Currently reading the column “Ask E. Jean” in the May 2011 edition of Elle (USA version) and a couple of statements E. Jean made jumped out at me ‘cos they fit some random and not so random thoughts that have been running through my mind.
“…women may have more consorts than men do. I’m not certain young women should leap into bed before they’re mature enough to understand men (around the age of 33)…”
In Jean’s initial statement she’s referring to the number of sexual partners women have had versus the number of partners men have had. The general consensus amongst the people who like to research these kinds of statistics is that, women underreport the number …

Maybe I’m reading too much into things but some of the responses in some of the articles on this website really struck me with the apparent deep convictions of those who engaged in premarital sex that what they did made them fall short in the eyes of god. The very words used to describe their experiences were quite instructive, particularly the word “impure.” I’ve long known this word to be linked to sexual interaction but it’s always sobering to see it still wielding the power it did all through the centuries. Sexual interaction, including intercourse, is by far a most wonderful way of expressing one’s love …

I promised Nana to write an article for her blog over two years ago. Since then, many things have happened.  At the time, we were at Nana’s house, with this dashing young lady from America with Ugandan blood flowing in her veins. At the risk of objectifying her, I will say she was a looker, the kind that makes you want to go down on your knees and promise her the world, including learning the Kazkh  language. After a wonderful chat, I asked of her two days later, Nana told me that she had asked if I was gay.
Now this will shatter any strapping heterosexual man’s ego. But it was supposed to be a compliment. …

My dear friend Nana has persuaded me (read guilt tripped me) into writing a post as I ‘m a GP and she wanted some clarification on a few points about vaginal thrush.  Here goes!
The most common yeast that causes thrush is present in a proportion of women and doesn’t need treatment unless you’re displaying symptoms.  These include:
A non-offensive smelling creamy or curdy discharge
Itchiness of the vaginal area
Redness and inflammation of the vaginal area which can lead to soreness and pain during sex or passing urine
Men can also get a characteristic itchy rash usually to the tip (glans) of their penis
The most common cause is ‘no cause’ it just happens but other predisposing factors are:
Antibiotic treatment …

It’s been a while since I ‘spent some time with my man’ if you know what I mean and we’ve all been looking forward to it. And then I start feeling a slight discomfort in my beautiful vagina and I think oh oh oh  -  is that an infection coming up?!!!
So I rush to the pharmacy and try to tell the usually male pharmacist to get me something that works fast! Then he launches into why it’s better to take the three day treatment to make sure the infection clears completely and so on and I’m thinking man, can I have a two hour treatment if it’s possible? I’ve got a sexy man coming over …

Dear M,
You may or may not have realized it, but these last few days in NYC were very hard for me. Emotionally hard, and that threw me for a loop. I wasn’t expecting this trip to be such an emotional rollercoaster. I wasn’t expecting to be upset and teary eyed because we weren’t spending all our time together. I wasn’t expecting to be upset that you would change the plans we had to go to a poetry slam on my last night in town in favour of going for drinks with some new friends you had just met. And I certainly didn’t expect that I would be upset about doing the cab journey from the …

I’ve been a bit emotional lately and I don’t do emotions very well. At least not the sad type of emotions where you get teary eyed cos you are thinking of what you used to have…
BUT 2 of my friends cheered me up loads when they told me about their new relationships AND they were good relationship stories. You know, the type where girl meets boy, girl likes boy, and boy likes girl right back and possibly more than girl likes boy. Nice! No drama, no emotional games, no complicated relationships. Just nice straightforward relationships where everybody feels happy, and fulfilled. I wish these 2 couples every happiness.
I am going to ignore the little parrot …

Yesterday I was privileged to be at the first meet-up for Queer Ladies of African Descent (QLAD), which took place in a Seneglase restaurant in uptown New York. I ate grilled tilapia, couscous and kelewele in the company of some of the nicest ladies I have met in a long while.
C and I were ‘doing’ kokonsa (gossiping) during the meeting about a party of 4 women and 1 man that were sitting to the right of our table. ‘Are they all his wives?’ C asked me…a little while later I nudged her, “Look, look she’s arguing with the other women. I heard her say, “He’s my husband”.
T & C have been in a relationship for …

I know the feelings I have for him are real but he loves me more than I do him. It is in the way he pays attention to the little things. The looking in the eyes.
Most of the time I wish I to be what he hopes me to. Problem is I have been so many places in my life, nothing seems real to me anymore. I have mastered the art of distrust. It hurts him, I know it does. It tears his insides for every time we are together, I am faraway, I kiss him absentmindedly. I can’t blame myself nor can I anyone else – It is just life doing what her mother …

The lovely Fiona Leonard published an interview with me here today!
Oh and I got some lovely PR in Arise magazine thanks to the talented Nana Kofi Acquah
And I have sooooo many things I want to blog on but haven’t had the time…I’ll give you a teaser…the relationship with the new boyfriend ended but it was sooo good while it lasted!
I promise to blog soon!
P.S: I need all the women who have been promising to send me a guest contribution to do so. I have a guest contribution from Corey that I am refusing to post until I have had some more voices by women reflected on Adventures