Pink Pussycats, Simultaneous Orgasms and Female Ejaculation

Yesterday my girlfriend and I were walking past ‘The Pink Pussycat” in the Village (New York) when she asked if I wanted to pop in:

“Sure, I’m supposed to do a review of a sex shop in every city I visit, and I’m yet to write up my review of Babeland from my last trip to NYC”

So in we went, and soon got engaged in conversation with the very knowledgeable sales woman on female ejaculation and the best vibrators for stimulating your g spot. I soon remembered that one of my friends had asked me to buy her the Kama Sutra on CD (which I had been unsuccessful at finding) so asked Raven (the saleswoman) for a recommendation on some instructional DVDs. She recommended two that I ended up buying (I’m such an easy person to sell to!):

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Simultaneous Orgasms

And

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Female Ejaculation

I reckon the first would be a suitable gift for my friend who wanted the Kama Sutra and the second? Well I’m curious innit ?

Later on that evening my friend and I decided to preview Nina Hartley’s Guide to Simultaneous Orgasms. So how do you achieve simultaneous orgasm with your partner? The central point appears to be that one party (the party that reaches orgasm faster – in most cases the man) needs to slow down (or somehow control his orgasm) to enable his (her) partner get closer to climax so they can ‘come’ simultaneously. In many ways simultaneous orgasm seems to be the holy grail of sex that I for one have never achieved. Normally I’m happy enough to ‘come’ first and then my partner…what are your experiences? Do you prefer to come first? Do you prefer for your partner to come first? I suspect that in most heterosexual relationships women would prefer to come first but in lesbian relationships it doesn’t matter who comes first? Am I wrong?

I liked many aspects of Nina’s Guide. I liked that it was instructive and not pornographic – at least it didn’t strike me as pornographic so I was able to watch the video with a platonic friend and discuss dispassionately the merits and demerits of threesomes, using vibes during intercourse and how real the sex appeared. One of the couples in the video for example was a ‘real life’ couple, you could tell from the flushes and changes in skin colour of the couples that the orgasms were real and not faked.

We wondered why Raven hadn’t given us any ‘Black’ instructional videos but came to the sad conclusion that there probably weren’t any quality Black instructional videos (at least stocked by them) and discussed how disappointing the black porn we had seen were. Is anyone aware of any good quality black porn? Is the idea of good porn a contradiction in terms? What are your thoughts on porn?