Shane asked on a post some weeks ago if I could write a post on the merits of Mechanical versus Manual Stimulation so here goes…
For me pleasurable sex is all about my clit. Seriously, you cannot go wrong by paying a little (or a lot of) attention to my clitoris; however you can definitely go wrong when you head straight for the clit as part of foreplay (which really for me is main play. The reason is I prefer for my clit to be touched when I am wet is… a dry pussy/clit and manual stimulation does not go well at all! I really like it when (after I have been sufficiently aroused) my clit …

Being unable to lift youBeing so rounded and so fullI sure cannot eat you wholeSo I go from piece to pieceI discard your black clothingAnd how you’re fleshy insideI take a part and lick it allAnd each next is sweeter stillBeing so big it takes some timeBut I get to the piece I saved for lastAnd like a slave I get to workEven when all the juice is goneEven when all the fruit is goneI know I am hungry stillI stay long enough to killTill what’s left has got no tasteBut still I am in no hasteFinally I have to let goI’ll not hunger for one weekAnyway I’ll be too weak.
Nana Yaw Asiedu blogs at …

A post on abstinence on a blog that seeks to provide a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more… Well, why not? When I read the request to write a post on abstinence I had to laugh. I laughed because I haven’t ever made a conscious decision to practice abstinence and frankly I do not want to be celibate. I have had conversations with one of my friends on the subject of abstinence several times but I don’t really feel like celibacy is for me.
I suspect that there are a variety of reasons why people practice abstinence. One of my girlfriends is celibate at the moment because her last relationship ended …

Today I delivered a guest lecture to students at a 6th form college and one of them came up to me and said “Are you the same person who writes on the blog Adventures from”? My response was of course “Yes” but it got me thinking…
A fellow blogger was saying to me a few days ago that I should designate my blog as an adult site. He made me laugh because he was like “I can’t read about that…”, “you can’t read about what exactly“? was my response. He replied “you know what I mean, don’t drill me“. I laughed because he did not even want to mention the word sex. I understood though, …

The quality of sex you have with your lover/partner can be greatly improved by the amount of self confidence you have which comes from amongst other things, loving your body.
I personally can share a few experiences.It is not that I didn’t love my body in the past; it is just that I didn’t really pay much attention.
As the years have gone by and various things have happened I have paid more attention to my body, negatives and positives and listened to what various lovers, male friends and acquaintances have had to say about me. Honestly, I wish I had maximized my assets when I was younger, however it is never too late to start afresh.
As …

Over dinner and drinks with my girlfriends yesterday the subject turned to men and sex. In terms of our sexual “tastes” the menu was diverse. There was of course:

The “sex and sexuality blogger“, yours truly
The ” I’ve got to have it two times a day“, at least and “Oh, I have whole body orgasms“
The ” I really can’t be bothered about sex“
The “I love to play” and I’m heading to the sex shop soon with my current playmate for some toys
The “I love sex but not having any” since my relationship ended

What are your sexual tastes? One of my girlfriend’s gave us a good laugh when she told us about having sex in a …

I met Dark Skinned Brother (DSB) on a night out with friends and immediately our conversation was underpinned with sexual undertones.
He was confident, strong, bold and very sexy. His voice always got to me…..deep and velvety smooth…
There were times when we made love and it was beyond the physical……Sometimes we fucked, fast and furious, satisfying the animal urges within us.We had sex in public places, laughing throughout the whole experience and sometimes we just hugged and slept in each other’s arms.
The lesson I learnt from my relationship with DSB was that when you are in tune with someone, on all levels of human existence (which we were), it doesn’t matter what kind of sex you …

In a few minutes it will be International Women’s Day (that’s assuming you live in the same time zone as I do). On this day I wish for all women:

The right to safer sex

The right to an orgasm. Heck! the right to multiple orgasms…

The right to let go of all cultural and social taboos that restrict and limit women’s sexualities

Nana Darkoa

Yesterday, myself and two of my girlfriends watched a production of The Vagina Monologues at the Efua Sutherland Theatre, University of Ghana, Legon. I was keen to watch the production, especially because The Vagina Monologues was banned in Uganda. I do not know the official reason given for the ban but I do recognise that some African states prevent women from openly speaking up about their sexuality (read Vagina in the case of The Vagina Monologues) so i felt really excited that in Ghana we can openly watch The Vagina Monolgues.
One of the most interesting portions of the monologue was when the women demonstrated the various sounds they make when climaxing. There was “Oh, oh, …

Love making, sex, shagging, intercourse, fu*king, boning … do they describe the same act? I would argue not.
For me making love depicts an act of tenderness. I imagine candles, soft music, clean sheets, massage oils and an outpouring of emotion. With making love you have got to be in love with the person you are having ‘sex’ with.
Having sex on the other hand does not need to involve the emotion of love. Sex needs physical attraction, chemistry and lust. The candles, soft music, clean sheets, and massage oil become part of a rationally thought out process … it helps to get you into the mood.
What’s your preference and why? Love making or sex?
Nana Darkoa
P.S: This …