Yesterday, I confessed to my friends that till I met my boyfriend, all the guys I dated had some kind of forceful sexual intercourse with me. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about- the kind of sex where you don’t want to do it but he wants to and so he pounds away and you come out with bruises and tears. I thought I was alone but surprisingly, all my friends shared similar experiences. And that got me incensed. I’m pissed off that this ...  [Read more]

Don’t even know how I got orally fixated That’s my current affliction, I’m crazily addicted Just dying for the dangerous tongue tricks I’d kill for those clit licks It was you doing the chasing at first, just to put it  on me Now I’m the one doing the begging, “baby please give it to me” Can you hear me moan baby, can you hear my sighs Even as your head is buried in between my luscious thighs I know youre ...  [Read more]

I met Yewande Omotoso when I was lucky enough to participate in Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche's 'Farafina Trust' workshop. (Yewande shared her experiences of the workshop via 'Africa is a Country') Meeting Yewande was like meeting a kindred spirit, and I instantly knew that I wanted to stay in touch with her forever. Yewande is an extremely talented writer, I was lucky enough to hear her read many short stories we had to write during our workshop, and ...  [Read more]

In a few hours it will be 2013, and a few weeks into 2013 it will be 4 years since Malaka and I started this blog. 4 years ago in my introductory post I shared what had motivated me to start this blog. Its been an amazing 4 years and I have learnt a lot from writing and curating this site. I have met some fabulous people, been impressed with the quality of writing from our numerous guest contributors, been shocked, amused, turned on, by what we ...  [Read more]

If all your secret sexy fantasies could come true what would be on your sex Christmas wishlist? Mine would include: * Being tied with silk scarves to my iron wrought bed, and being made to cum over and over and over again till I scream for mercy. What makes your list? Oh, and have a sexy Merry ...  [Read more]

One evening when my lover came round for our regular evening visit I made a joke that I would strip for him. This sparked his interest and of course he wanted me to act on it and surprisingly though I tried to joke my way out of it I wanted to do it to. Its not a big deal to some but I've never given anyone a lap dance, none of my past boyfriends not even the long term ones...although thinking about it now many of them wanted me to give them ...  [Read more]

Yesterday, over drinks with new friends, I was telling the story of a close friend who went on a ‘boy’s trip’ to Brazil. The highlight of his story (which I’ll admit I was retelling with a lot of glee) was of the ‘clubs’ in Rio that, for all intents and purposes, are brothels. Guys pay approximately $100 at the door for access to the women you can manage to pull inside. The second floor and above is adorned with rooms for your ...  [Read more]

An extract from a whatsapp conversation between an 'ex' and I... I learned I have delayed/impaired ejaculation. I get and stay up easily, but as you always saw...nothing. Then I started thinking of myself pre-masturbation (before 23) and post...and how easily/often I orgasmed. As much as I often thought "how I'd like to hold it and last past 3-5mins," now I lament how I realized I could fuck for 30-45mins easily and not cum (trust me on ...  [Read more]

I have never associated sexual acts with any local Ghanaian language. Sex for me has always been synonymous with the English language. I have never questioned why. I have never even been conscious of this fact till I read a post here titled “Fucking Ghana into me”. Since then, I have been doing some soul-searching. I have been trying to understand what prevents me from associating anything sexual with my local language which is Ga. After ...  [Read more]

Exhale Be relaxed My body languid My mind at ease Be free Free to be with my lover Whomever that may be Free to express my desire Whatever that may be Free to say… Stop Do that again I like that Free to say… Stop I want you to go down on me Touch me all over Kiss my neck Free to say… I’ve met someone else My feelings have changed What do we do now? My future sexual self is ...  [Read more]