On Friday the 4th of December I will be participating in a blog reading at Expressions which takes place in Smoothys, Oxford Street. In the 11 months that this blog has been active I have had numerous guest contributions which in my opinion is a major factor in the success of the blog.
Can you imagine Adventures without Anthony’s chart topping “How to eat pussy…from the Givers Perspective”, or Darian’s “Good Christian Girls Don’t Have Sex” or or Esi Cleland’s “Two things you learn about Ghanaian men by walking the streets”.
It will be great if I could get a small team to read for “Adventures”, if you have ever guest contributed for this blog, live …

So you are in the sack with this guy (or girl) and he (she) says something and you’re thinking “what the ….”.
A couple of the funniest things I have heard or been told about include:
“It will be nice if you could fake an orgasm”
“Where’s your g spot” as Mr X frantically digs about Ms X’s vagina
“Make it tight, make it tight, make it tight” followed shortly by “Aaarghhh, it was too big before”
“Geddit, geddit, geddit”
What are some of the funniest things you have heard, overheard or been told about…

Last Saturday I was invited to be a guest commentator on Joy Fm’s “Home Affairs” programme, hosted by Araba Koomson. The topic was “why do people use sex as a tool in marriage?”
One of my opening gambits was that for the majority of women, sex is not enjoyable; research such as that documented in the Shere Hite Report has indicated that 70% of women generally do not orgasm during sex. If you follow that logic this means a lot of women are having sex purely to please their husbands/partners/lovers so if for any reason your husband/partner/lover upsets you then your reaction is “No sex, until you have done x, y, or z”. If women were …

I have never worn a bikini in my life and unless I have a miraculous bodily transformation in the next few months I doubt if I ever will. As I write this, I am sitting on a beautiful beach in the Gambia, dressed in black trousers and a short sleeved shirt, whilst all around me are women and men of all ages dressed in little scraps of nothing. I am here for a conference, they are here for a holiday – and from what I hear, perhaps some sex tourism.
There is an old lady sitting not too far away from me, she is wearing a hot pink bikini, she saunters casually from her sun bed …

A couple of things that have been on my mind/been discussing with friends:
* Is it inevitable that Ghanaian men will cheat when in a relationship?
* Are women cheating in response to cheating partners?
* Should we start dating women instead of men?
* Why is it that the guys you fancy do not fancy you, and the ones who fancy you, you don’t fancy?
What are your thoughts?

So, I’m chatting with a group of girlfriends and I ask them to share some “Good Sex Tips”. Here is some of what they shared:
• The orgasm you get from anal sex is mind blowing – Hmmm, if you have read every post on this blog you know my position on anal but despite my personal bias I have to include this tip. This is what I was told – there is a spot/gland in the anus and if that spot is hit – wow, the orgasm is mind blowing. It is important with anal sex that the man’s penis is not too big, that he knows how to use his penis, and that there is …

A couple of months ago, you may recall that Nana and I went on a search for new “accoutrements” while she was here in Atlanta. It was during that time that both she and the accoutrements seller loudly admonished me for having never used a vibrator. Jeez! Was it that big a deal?
Apparently it was.
Let me start by saying:
Oh. My. Gawd!
And
Shiiiit!!!
Like any first time sexual experience (with a person or a thing), it starts off a little weird because of the unfamiliarity. The circumstances surrounding my vibrator use probably could have had something to do with my discomfort as well. The kids had been screaming all day, the house was a wreck, and I could …

I want to congratulate my fellow Ghana blogger Nana Yaw for highlighting an issue which many Africans shun from – the issue of same sex relationships. His series throughout the week highlighted different aspects of same sex relationships and were insightful in many parts… apart from a minor slippage in his first post in the series; I felt Nana Yaw also made a real effort not to be judgemental.
Talking about same sex relationships in our current context is always controversial. There is always the assumption that if you support gay rights then you’re gay, which of course comes with the attendant stigma associated with homosexuality.
In recent times I have found myself being increasingly bothered …

For some reason just started thinking about all the different types of sex one can have. Here’s what comes to mind, I will start with the obvious ones…
• Vaginal sex
• Oral sex
• Anal Sex
• Dry Humping
• Tantric Sex
• No Sex (does that qualify?)
Surely there must be more…your thoughts?

There is much that thrills me about being thirty something including:
• Being thirty something yet looking like I’m twenty something
• An increased sense of confidence and self worth
• Greater financial and personal freedom
• Being able to easily get on and be friends with people who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s
• Being fancied by men and women who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s
In short, I think it’s great to be thirty something. I also think in your thirties you should be able to grasp opportunities and get what you want out of life. Getting what you want out of life includes personal happiness, financial freedom, mind boggling sex, work/life balance, great friends and a supportive family. At …