A few weeks ago i became ‘re-acquainted’ with my cousin Boakyewaa Glover when i bumped into her at a bar in Accra. She invited me to the launch of her book ‘Circles’ (which I’m totally engrossed in at the moment), and coincidentally we were both invited to a radio station the day after her book launched to speak on why so many ‘accomplished’ women are single. We followed up by meeting later for a drink and since we’re fans of each others writing decided to do a tag post. Check out www.boakyewaaglover.com for her version of Sexual Lessons and see below for my side of the tale:

From one ex (ex is a term i am …

I really need your advice. I’ve been seeing this guy for 6months now, he’s cute, nice , caring, and very generous. The main problem is the sex is so crappy, sometimes I end up crying. We have foreplay and as soon as his penis goes in he
goes flaccid within 2mins. This happens all the time. Even when he manages to stay hard he never comes. In the 6 months I have been with him he has never come. I’m confused as I believe I will cheat on him really soon but I really like him.
Please help me.
H

My new favourite blog is ‘Mind of Malaka’ and its not because its written by my BFFFL (Best Friend for Freakin Life) and co-blogger for Adventures. Mind of Malaka is my new fav blog because the writing is excellent, the author’s frankness/humour shines through and the issues she chooses to deal with are the realities she encounters.
Her latest post dealt with an issue that comes up from time to time where women and relationships are concerned – ‘dating below your class’. Now what does that mean? Dating below your class simply means dating a man who is not your equal – not your equal in terms of social status, not your equal in terms of …

A few weeks ago I started going out with this incredibly hot guy.
Beautiful eyes and smile, insane body, amazing skin; the works. Aside
from his pleasing-to-the-eye looks, he’s also a sweetheart. He’s
surprisingly unassuming and I just feel comfortable around him. I was
floating high on “new crush fumes” until last week when we had sex.
Disappointment does not even begin to scratch the surface of what I
felt during and afterwards. Firstly, let’s just say our friend is not
well-endowed. This is something I’m not too used to but I was willing
to work with it if he was. Well he wasn’t. It was the type of sex
where the man think a perfunctory squeeze of your breasts is enough to
get you …

She went to the village for the first time in years to visit her extended family. One day she’s home alone and her cousin’s husband enters the room where she is and locks the door. He wants to ‘sleep’ with her. She says to him ‘I’m scared, I haven’t done it before’. He says ‘Don’t worry, it won’t hurt’.
3 weeks after her visit to the village she starts worrying. Her period is two weeks late – normally she is very regular. So she tells her Madam who sends her for a pregnancy test. The test results come back positive. The girl is distraught. Her cousin’s husband already has two wives – he ‘got’ the second …

Recently, one of our readers (Naa) mentioned in a comment that she has been enduring what I consider a HORRIBLE ordeal for the last 11 years. Her husband, who I assume she has been committed and faithful to (she didn’t indicate that she has cheated on him), performs very poorly in the sack. Specifically, he is prone to premature ejaculation and has been for the duration of their marriage.
Now, what one person deems as “premature” ejaculation is subject to experience and preference in my opinion. It can range from cumming before there is any insertion at all (which has been my sad experience) to lasting only a few strokes once there is pelvic-to-pelvic contact. For …

I recently recounted on this forum the very torrid and unfortunately very brief affair that transpired between myself and Ms. S about a month ago. At the time I thought it would be a ‘hit-it-and-quit-it’, ‘wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am’ kind of deal and was prepared for that.
Boy was I wrong! We’ve communicated almost every single day since then and are making plans to see each other again soon. In the interim, we’ve agreed to what I suppose is an open long distance “relationship”: we’re free to do whatever we want with whomever we want, and here’s the kicker – we don’t have to tell each other about it. During my previous (very long) ldr, I sometimes wished …

Sometime last year, some of you may recall that Nana and I took an excursion to look for sex toys while she was here in Atlanta. In that time, she made it clear that she did not care for ‘coital enhancing’ lotions and creams…she was more interested in battery operated hardware. Previous to that moment, I had not given much thought to what a woman’s possible aversion to body smears could be. A few nights ago, I found out what one of those causes may be.
I’ll come right out and say. For the past couple of weeks I’ve been a little parched in the panties. No magic tricks my husband has pulled out of his …

Now what in the world does banku have to do with anybody’s bedroom? Only two things: It takes time to finish and there is generally a sense of satisfaction once you’re done “chopping”.  I don’t have to time to be witty or clever this morning, so I’ll just get straight to the point.
This post is about premature ejaculation.
There is not a man on the planet that is consistent every time he hits the sack. Like any athlete, he may have his off days where performance is less than optimal. Most women will recognize this and attempt to stroke her non-performing mates ego with all the common cliches:
Oh, it’s ok sweetie, it’s the motion of the …

You know you’ve all said it, over drinks with the girls or in your head with a self-righteous sneer and sidelong glance at the offending tramp… “As for that girl!” You know who I’m talking about, that girl, the one sucking face with an almost-stranger on the dancefloor; the one who cheats on her sweet boyfriend; the one who kisses girls when she’s drunk (and sober); the one who slept with a married man; the one who had a threesome; the one whose friends call “a freak” and non-friends, “a slut”.
“Slut”. A word so imbued with near-corporeal potency, it might as well be a slap in the face. “Slut”. Sure, it’s plosive, harsh, offensive to …