am not saying am righteous, am only saying don’t make sin desirable… If i were a pastor, I would have lost all of you cos I am preaching the truth. I don’t even go to church…

Come to think of it lets debate this. Will any of you stick a dick in ya ear cos you think dats where ya get ya O? or ya nose, come on give me a break. I am a sinner but I won’t make sin desirable…

Nov 4, 2009
8:09 pm

Nii Ayi has this to say,

I won’t be suprised to read how having sex with a dog or a horse gives alot of O’s the next time.

Nov 5, 2009
12:18 am

Nana has this to say,

Its apparent that our savior, Nii Ayi is irrelevant in this conversation so lets move on.

@Nana Kofi
I am going to read this right away and start practicing. After watching celebrity sex addiction, there is a good chance that I have a problem but a very good one.
Personally, the best turn on is my girl being totally out of control, filthy, raunchy and unpredictable in bed.

Nov 5, 2009
9:25 am

Mystery has this to say,

Think about this… she lying flat on her tummy and putting a pillow at her abdomen then you hit from behind… hmmmm!!! whiles in the act, be whispering dirty stuffs and compliment the receiver… You could have a shower together after this and if the pressure is like 3 bar, you can raise her and let her sit on it whiles the water flows on both of you… instead of wiping yourself with a towel let the tongue do it… lol…

Nov 6, 2009
2:34 am

Maameous has this to say,

hmm anal. hmm.
oh charlie!
masEm aka mitri mu
but basically i say we only live once.
if it sounds like it might be fun, it probably is.
but risk of contracting diseases from anal sex is even higher than vaginal sex
so if u decide to try the sex or the licking, use some condoms, lots of lube and a dental dam

Nov 6, 2009
2:35 am

Maameous has this to say,

oh and i’m a gay ally
and God loves me too

Nov 6, 2009
1:42 pm

Nii Ayi has this to say,

What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others. –Pericles

Nov 6, 2009
2:29 pm

Sankofa has this to say,

Oh ho Nii! Enough! If you don’t like the conversation, feel free to click the “x” on the upper right-hand corner. It’s not that deep.

Nov 6, 2009
3:25 pm

Nsoromma has this to say,

I feel truly saddened that NII AYI is on here casting stones, having sexual preferences is fine. If yours in not anal, FINE. But to say one type of sex is sinful but another not? NOT FINE. Plus the topic is SEX TIPS, u no have? Chale move on mehn! Plus, please what’s kegels people?

Nov 6, 2009
10:37 pm

Nana Darkoa has this to say,

Hahahahah, sankofa and Nsoromma you are making me laugh with your last comments. @Nii Ayi – I agree with Nsoromma, please share some of your Good Sex Tips with us. We all know you do not like anal so do share what you do like

Dec 2, 2009
6:59 pm

izness has this to say,

long deep kissing while have a slow, tight wet and comfortable screw…pretty high up there on my good sex tips.

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