Comments on: Sex Advice for Couples about to Get Married http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more... Sat, 19 May 2012 23:44:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: ely http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2068 ely Wed, 28 Jul 2010 18:54:59 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2068 The Joy FM guy I wont be surprised fantasises about these "perversion" all the time. Hypocite.Even in a relationship, we do need this reminders from time to time...the sex at times gets boring. The Joy FM guy I wont be surprised fantasises about these “perversion” all the time. Hypocite.Even in a relationship, we do need this reminders from time to time…the sex at times gets boring.

]]> By: Myne Whitman http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2066 Myne Whitman Wed, 28 Jul 2010 00:02:44 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2066 Great article, just want to add. Plan to have lots of sex too. Great article, just want to add. Plan to have lots of sex too.

]]> By: Nana Darkoa http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2031 Nana Darkoa Sun, 18 Jul 2010 12:44:35 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2031 @Dede - The crux of my comment on men's exotic nightwear - or the lack of it - is that somehow men are not portrayed as needing to do much to attract women sexually whereas the emphasis is on women to try hard to be sexual - loose weight, wear sexy nightwear, etc...or maybe its 'the commercialisation of sex'...hmm, that sounds like a good blog topic @ Mike - Thanks for the compliments. Sometimes I am reluctant to go on air to talk about sex. A small part of me doesn't want to be boxed into a 'sexpert' box and is just happy to be online but i acknowledge that speaking up on air is important too @ Omanba - The whole expensive wedding thing i don't get too...thanks for the comment @ Ewiase - Aren't these laws part of the colonial laws we inherited from the British? I wonder how more diverse/open our laws will be if we re-write them @Dede – The crux of my comment on men’s exotic nightwear – or the lack of it – is that somehow men are not portrayed as needing to do much to attract women sexually whereas the emphasis is on women to try hard to be sexual – loose weight, wear sexy nightwear, etc…or maybe its ‘the commercialisation of sex’…hmm, that sounds like a good blog topic

@ Mike – Thanks for the compliments. Sometimes I am reluctant to go on air to talk about sex. A small part of me doesn’t want to be boxed into a ‘sexpert’ box and is just happy to be online but i acknowledge that speaking up on air is important too

@ Omanba – The whole expensive wedding thing i don’t get too…thanks for the comment

@ Ewiase – Aren’t these laws part of the colonial laws we inherited from the British? I wonder how more diverse/open our laws will be if we re-write them

]]> By: Golda Addo http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2029 Golda Addo Tue, 13 Jul 2010 08:36:25 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2029 Kofi Ametewee: The first time I was asked, it was couched in somewhat polite terms, and done with a lot of s3bi-s3bi. I was very taken aback, so told him off. But after a few quite, uncomfortable moments, I realised how defensive that action was, and decided to take a stand, not just to declare the notion wrong, but also to stand up for young, single mothers who might be in my situation (of being prejudged). So I told him to go read, or talk to any medical doctor, and come back to me ... then I'll tell him. The very few other times I was asked, I told them it was the wrong notion, and also told them to ask any medical doctor colleagues about the issue. I always found it discomforting those few times. Who wouldn't be? There was only one idiot who actually asked rudely, the pussy version ... and he got what was coming to him. Kofi Ametewee: The first time I was asked, it was couched in somewhat polite terms, and done with a lot of s3bi-s3bi. I was very taken aback, so told him off.

But after a few quite, uncomfortable moments, I realised how defensive that action was, and decided to take a stand, not just to declare the notion wrong, but also to stand up for young, single mothers who might be in my situation (of being prejudged).
So I told him to go read, or talk to any medical doctor, and come back to me … then I’ll tell him.

The very few other times I was asked, I told them it was the wrong notion, and also told them to ask any medical doctor colleagues about the issue.
I always found it discomforting those few times. Who wouldn’t be?

There was only one idiot who actually asked rudely, the pussy version … and he got what was coming to him.

]]> By: Kofi Ametewee http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2028 Kofi Ametewee Sun, 11 Jul 2010 10:00:35 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2028 Yep, Ewiase, we are living in a dream world in more ways than one. @Golda: I wonder what your response is when you're asked that question about your "pussy." Do you take umbrage? Do you consider it a mischievous question? Do you humor the questioner? I find it rather bold and disquieting that the question is asked at all... Yep, Ewiase, we are living in a dream world in more ways than one.

@Golda: I wonder what your response is when you’re asked that question about your “pussy.” Do you take umbrage? Do you consider it a mischievous question? Do you humor the questioner?

I find it rather bold and disquieting that the question is asked at all…

]]> By: Ewiase http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2027 Ewiase Sat, 10 Jul 2010 21:53:12 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2027 i think u should take a look at this "Couples or any other consenting adults who have sex through any other 'route' other than through the vagina are flouting the laws of Ghana. This was revealed by a lawyer and criminologist, Prof. Ken Attafuah, in an interview on Joy FM's Super Morning Show on Thursday." http://www.ghanaweb.com/GhanaHomePage/NewsArchive/artikel.php?ID=185838 never knew Ghana is living in a dream world. i think u should take a look at this “Couples or any other consenting adults who have sex through any other ‘route’ other than through the vagina are flouting the laws of Ghana.

This was revealed by a lawyer and criminologist, Prof. Ken Attafuah, in an interview on Joy FM’s Super Morning Show on Thursday.”

http://www.ghanaweb.com/GhanaHomePage/NewsArchive/artikel.php?ID=185838

never knew Ghana is living in a dream world.

]]> By: Omanba Forum http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2024 Omanba Forum Fri, 09 Jul 2010 13:58:40 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2024 It's about time people recognized traditional marriages as an equally viable and legally-binding form of marriage that would also allow us to do away with the excessive expenditure and pageantry associated with Western-style weddings. In my view it makes most marriages start off on a stressful note. Just my two cents! More at omanbaforum (google us!) It’s about time people recognized traditional marriages as an equally viable and legally-binding form of marriage that would also allow us to do away with the excessive expenditure and pageantry associated with Western-style weddings. In my view it makes most marriages start off on a stressful note. Just my two cents!

More at omanbaforum (google us!)

]]> By: Mike http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2022 Mike Thu, 08 Jul 2010 15:08:35 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2022 Thank you very much Dede!!! My advice to any couple is: Talk to Dede. Show me a man that gets more sex than he can handle from his wife, and I'll show you a woman who's husband works hard to never let her down. Regarding the the pastor's comments. All is not lost yet. I'm proud of you Nana D for accepting invitations to go on air. Keep doing what you do. Thank you very much Dede!!!
My advice to any couple is: Talk to Dede.

Show me a man that gets more sex than he can handle from his wife, and I’ll show you a woman who’s husband works hard to never let her down.

Regarding the the pastor’s comments. All is not lost yet. I’m proud of you Nana D for accepting invitations to go on air. Keep doing what you do.

]]> By: Dede http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2021 Dede Thu, 08 Jul 2010 08:48:09 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2021 Well, his aren't tattered but you have to agree that they don't have much variety when it comes to 'exotic night wear'. LOL. I sometimes fail to take off these tattered nighties during the day on weekends. ... A lot of us are guilty of that; we stop making the effort Well, his aren’t tattered but you have to agree that they don’t have much variety when it comes to ‘exotic night wear’. LOL.
I sometimes fail to take off these tattered nighties during the day on weekends. … A lot of us are guilty of that; we stop making the effort

]]> By: Nana Darkoa http://adventuresfrom.com/2010/07/05/sex-advice-for-couples-about-to-get-married.html#comment-2019 Nana Darkoa Wed, 07 Jul 2010 17:45:39 +0000 http://adventuresfrom.com/?p=510#comment-2019 @Nana Yaw - Hahahah - maybe he has tried it ooo @Joliea - :) Thank you @Golda - Na waa oooo. Hmmm, I was actually broody a few weeks ago ooooo but the 'broodyness' has gone now. I shall blog about the 'pregnancy scare' as soon as I get some downtime :) @Dede - Very useful tips, thanks for sharing and THROW out those tattered nighties - for your own sake not so much hubby's. Out of curiosity does he make an effort in terms of what he wears to bed? @Dede - I couldn't agree more! @Kofi - You super sleuth, you! @Kyutipye - Yay!!!!Let me know how the dirty weekend goes :) @Novisi - Ermmm, ok, thanks for commenting :) @Nana Yaw – Hahahah – maybe he has tried it ooo

@Joliea – :) Thank you

@Golda – Na waa oooo. Hmmm, I was actually broody a few weeks ago ooooo but the ‘broodyness’ has gone now. I shall blog about the ‘pregnancy scare’ as soon as I get some downtime :)

@Dede – Very useful tips, thanks for sharing and THROW out those tattered nighties – for your own sake not so much hubby’s. Out of curiosity does he make an effort in terms of what he wears to bed?

@Dede – I couldn’t agree more!

@Kofi – You super sleuth, you!

@Kyutipye – Yay!!!!Let me know how the dirty weekend goes :)

@Novisi – Ermmm, ok, thanks for commenting :)

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