One of my friends totally cracked me up a few minutes ago. We have a pre-birthday dinner date arranged (I’ll be turning 33 in a few days time) and I texted him to re-schedule because another friend has decided to treat me to an overnight stay in a resort outside Accra. So of course he jumps to assumptions and sends me this text back:
“Hmmm. Weekend in x sounds like a Sugar Daddy to me…”
My response:
“Hahahaha. It’s not a Sugar Daddy kraa. I don’t have one o…”
His response:
“ Every beautiful young lady deserves at least one Sugar Daddy to run circles around. Soon it will no longer be an option, so enjoy before you are forced …

I spent a lot of time last week thinking about orgasms. Specifically I found myself thinking, ‘what does it take to have a “mind blowing orgasm”.
I love that phrase, “mind blowing orgasm”. It reminds me of a dear friend who one described sex between herself and a boyfriend as ‘mind blowing’. My mind was blown at that description. Wow! Sex could be mind-blowing? I guess I wasn’t having mind-blowing sex at that time…
So the question that I decided to ask one of my close friends last week was…’What conditions needs to be in place for you to have a mind-blowing orgasm?’ And her response was:

Talking dirty/spanking/porn
Sufficiently aroused (lubricated)
No pressure like I have to validate someone …

Dear Readers, Commenters and Lurkers,
I apologise that I haven’t blogged in ages. I have been sooo busy and when I have a moment free no creative juices flow (please no puns about juices flowing )
This is an appeal to you (especially my African women readers) to send in guest contributions to adventuresfrom[at]gmail.com so our blog can remain exciting, relevant and a useful cyber learning space.
Wishing you loads of good sex!
Nana D

This Saturday, 20th November I will wake up at ridiculous o’clock to be a guest on Joy Fm’s ‘Home Affairs’ programme (if you are in Ghana, you can tune into Joy 99.7 at 6.10am, I am not sure if they stream their programmes online).
Now the topic for discussion is very broadly ‘Why would a woman leave a relationship’ and some of the pointers I have been asked to discuss are:
“For what reasons would a woman break up with a man?”
“Must these reasons necessarily lead to a breakup?”
“What can a man do to prevent a break up?”
“How can the woman deal with the urge to break up?”
“What should a man do if the woman’s reason for …

Last night I went to a strip club for gay guys. Of course this fact, in and of itself, would be unremarkable until you consider that I went alone, in an unfamiliar city, and that I’m a girl who likes (mostly) girls. WTF you ask? That’s more like it.
Admittedly, I started out the evening armed with googlemaps directions to a lesbian bar within walking distance, but true to clueless form, I got lost. Turns out it didn’t matter anyway because after asking the poster child for butch lesbians (tattooed, clad in a black leather jacket, jeans and worn boots), I was informed that the place is closed on Mondays; her eyes said “oh, you poor …

About 10 days ago I was at the Viasat 1 Studios for ‘The One Show’ hosted by the lovely Jocelyn Dumas. If you live in Ghana you can catch the re-run tomorrow morning at 9am on terrestrial TV.
Guess what her first question to me was?

A friend informed me that today is ‘National Coming Out Day’, and i jokingly said to her, ‘Great, lets come out on the blog today’.
A few minutes later I check my twitter account and www.feministing.com have a link to a post on ‘Happy Coming Out Day’…I liked the following quote from their site:
“It’s well documented that the more people someone knows who are LGBTQ, the more accepting they are of queer folks.
So find someway to celebrate today, even as an ally who supports everyone regardless of sexual orientation or gender expression”
Personally I think its important for ‘straight’ people to speak up on issues of gay rights. A couple of weeks ago one of my boyfriends …

I was so excited when my friend told me she was launching ‘All Things Sweet’ in Accra. ‘All Things Sweet’ is an indulgence boutique which stocks lingerie, scented candles, massage oils, sweet smelling soaps and what got me most excited…sex toys!!!
In a previous post, Ms A reviewed a sex shop that we had both visited in Accra, and my co-blogger Abena and I had done a tag post on a sex shop we had visited in Atlanta. Both sex shops lacked a certain aesthetic, which I think is important when you’re creating an ambiance in which women will feel comfortable purchasing sex toys.
The lovely lady behind ‘All Things Sweet’ allowed me to pick an indulgence …

As a fulltime goddess, I have been on a journey of self discovery and my own education. This journey has brought about a very wonderful gift. I have begun a very intimate relationship with my goddess center. Just to clarify, I’m talking about my Vagina folks. Culturally and socially most women have been taught to live from the neck up, that our vagina does not exist except when we are on our period and even then, we are made to feel it’s dirty, must be washed, covered and such. Even when we are being made love to, our pleasure is dependent on someone else, yet, when we are having a baby, …

A finger in the mouth
Runs slowly its entire length
Along a rough and hungry tongue
That grips with eager strength
Leaving behind a creamy trail
A tangy taste, a whiff inhaled
Of steamy creamy sourness
The scent of perfume mixed with sweat
A thought will now possess
Notions of innuendo beget
A big hard stick stirs rythmic’lly
The steaming pot of akamu
Until the labour and the toil
At last brings the pot to the boil
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