I had some really interesting comments in response to my post on “Dating a Sexuality Blogger”. Even though the post was uploaded on 9th May, 2009 I still occasionally get a comment about it. In part, this is because of how Word Press enables me to show the most popular posts.
A fairly new (but we have quickly become close) friend responded to this post. I started to respond in the comments field but my comment was becoming so long that I thought I would make it a full post and an open response.
Nana Kofi – Wow! Charle, the compliments!!! How nice that you see me in such a rosy light On a …

So, I was hanging out at Aylos Bay, Akosombo, Ghana yesterday and saw this “art” outside the men’s room…I did hunt around in vain for one for the women but to no avail…
Isn’t the depiction of the African man “hang like a horse” a myth with almost, if not explicit, racist connotations?
Your thoughts

So, I’m hanging out with the amazing professional photographer Nana Kofi Acquah when I see a young man wearing a T shirt which says “Eat Pussy”. For a moment I am stunned – all sorts of thoughts are running through my mind and I do not react as he strides past me with his group of friends. Then I suddenly think this will be a great photo for the blog so I run after him and ask if he is willing to pose for a picture…
So men, this is a message from one of your own, “Eat Pussy”
I am feeling inspired to now write a post on “How to eat pussy”…soon to follow.
Photo credit: …

 
Lasy year I attended the International Aids Conference in Mexico and in my delegates bag were some female condoms. I was so excited! This was the first time that anyone had given me female condoms. Some of the exhibitors were also giving away female condoms. So, I stocked up. I had good intentions. I thought I would come home, practice how to use them and then use them…but somehow it never happenned, and they have stayed in my bag of toys.
It’s a shame. I will be the first one to agitate for more female controlled contraceptives and my FC’s sit in my drawer. The reasons why? Several, including:

At the time I acquired the FC’s my buddy …

One of my friends met a guy on a flight from New York to Accra, they were sitting next to each other on the flight and the conversation flowed easily. On their return to their respective towns in Ghana they kept in touch, phonecalls, text messages, emails…the conversations started to heat up though…erotic emails and sexy texts.
Yesterday they arranged to meet up for drinks and late last night I got this text:
“ I thk de build up 2 de main event was 2 hyped. Erotic txts nd emails whch kind of gve me great xpctatns of unsurpasable erotic pleasure. But the reality was very ordinary.” 
I don’t know about you but I can definitely identify with my friend. There …

I have never forgotten a funny mis-adventure an ex potential lover told me about and everytime I remember the story it gives me a laugh. So he was getting down doggy style with a girl and she farted. Not once, not twice but three times…I suspect farting in bed is one of the most common mis-adventures. Do check out Abena’s post on her grandfather’s unique foreplay.
Not all sex mis-adventures are funny though. I recall my first lover, there was one time when he pulled out and went into a panic…”what is this” he said. “What is what” I responded as he looked down in shock at his penis. He picked up a towel and wiped himself off, …

In a previous post I blogged about my desire to start the “Sex Interviews“. The way I see it, the sex interviews will ask everyday people (including the readers of this blog) a variety of sex related questions. BrownAngel and Kofi think the Kinsey Report is a good format to follow…my thoughts? Wow, that will only happen if I decide to do a PhD in Sexology or some related field. My current thought is to administer a questionnaire via Survey Monkey and also face to face. Kwegyirba has already agreed to conduct interviews with sex workers which I am thrilled about. Below are a list of my suggested questions for the Sex Interviews.

What gender are …

I have written a guest contribution for Female2Female on the subject “Learning to have good sex”…you can check it out at here
Feel free to leave a comment here too

Look what Ms Cleland and I found at the “African market” in Osu yesterday…

My mother always told me that douching was not necessary. And she was even against my use of tampons because she didn’t like me “introducing” things into my sensitive parts. (But I still did!) So I pretty much assumed all women knew that douching was old fashioned, unnecessary and maybe even harmful until I saw a douche set in my friend’s bathroom.  Apparently, more African women douche than any other race. Why? Go figure. So I read more about douching and I would like to share some myths about it.
Why Women Use Vaginal Douches:

To rinse away any remaining menstrual blood at the end of the monthly period.
Some women douche following sexual intercourse to avoid pregnancy …