bits, 0, 1, 1, 0
and the click-clacking of keys
bytes, 1, 1, 0, 1
and the buckling of knees
… I sit blown to
bits by the you
that comes through in bits and
bytes… or bites
I’m not a fan of long distance relationships, but given my track record, you’d never guess – I was a card-carrying member of the ‘ball and looong chain brigade’ for many years. Monogamy is not in our nature as human beings and while it may be easier for some than for others, I think we can all at least agree that eyes (amongst other things) will sometimes stray. Throw in time differences, butt-stiffening bus rides, expensive plane tickets and a couple of TSA enhanced pat-downs, …

[The following is a fictional BBM conversation between two friends]
Ato: What are you up to?
Hawwa: Not much. You?
Ato: I’m bored, hungry and horny
Hawwa: Wow! That exact combo? Lol
Ato: Yep!
Hawwa: Talking of horny…
Ato: Yes?
Hawwa: My friend and I have been thinking about having a threesome…
Ato: Are you serious?
Hawwa: Yep!
Ato: Another woman or a guy?
Hawwa: Another woman…and I want you to be the guy
Ato: I’m so in! Pun totally intended J
Hawwa: Lol!
Ato: So who is the other chick? Is she hot? Have you done her before?
Hawwa: Yeah she’s totally hot
Ato: And…
Hawwa: Yes I’ve hooked up with her before
Ato: I didn’t know you were into girls
Hawwa: I didn’t know I was into girls until recently
Ato: Wow! So when …

Don’t kid yourself, I can steal your wife if I wanted.
It amazes and amuses me how flippant most married men are of lesbian relationships. A bisexual friend of mine’s hubby actually asked her rather incredulously “what are u really gonna leave me for a girl?” my answer if I were in her shoes would have been hell yea!
See good brothers you need to know that only a woman knows how to love another woman best. You can try and some men do try but you can’t know my body better than I know it. Another woman has the same body as your wife does & if she wants to please your wife its likely she’s …

Maybe this is inspired by my being scandalised watching Uti prance around the Big Brother house in his boxer-briefs, on day 87 of the just-concluded Big Brother All Stars.  It got me thinking… not because I was turned on in anyway.  His legs are too skinny for me. With my own small thighs it would be like stick-fighting in bed.
Anyway, the point here is this: do you care how the package is wrapped? Or is it just enough that there is a package in the first place?  Men these days go on about how we African women get too comfortable in a relationship and ditch the sexy lingerie …

Historically there have been some categories of people that I thought it was completely out of the question to date/hook up with:
* My friend’s ex
* The friend of an ex
* The brother (sister or any relative) of an ex
* Someone who liked my friend first (before deciding that he liked me)
As far as I was concerned it was nothing short of treachery for any friend of mine to date my ex. I remember and my group of college friends and I ostracising a mutual friend who started dating my ex boyfriend. We were so mean to her and eventually the guy in question did not treat her much better.
At a party in Accra several weeks …

I found myself getting irritated Saturday afternoon, I was at my favourite Auntie’s grooming & nails centre (Q’ticules & Nails, 8 Volta Street, Airport Residential) and the radio was tuned to Joy FM which was transmitting a live feed of the presentations being made at their Bridal Fair. I hadn’t been irritated throughout the presentations. In fact I had enjoyed the presentation by Bernice Sam who spoke about the legal aspects of marriage and reminded the audience and Joy Fm that the Bridal Fair needed to be more diverse in recognizing that in Ghana there are 3 legal forms of marriage – traditional, Christian and Islamic. That led me to turn and say to my …

I have to confess, I have political ambitions. 2 years ago I thought maybe I should aim to be a Member of Parliament and work my way to being a Minister (I quite fancy being Minister for Information). The ultimate of course would be to run for President but as a person with dual nationality that office is out of my reach. I then started this blog (on a whim) and thought ‘I guess I can’t run for public office again’.
One of the strategies used to control women’s behaviour is labeling. So much import is placed by society on how a woman is supposed to act, and straying beyond certain parameters can lead to …

A friend cracked me up some time ago when she said to me,
‘Nana I don’t want to fall in love with X. Tell me what to do’.
Yes, falling in love with the man you’re shagging is a bad idea. A very bad idea, especially when the relationship revolves purely or mainly around sex.
Quite a few women I have spoken to tell me that the longer they sleep with someone, the more they begin to connect with them emotionally. An emotional connection in a buddy relationship is problematic for a number of reasons. Here are some hypothetical (yet true to life) situations that make falling in love with your buddy difficult:
• Your relationship …

A few weeks ago i became ‘re-acquainted’ with my cousin Boakyewaa Glover when i bumped into her at a bar in Accra. She invited me to the launch of her book ‘Circles’ (which I’m totally engrossed in at the moment), and coincidentally we were both invited to a radio station the day after her book launched to speak on why so many ‘accomplished’ women are single. We followed up by meeting later for a drink and since we’re fans of each others writing decided to do a tag post. Check out www.boakyewaaglover.com for her version of Sexual Lessons and see below for my side of the tale:

From one ex (ex is a term i am …

Sometime last year, some of you may recall that Nana and I took an excursion to look for sex toys while she was here in Atlanta. In that time, she made it clear that she did not care for ‘coital enhancing’ lotions and creams…she was more interested in battery operated hardware. Previous to that moment, I had not given much thought to what a woman’s possible aversion to body smears could be. A few nights ago, I found out what one of those causes may be.
I’ll come right out and say. For the past couple of weeks I’ve been a little parched in the panties. No magic tricks my husband has pulled out of his …