Yesterday, myself and two of my girlfriends watched a production of The Vagina Monologues at the Efua Sutherland Theatre, University of Ghana, Legon. I was keen to watch the production, especially because The Vagina Monologues was banned in Uganda. I do not know the official reason given for the ban but I do recognise that some African states prevent women from openly speaking up about their sexuality (read Vagina in the case of The Vagina Monologues) so i felt really excited that in Ghana we can openly watch The Vagina Monolgues.
One of the most interesting portions of the monologue was when the women demonstrated the various sounds they make when climaxing. There was “Oh, oh, …

I am defining a “good” relationship as one in which both parties are happy and fulfilled. However being in a “good” relationship does not always guarantee a great sex life (although a great sex life might be one of your indicators for a good relationship). So here are my thoughts on how to have great sex in a relationship:

Remember that sex is important! Sometimes sex gets left on the back burner, what with the demands of work, children (if you have them) and all the various other commitments you may have. You can even try making “nooky dates” to guarantee that you do have sex.

Flip the script. I know I have said this …

An integral part of any relationship is when it comes to an end…and yes, every relationship will end. Be it a one night shag-fest or the departure of souls after a long “ ‘til death do us part”, you’ll have to say good-bye to your partner in one way or another.
The other day, I was sitting around gabbing with a friend of mine who had just returned from Ghana. As usual, she was moaning about her lack of a man, and I was consoling her with information on the problems that the very presence of a man can bring. (She had just recently been dumped via Facebook). In the midst of our conversation, she recounted …

I want to thank one of the readers of this blog for drawing my attention to an article on the NYTimes.com website by Daniel Bergner “What do Women Want? – Discovering What Ignites Female Desire”.
This article features various pieces of research being carried out into women’s sexuality. As is sometimes the case with research the “evidence” and conclusions reached by the various scientists are often contradictory. I will summarise my understanding of the key findings from this article:
Meredith Chivers is a professor at Queen’s university in Kingston, Ontario. Her research involved volunteers being connected to plethysmographs – for men this is a device that fits over the penis and measures swelling and for women it …

Love making, sex, shagging, intercourse, fu*king, boning … do they describe the same act? I would argue not.
For me making love depicts an act of tenderness. I imagine candles, soft music, clean sheets, massage oils and an outpouring of emotion. With making love you have got to be in love with the person you are having ‘sex’ with.
Having sex on the other hand does not need to involve the emotion of love. Sex needs physical attraction, chemistry and lust. The candles, soft music, clean sheets, and massage oil become part of a rationally thought out process … it helps to get you into the mood.
What’s your preference and why? Love making or sex?
Nana Darkoa
P.S: This …

It’s official. The results from our first poll are out and those who voted want us to blog on:
1. More sex tips and techniques2. A good sexual encounter3. Diverse sexualities4. Some facts/research on sex
Thank you to all those who took time to vote, we shall aim to please.
Fairly recently one of our readers asked if any of us have ever “experimented” with women and requested for a post on “Sex tips for women who sleep with women” or chronicles a la “share and share alike”.
There are some “issues” that I only …

A reader of this blog asked me ‘So, how did you get so confident?’. I guess what she really meant was, how did you become so bold in writing about sex? The fact is, I don’t think it’s confidence that has led to me writing about sexuality. I think my motivation is a continuation of my politics as a feminist. I think women have the RIGHT to have great sex and I think a lack of knowledge prevents a lot of us from having great sex.
There is also a lot of silence about sex (I have to point out that I am speaking from my personal standpoint). My sex education as a child was primarily …

Hmmm, does penis size matter? That’s the question one of the ‘commenters’ on this blog wants us to answer. Before I can really answer this question I need to think of some of the different penises I have been involved with in the past and compare and contrast ‘performance’ with size.
The first penis that comes to mind belongs to Juan. Juan is Cuban, a hot salsa dancer and has the biggest dick I have ever seen in my life. I am not joking or exaggerating when I say the length was a good 12 inches and the girth about 9 inches. I tell you the first time I saw that ‘monster’ I wanted to run. …

We decided that since neither of us had encountered every penis on the planet (and who would want to?) it might be a good idea to do susu with our experiences and put them in one pot for all to share. Dicks are a lot like men: There are short ones, long ones, big ones small ones, uncircumcised ones, half circumcised ones…dicks that inspire “ahh’s!!” and some that elicit an unimpressed “oh.”
You get the drift.
I’ll share my experience from the other side of the size coin: My encounter with a small dick. I guess I should be clear with what I consider “small”, and for that matter, so should every other woman. Anything …

Since we’re getting all cozy on this blog, I have a wonderful Adventure to share with you. Prepare yourselves ladies (and gents) to be regaled by the tale of “My Voyage on a Man I will only Refer to as KS.”

I met KS in 2003 while on holiday in Ghana. Christmas in Ghana is itself a seductive time of year…I’m sure Christ or the Church never meant for it to be described as such. Everyone one “comes down” from abrochi with their new purchased clothes and electronic gadgets, the folks back home are happy to see you, and Accra has a general gaiety that is somewhat absent during the rest of the …