Sometime last year, some of you may recall that Nana and I took an excursion to look for sex toys while she was here in Atlanta. In that time, she made it clear that she did not care for ‘coital enhancing’ lotions and creams…she was more interested in battery operated hardware. Previous to that moment, I had not given much thought to what a woman’s possible aversion to body smears could be. A few nights ago, I found out what one of those causes may be.
I’ll come right out and say. For the past couple of weeks I’ve been a little parched in the panties. No magic tricks my husband has pulled out of his …

You know you’ve all said it, over drinks with the girls or in your head with a self-righteous sneer and sidelong glance at the offending tramp… “As for that girl!” You know who I’m talking about, that girl, the one sucking face with an almost-stranger on the dancefloor; the one who cheats on her sweet boyfriend; the one who kisses girls when she’s drunk (and sober); the one who slept with a married man; the one who had a threesome; the one whose friends call “a freak” and non-friends, “a slut”.
“Slut”. A word so imbued with near-corporeal potency, it might as well be a slap in the face. “Slut”. Sure, it’s plosive, harsh, offensive to …

A friend’s writing a research paper on Ghanaian Dating & Sex Culture. I would be much obliged if you could help her by answering the questions below:
1. Name (Optional: If you don’t want me using your name):
2. Age:
3. Gender:
4. Nationality:
5. Countries where you’ve lived? How long?
6. What city are you in right now?
7. Can you describe what it’s like dating in Ghana?
8. Where do young men and women go out on dates? Why?
9. What is expected of a good woman? Bad woman?
10. What is expected of a good man? Bad man?
11. How does society expect men and women to behave in a relationship?
12. What happens if those expectations are not met?
13. If a young woman is interested in a guy, what should she do?
14. How important is money in …

The blog has been sooooo quiet for days – or more like weeks. Apologies, I have been too busy with my numerous projects although ‘Adventures’ remains very close to my heart.
There are a couple of posts i intend to write including my review of Babeland, a New York sex shop i visited a few weeks ago. In January i did a nude photo shoot with my dear friend and the very talented photographer Nana Kofi Acquah and I have been debating whether i should upload one of the pictures with a write up on body confidence (something i do not always have), as well as the reasons why i did the shoot. However …

At the last Association of Women in Development (AWID) event held in Cape Town, South Africa, I met a photographer called Zanele Muholi. Zanele stood out for me because on one of the occasions we chatted, she was wearing a ‘housemaid’s’ uniform in solidarity with domestic workers – she spoke to me about the plight of domestic workers, an issue I feel strongly yet contradicted about. Zanele also gave me a CD that included a short film she had made – I eventually watched the film two days ago.
The film was titled ‘Enraged by a Photograph’ and documented reactions by a range of people who had seen a photo exhibition of black South African …

Well sisters, there are a lot of upsides to having sex with a woman. Of course the fact that you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant, that you can explore your love, lust, passions and get high between her thighs…but just like sex with men, the hottest sex is safe sex!
You may have a low chance of catching HIV from being with another woman- but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t think about protecting each other from other STIs including genital herpes and Chlamydia, as well as thrush which can be transmitted between women.
There is very little information for women who have sex with women out there when it comes to health and safe …

I’ve been going through something of a lezzie phase these days (read ‘a while’): watching girl porn, hooking up with just as inebriated members of our fairer sex, checking out tits and ass on the train, telling random girls at bars how pretty they are (and effectively weirding them out, I’m sure). Point is, it wasn’t that much of a surprise (to me at least) how things ended up with Ms. S; I can’t speak for her
That’s not to say I didn’t have doubts, I’m not that cocky (or at all, in fact hehe). For one thing – and this is just for those readers on whom the connotations of ‘Lolita’ are lost …

So I got seduced last night by a 23 year old woman and I loved it! In case you’re wondering, yes I’m a woman too, and until a few months ago was completely ‘straight’. Well that’s if you ignore a few dalliances with girls in boarding school (but surely practically everybody who went to a same sex boarding school messed about with the same sex, right?)
So how did this seduction happen? Well, a friend told me that she knew this woman who really wanted to get to know me. Apparently she had seen me out on the town a few times and thought I would be a cool person to get to know. A few …

So all the recent conversations we’ve had here on genital warts and HPV motivated me to email a Dr friend to ask her for the lowdown on the virus and this is what she said:
Genital warts are caused by Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) strains 6 and 11. Cervical cancer is caused mainly by strains 16 and 18. There are 2 cervical cancer jabs one can take to guard against HPV: Cervirax which protects only against 16 and 18 and Gardesil which protects against all four of those strains. So the first point is if you want to get a vaccination against HPV then you need to make sure you’re getting the right vaccination.
The …

You may notice the last post has been deleted. This is because there is some information in the post that could lead to the person(s) involved being identified. In the interest of being a safe space, we’ve had to take the decision of deleting the post.
The issue the post dealt with – that of HPV is a serious one and so in a future post we shall present more information on the subject.