Yesterday I was privileged to be at the first meet-up for Queer Ladies of African Descent (QLAD), which took place in a Seneglase restaurant in uptown New York. I ate grilled tilapia, couscous and kelewele in the company of some of the nicest ladies I have met in a long while.
C and I were ‘doing’ kokonsa (gossiping) during the meeting about a party of 4 women and 1 man that were sitting to the right of our table. ‘Are they all his wives?’ C asked me…a little while later I nudged her, “Look, look she’s arguing with the other women. I heard her say, “He’s my husband”.
T & C have been in a relationship for …

Last night I went to a strip club for gay guys. Of course this fact, in and of itself, would be unremarkable until you consider that I went alone, in an unfamiliar city, and that I’m a girl who likes (mostly) girls. WTF you ask? That’s more like it.
Admittedly, I started out the evening armed with googlemaps directions to a lesbian bar within walking distance, but true to clueless form, I got lost. Turns out it didn’t matter anyway because after asking the poster child for butch lesbians (tattooed, clad in a black leather jacket, jeans and worn boots), I was informed that the place is closed on Mondays; her eyes said “oh, you poor …

Don’t kid yourself, I can steal your wife if I wanted.
It amazes and amuses me how flippant most married men are of lesbian relationships. A bisexual friend of mine’s hubby actually asked her rather incredulously “what are u really gonna leave me for a girl?” my answer if I were in her shoes would have been hell yea!
See good brothers you need to know that only a woman knows how to love another woman best. You can try and some men do try but you can’t know my body better than I know it. Another woman has the same body as your wife does & if she wants to please your wife its likely she’s …

Vagina is for lovers
Yes, I said it! So what? You were thinking it…were you not? I guess this must be one of those topics where I think everybody is on board.
Here’s what I think. I’m a lesbian for a reason. Contrary to popular heterosexist belief, I was not molested by my father, brother or any other dominant male in my life. I am a lesbian because I love the softness of a woman, I crave a gentle touch and I can appreciate her with all her sexy curves.I prefer breast to chest and when I embrace the person I love, I prefer the feeling of a cushion rather than a steel wall. You feel me?
Vagina …

A friend informed me that today is ‘National Coming Out Day’, and i jokingly said to her, ‘Great, lets come out on the blog today’.
A few minutes later I check my twitter account and www.feministing.com have a link to a post on ‘Happy Coming Out Day’…I liked the following quote from their site:
“It’s well documented that the more people someone knows who are LGBTQ, the more accepting they are of queer folks.
So find someway to celebrate today, even as an ally who supports everyone regardless of sexual orientation or gender expression”
Personally I think its important for ‘straight’ people to speak up on issues of gay rights. A couple of weeks ago one of my boyfriends …

A couple of things that have been on my mind/been discussing with friends:
* Is it inevitable that Ghanaian men will cheat when in a relationship?
* Are women cheating in response to cheating partners?
* Should we start dating women instead of men?
* Why is it that the guys you fancy do not fancy you, and the ones who fancy you, you don’t fancy?
What are your thoughts?