So, does anyone have any sexy stories to share involving Christmas, Santa Claus or anything remotely yuletide?

So I’m one of those that who has chosen to try hard to practice the no premarital sex clause. As I have gotten older though, it has become increasingly difficult to get men to be down with this. My relationships are either long distance – so the sex thing doesn’t have to come up too often – or rather short lived. I made peace with this a long time ago – and accept the need for others to live out their own value systems.
I have to be upfront though and say that the kind of virginity I practice is the “everything, but” kind. Well not exactly – because my but …

Humph. As for this Adventure di333, I’m just going to recount the tale verbatim so that my personal views do not detract from the beauty of this story.
A friend of mine recently traveled to Ghana to lick her wounds after a particularly bad break up with her boyfriend. (I guess when you’re parents have money you can do that…flee to Ghana to heal your broken heart.) On the return flight to the states from Amsterdam on KLM, she was seated by a 50 something Palestinian man and struck up a conversation with him. She told him why she was in Ghana and now returning back to the States, he told her he was a divorced …

The worst part of any date for me is when the bill arrives. Who pays? The man? The woman? The one who initiated the date? Should you always offer to go dutch? Should you make a half-hearted attempt to reach for your purse? Should you insist on paying half? Should he (or she) pay for one date and you pay for the next? Does it matter who pays?
Three date “payment” issues stick in my mind.
Once upon a time I decided to explore internet dating. Truth be told, I wanted to write a book which was going to be titled “Finding Mr Right on the Internet”. My research involved going on numerous dates courtesy …

On Friday the 4th of December I will be participating in a blog reading at Expressions which takes place in Smoothys, Oxford Street. In the 11 months that this blog has been active I have had numerous guest contributions which in my opinion is a major factor in the success of the blog.
Can you imagine Adventures without Anthony’s chart topping “How to eat pussy…from the Givers Perspective”, or Darian’s “Good Christian Girls Don’t Have Sex” or or Esi Cleland’s “Two things you learn about Ghanaian men by walking the streets”.
It will be great if I could get a small team to read for “Adventures”, if you have ever guest contributed for this blog, live …

So you are in the sack with this guy (or girl) and he (she) says something and you’re thinking “what the ….”.
A couple of the funniest things I have heard or been told about include:
“It will be nice if you could fake an orgasm”
“Where’s your g spot” as Mr X frantically digs about Ms X’s vagina
“Make it tight, make it tight, make it tight” followed shortly by “Aaarghhh, it was too big before”
“Geddit, geddit, geddit”
What are some of the funniest things you have heard, overheard or been told about…

Last Saturday I was invited to be a guest commentator on Joy Fm’s “Home Affairs” programme, hosted by Araba Koomson. The topic was “why do people use sex as a tool in marriage?”
One of my opening gambits was that for the majority of women, sex is not enjoyable; research such as that documented in the Shere Hite Report has indicated that 70% of women generally do not orgasm during sex. If you follow that logic this means a lot of women are having sex purely to please their husbands/partners/lovers so if for any reason your husband/partner/lover upsets you then your reaction is “No sex, until you have done x, y, or z”. If women were …

I have never worn a bikini in my life and unless I have a miraculous bodily transformation in the next few months I doubt if I ever will. As I write this, I am sitting on a beautiful beach in the Gambia, dressed in black trousers and a short sleeved shirt, whilst all around me are women and men of all ages dressed in little scraps of nothing. I am here for a conference, they are here for a holiday – and from what I hear, perhaps some sex tourism.
There is an old lady sitting not too far away from me, she is wearing a hot pink bikini, she saunters casually from her sun bed …

A couple of things that have been on my mind/been discussing with friends:
* Is it inevitable that Ghanaian men will cheat when in a relationship?
* Are women cheating in response to cheating partners?
* Should we start dating women instead of men?
* Why is it that the guys you fancy do not fancy you, and the ones who fancy you, you don’t fancy?
What are your thoughts?

So, I’m chatting with a group of girlfriends and I ask them to share some “Good Sex Tips”. Here is some of what they shared:
• The orgasm you get from anal sex is mind blowing – Hmmm, if you have read every post on this blog you know my position on anal but despite my personal bias I have to include this tip. This is what I was told – there is a spot/gland in the anus and if that spot is hit – wow, the orgasm is mind blowing. It is important with anal sex that the man’s penis is not too big, that he knows how to use his penis, and that there is …