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What turns me on…

A few of my favourite non-sexual turn on’s:

* Massages – Does anyone need to ask why? I don’t even know if massages qualify as non-sexual ‘cos they are just so darn sexy. Sometimes you even find yourself getting turned on when you absolutely do not want to be turned on. One day I shall blog about this massage I had in Turkey. I swear the masseuse was aiming for a happy ending…the worst bit was he was so replusive but my body didn’t think so. Anyway moving right along to…

* Chocolate – This is almost too cliche but good chocolate is o so hot! Chocolate gateaux, Green & Blacks organic chocolate, Golden Tree Chocolate, Chocolate ice-cream, Cadbury’s Fruit & Nut…chocolate does it for me almost every time

* Intelligence – What a turn on! There is something just so sexy about smart people. Genuinely clever people who are knowledgeable and interesting to talk to. The kind of person who can introduce me to new tools like digital applications that make my work easier or give me critical and honest feedback on my work. Smart people make me think ‘Oh I can so have a baby with you’ (and if you read this blog regularly you will know what an achievement that is).

* Creatives – People who can sing, rhyme, dance, sculpt, write…I am totally jealous of creative people. There is this energy around creative that I just love. No wonder groupies exist.

* Beach weekends away – I love the ocean! My dream is to own a beach house. There is something about days away with virtually nothing but the ocean for company that brings out the naughtiness in me. Skinny dipping anyone?

What are your favourite non sexual turn ons?

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Published on: 24 January 2011 by in General Issues

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20 Comments
  1. Mike says:

    accents and speaking foreign languages- not all, but the familiar can be a bit tiresome, even if it’s safe and comfortable. also the simple act of talking.. if we can have a simple meal w/ some delicious wine and still be talking after 2-3 hours, you’ve really got me 😉

  2. Akoria says:

    Chicks in 4x4s that’s an absolute turn on for me a girl in a huge car just says I’m thumping my nose at y’all for thinking its a man’s world, foreign accents oooo I love ze fwrench and ze german accents, intelligence I think this is self explanatory, uniorms of authourity and power I guess in spite of my ‘hardcoreness’ I have a sub conscious need to be dominated. lol

  3. RANV says:

    Intelligence…
    The ocean……..sea breezes are a real turn on!! LOL

  4. Kwegyirba says:

    Intelligence, Intelligence, Intelligence. How many times did I say that?
    Good smell…
    Cultured manners…

  5. Shane says:

    self-confidence (not to be confused with cockiness) and beautiful fingers… ditto on massages, creativity and smelling good

  6. Nina says:

    Ditto on all that deep stuff above, but I have to add, bow legs and gap-tooth; those also get my juices going.

  7. Ob Abenser says:

    a good sense of humour, intelligent conversations and long (non weav-on) hair

  8. Nana Darkoa says:

    @Mike – I’m so with you on talking! People you can have really good, mentally stimulating conversations with sometimes have the ability to stimulate other parts

    @Akoria – I so wanna drive a 4 x4 and if that will up my sexual appeal too then darn it I need to do it soon 🙂

    @Ranv – Ditto!

    @Kwegyirba – I’ve missed you! You’ve been MIA pa pa. Have you been lurking? Welcome back to the world of comments 🙂 Intelligence is so unbelievably sexy. Nowadays even geeks are sexy. All that intelligence and ability to be the next Zuckerberg? Mmmm

    @Shane – Ermm, beautiful fingers? Hmmm, actually beautiful fingers are important. That earns you another ditto

    @Nina – Bow legs? Really? Seriously? Okay I can’t ditto this straightaway. You’ve got to tell me more but I guess desire cannot always be the same for all of us so hmmm interesting one there 🙂

    @Ob – Eugh! I hate weave-ons. Definitely a ditto there

  9. Kwegyirba says:

    Nana, I’ve been around. Been reading regularly but commenting ‘in my head’! Hehehe… Yeah, geeks are sexy because they are so unpredictable, aren’t they? 🙂

  10. Akoria says:

    @ Nana you may borrow my 4×4 from time to time till you get yours.
    @ Shane I’m a writer who’s got beautiful fingers do you wanna come eat some chocolate off them? wink wink lol

  11. Shane says:

    @Akoria – I’m sold! You had me at ‘eat’… 😉

  12. Mike says:

    Women working it makes me melt.
    I have a hard time watching female attorneys argue & win cases. I’ll be in love before the judge bangs that gavel. (Alicia Florrick; Holla!!)
    Busy nurses in ERs. That’s another. If only all cute nurses in the world would be required to wear those cute green uniforms nurses in Ghana wear. They are angels in those little dresses.

  13. Akoria says:

    @ Shane I love easy you are. lol. we should hook up indeed
    @ Nana will you arrange it please
    @ Mike you wouldn’t happen to be one of those guys who pretend to be ill all the time so the can hang out in hospitals ogling the nurses would you? But ditto on the female nurses arguing out cases sometime I get the visual of them both shrugging off their suits and getting in on right there before everyone. Killer movie if the judge is a woman too. lol.

  14. Akoria says:

    @ Shane I love how easy you are. lol. we should hook up indeed
    @ Nana will you arrange it please
    @ Mike you wouldn’t happen to be one of those guys who pretend to be ill all the time so the can hang out in hospitals ogling the nurses would you? But ditto on the female nurses arguing out cases sometime I get the visual of them both shrugging off their suits and getting in on right there before everyone. Killer movie if the judge is a woman too. lol.

  15. Sankofa says:

    Amen amen and amen on your last three turn-ons. I absolutely adore intelligent people and creatives because I always feel as though I can learn something from them and that, to me, is sexy.

  16. Nsoromma says:

    I’m so with everyone else on the intelligence thing…

    A guy who I can just TALK to, for hours…I think this is why creatives do well in turning people on, they can be so interesting. If they aint, they’re fake creatives!

    A totally self-assured (not arrogant) guy, wins me over 9/10. Cuz it’s usually mixed with my first two points…it just draws me in even when I fight it. I dunno, people like that are magnetic.

    I think I like the silent, mystery, broody guys, who are perfectly polite without being over-friendly and barely say two words…then when you give up on trying to engage in conversation cuz they are too much like hard work, they dazzle you with an amazing smile and a full set of beautiful white teeth…SOLD!

  17. Adoley says:

    A self-confident guy who I can have endless conversations with is such a huge turn-on for me. If he smells really good…I think I might eat him up before the end of the conversation…Intelligence always does the trick!

  18. anon says:

    looks like intelligence is winning here as a turn on for girls so I’m wondering what turns guys on?

  19. Akoria says:

    Shane, I believe my beautiful fingers are still waiting for you to come eat the chocolate off them. wink wink get in touch will you.

  20. African Mami says:

    Swag….pure swag!!!! Oooooooooooooooooowwww give it to me babbbbbby.

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