A friend cracked me up some time ago when she said to me,
‘Nana I don’t want to fall in love with X. Tell me what to do’.
Yes, falling in love with the man you’re shagging is a bad idea. A very bad idea, especially when the relationship revolves purely or mainly around sex.
Quite a few women I have spoken to tell me that the longer they sleep with someone, the more they begin to connect with them emotionally. An emotional connection in a buddy relationship is problematic for a number of reasons. Here are some hypothetical (yet true to life) situations that make falling in love with your buddy difficult:
• Your relationship …

Lately I’ve been experiencing miscommunication. My mind and my body are tuned into different channels. I’ve made up my mind that I do not want a relationship. I’ve just left one. It’s been painful and heartbreaking, and I’m not ready to open myself up to someone else right now or in the immediate future. But my body is craving the attention of a man. It wants to be made love to, to feel the pleasure of having someone close to it through the night. The solution? Get a bed buddy. Now regulars to this blog know that Nana is all in favour of the buddy system, but a newbie such as me is not so …