This Saturday, 20th November I will wake up at ridiculous o’clock to be a guest on Joy Fm’s ‘Home Affairs’ programme (if you are in Ghana, you can tune into Joy 99.7 at 6.10am, I am not sure if they stream their programmes online).
Now the topic for discussion is very broadly ‘Why would a woman leave a relationship’ and some of the pointers I have been asked to discuss are:
“For what reasons would a woman break up with a man?”
“Must these reasons necessarily lead to a breakup?”
“What can a man do to prevent a break up?”
“How can the woman deal with the urge to break up?”
“What should a man do if the woman’s reason for …

Last night I went to a strip club for gay guys. Of course this fact, in and of itself, would be unremarkable until you consider that I went alone, in an unfamiliar city, and that I’m a girl who likes (mostly) girls. WTF you ask? That’s more like it.
Admittedly, I started out the evening armed with googlemaps directions to a lesbian bar within walking distance, but true to clueless form, I got lost. Turns out it didn’t matter anyway because after asking the poster child for butch lesbians (tattooed, clad in a black leather jacket, jeans and worn boots), I was informed that the place is closed on Mondays; her eyes said “oh, you poor …

Don’t kid yourself, I can steal your wife if I wanted.
It amazes and amuses me how flippant most married men are of lesbian relationships. A bisexual friend of mine’s hubby actually asked her rather incredulously “what are u really gonna leave me for a girl?” my answer if I were in her shoes would have been hell yea!
See good brothers you need to know that only a woman knows how to love another woman best. You can try and some men do try but you can’t know my body better than I know it. Another woman has the same body as your wife does & if she wants to please your wife its likely she’s …

Maybe this is inspired by my being scandalised watching Uti prance around the Big Brother house in his boxer-briefs, on day 87 of the just-concluded Big Brother All Stars.  It got me thinking… not because I was turned on in anyway.  His legs are too skinny for me. With my own small thighs it would be like stick-fighting in bed.
Anyway, the point here is this: do you care how the package is wrapped? Or is it just enough that there is a package in the first place?  Men these days go on about how we African women get too comfortable in a relationship and ditch the sexy lingerie …

About 10 days ago I was at the Viasat 1 Studios for ‘The One Show’ hosted by the lovely Jocelyn Dumas. If you live in Ghana you can catch the re-run tomorrow morning at 9am on terrestrial TV.
Guess what her first question to me was?

Human are essentially selfish and jealous beings. On one episode of ‘Friends’ Chandler (or one of those other guys) told Phoebe that there are “no selfless good deeds”. She insisted that there were!
“Helping another person is a selfless act,” she said.
“Yeah, but the reward is that YOU feel good in return, therefore it’s not a selfless act,” said Ross (or one of those other guys).
There is nothing more selfish than being in love. You can disagree, but it’s true. After all, you yourself are not in love for the benefit of the other person, are you? You’ve spent your hard time – and sometimes precious resources – in the pursuit and capture of the object …

Vagina is for lovers
Yes, I said it! So what? You were thinking it…were you not? I guess this must be one of those topics where I think everybody is on board.
Here’s what I think. I’m a lesbian for a reason. Contrary to popular heterosexist belief, I was not molested by my father, brother or any other dominant male in my life. I am a lesbian because I love the softness of a woman, I crave a gentle touch and I can appreciate her with all her sexy curves.I prefer breast to chest and when I embrace the person I love, I prefer the feeling of a cushion rather than a steel wall. You feel me?
Vagina …

A friend informed me that today is ‘National Coming Out Day’, and i jokingly said to her, ‘Great, lets come out on the blog today’.
A few minutes later I check my twitter account and www.feministing.com have a link to a post on ‘Happy Coming Out Day’…I liked the following quote from their site:
“It’s well documented that the more people someone knows who are LGBTQ, the more accepting they are of queer folks.
So find someway to celebrate today, even as an ally who supports everyone regardless of sexual orientation or gender expression”
Personally I think its important for ‘straight’ people to speak up on issues of gay rights. A couple of weeks ago one of my boyfriends …

Not everything in the movies is meant to be tried or copied in real life. If Tom Cruise threw himself off a 50 foot cliff into a swirling ocean below, I wouldn’t try it. If Angelina Jolie slid across a field of ice on her knees in a pair of booty shorts, I wouldn’t try it (mainly because I’m too big to fit into a pair of booty shorts). If Batman threw ninja darts at Joker’s henchmen as the fired live rounds at him, I definitely wouldn’t try it! These scenarios in real life would ultimately end in disaster. Why then, would I or anyone else, think it would be a good idea to …

I was so excited when my friend told me she was launching ‘All Things Sweet’ in Accra. ‘All Things Sweet’ is an indulgence boutique which stocks lingerie, scented candles, massage oils, sweet smelling soaps and what got me most excited…sex toys!!!
In a previous post, Ms A reviewed a sex shop that we had both visited in Accra, and my co-blogger Abena and I had done a tag post on a sex shop we had visited in Atlanta. Both sex shops lacked a certain aesthetic, which I think is important when you’re creating an ambiance in which women will feel comfortable purchasing sex toys.
The lovely lady behind ‘All Things Sweet’ allowed me to pick an indulgence …