I am hoping to do a series of these interviews with diverse African women. If you are interested in answering these questions (I might switch up the questions to keep the interviews interesting) please send me an email via adventuresfrom[at]gmail.com . It will be great if you could give me a brief ‘sex’ bio so I can decide how best to structure the interview. Let me know your thoughts on the interview in the comments box.
NS: What does sexuality mean to you?
Ms. Choclit: Sexuality is the full expression of my vagina! My sexuality is all about pussy power.
NS: How would you define your sexual orientation?
Ms. Choclit: Oriented to have fun! Hehe. I would identify as …

I first came out as a feminist when I was 19 (in case you’re wondering I’m 33 now ). Feminism helps me make sense of the world in which I find myself. It was like an Aha moment when I was 19 to read feminists like bell hooks who helped me to understand the inter-connections between various forms of oppressions and all the isms (racism, classism, sexism, heterosexism…oh my gosh, it is almost dangerous to start listing). Feminism helped me to understand why my Mum would complain about having to make dinner for Dad since he always got home late yet still provided dinner without fail. Argh! That used to do my head in! …

I read Darian’s article Good Christian Girls Don’t Have Sex and was struck by her sincerity and her conviction. Now I personally do not subscribe to abstinence and notions of “saving” oneself for marriage or until you find that special The One. I did hold such beliefs at one time; my Christian upbringing impressed upon me that premarital sex was sinful so that even though as a male I was culturally conditioned to be the sexual aggressor, the teachings of my faith held even more sway. I did, however, eventually reject it, even before I became fully socially and historically conscious. Having fully understood now the cultural …

I’ve never done this before! This being posting just a link on ‘Adventures’, BUT this link is to an article by bell hooks. bell hooks is the reason why I’m a feminist and so when my friend sent me a link to an article she had written on ‘Penis Passion ‘, I just had to share.
It’ll be good to hear your thoughts…

This is a first of sorts for me. After years of amateur research into Classical Africa to enlighten fellow Trinidadians about the richness of their culture, this is the very first time I’m actually writing on a site based in Africa itself (and hopefully I do not make it the last time, I tend to have that effect). I learned of this website after a debate initiated by a two-part essay I wrote on another website entitled “The Myth of Monogamous Morality.” I read some of the articles here and came across one entitled “Why People Cheat” and I thought I’d offer my views on this …

I have a boyfriend! Or maybe I should say a man friend? Or shall I say partner?
I like that word ‘partner’. It’s ‘adult’ (unlike boyfriend) and implies someone who shares your life, someone who supports you and is there for you. On the other hand, ‘partner’ sounds a bit faddy daddy’ish and even a little boring. So what can I call my boyfriend/man friend/partner?
How about lover? I know it kind of implies a purely sexual relationship with not much else going on but the sex…but I like the word. Maybe I should reclaim it. Casual sex is a ‘hook up’, ‘shag’ or ‘buddy’ but lover is something more. It’s got to be more when it’s …

A few weeks ago one of the regular ‘commenters’ on this blog brought my attention to a particular conundrum. How can a man tell if a woman’s had an orgasm? Short of asking her of course which can sometimes come across as a bit gauche. True, I thought, ‘how can a man tell if a woman has climaxed?’, not everyone comes loudly (in fact I’m willing to bet that the majority of women come fairly quietly). This question then made me think ‘What if all the times I have not ‘cum’ the guy hasn’t been able to figure it out which is why he doesn’t do anything about it?’. Oh my goodness, that’s a horrible …

A few of my favourite non-sexual turn on’s:
* Massages – Does anyone need to ask why? I don’t even know if massages qualify as non-sexual ‘cos they are just so darn sexy. Sometimes you even find yourself getting turned on when you absolutely do not want to be turned on. One day I shall blog about this massage I had in Turkey. I swear the masseuse was aiming for a happy ending…the worst bit was he was so replusive but my body didn’t think so. Anyway moving right along to…
* Chocolate – This is almost too cliche but good chocolate is o so hot! Chocolate gateaux, Green & Blacks organic chocolate, Golden Tree Chocolate, Chocolate …

I turned 33 two days ago and spent the day with my friend [who happens to be a Doctor - her profession is very relevant to this post ] So Dr and I natter about everything. We have a lot in common. Especially when it comes to the subject of children. We are not overjoyed at the thought of having children. In a previous post I wrote about my fear of childbirth so I won’t go into that here but there have been some developments in my views on childbirth. I have decided that it would be ‘safer’ to have one child as an insurance policy against future regret. A few years ago …

Wow! In a few days time it will be Adventures’s 2nd anniversary and what an exciting two years this has been. I have had so many positive experiences with Adventures -  which has included meeting new people, growing more confident in my own sexuality and writing for the likes of Dust Magazine and Dream Weddings. Its been a wonderful 2 year journey and I thank all of you for being on this journey with us. I especially want to thank all our contributors – those I know and those who are complete strangers to me.  I want to thank you for your honesty, your openness and your generosity in sharing your stories without fear. I …