The quality of sex you have with your lover/partner can be greatly improved by the amount of self confidence you have which comes from amongst other things, loving your body.
I personally can share a few experiences.It is not that I didn’t love my body in the past; it is just that I didn’t really pay much attention.
As the years have gone by and various things have happened I have paid more attention to my body, negatives and positives and listened to what various lovers, male friends and acquaintances have had to say about me. Honestly, I wish I had maximized my assets when I was younger, however it is never too late to start afresh.
As …

Over dinner and drinks with my girlfriends yesterday the subject turned to men and sex. In terms of our sexual “tastes” the menu was diverse. There was of course:

The “sex and sexuality blogger“, yours truly
The ” I’ve got to have it two times a day“, at least and “Oh, I have whole body orgasms“
The ” I really can’t be bothered about sex“
The “I love to play” and I’m heading to the sex shop soon with my current playmate for some toys
The “I love sex but not having any” since my relationship ended

What are your sexual tastes? One of my girlfriend’s gave us a good laugh when she told us about having sex in a …

I met Dark Skinned Brother (DSB) on a night out with friends and immediately our conversation was underpinned with sexual undertones.
He was confident, strong, bold and very sexy. His voice always got to me…..deep and velvety smooth…
There were times when we made love and it was beyond the physical……Sometimes we fucked, fast and furious, satisfying the animal urges within us.We had sex in public places, laughing throughout the whole experience and sometimes we just hugged and slept in each other’s arms.
The lesson I learnt from my relationship with DSB was that when you are in tune with someone, on all levels of human existence (which we were), it doesn’t matter what kind of sex you …

In a few minutes it will be International Women’s Day (that’s assuming you live in the same time zone as I do). On this day I wish for all women:

The right to safer sex

The right to an orgasm. Heck! the right to multiple orgasms…

The right to let go of all cultural and social taboos that restrict and limit women’s sexualities

Nana Darkoa

Yesterday, myself and two of my girlfriends watched a production of The Vagina Monologues at the Efua Sutherland Theatre, University of Ghana, Legon. I was keen to watch the production, especially because The Vagina Monologues was banned in Uganda. I do not know the official reason given for the ban but I do recognise that some African states prevent women from openly speaking up about their sexuality (read Vagina in the case of The Vagina Monologues) so i felt really excited that in Ghana we can openly watch The Vagina Monolgues.
One of the most interesting portions of the monologue was when the women demonstrated the various sounds they make when climaxing. There was “Oh, oh, …

Love making, sex, shagging, intercourse, fu*king, boning … do they describe the same act? I would argue not.
For me making love depicts an act of tenderness. I imagine candles, soft music, clean sheets, massage oils and an outpouring of emotion. With making love you have got to be in love with the person you are having ‘sex’ with.
Having sex on the other hand does not need to involve the emotion of love. Sex needs physical attraction, chemistry and lust. The candles, soft music, clean sheets, and massage oil become part of a rationally thought out process … it helps to get you into the mood.
What’s your preference and why? Love making or sex?
Nana Darkoa
P.S: This …

It’s official. The results from our first poll are out and those who voted want us to blog on:
1. More sex tips and techniques2. A good sexual encounter3. Diverse sexualities4. Some facts/research on sex
Thank you to all those who took time to vote, we shall aim to please.
Fairly recently one of our readers asked if any of us have ever “experimented” with women and requested for a post on “Sex tips for women who sleep with women” or chronicles a la “share and share alike”.
There are some “issues” that I only …

I guess it is only fair after writing ‘Sex tips for men who sleep with women…’ that I follow it up with ‘Sex tips for women who sleep with men…’
In my previous post I said that the very way most of us have sex is more likely to result in pleasure for the male body rather than the female body. So, it stands to reason that if women want to have better sex then they need to take more control over the sex act(s). Ladies, I don’t know about you, but when I take control in bed I am always guaranteed a great time. After all, you know best what your body wants and needs. …

This blog has been inspired by Kwaku who wanted a few tips for men as ‘women are so complicated’. I always get baffled when men say women are complicated. Two almost contradictory thoughts tend to pop into my mind.
1. Women are really not that complicated.2. Actually it’s a good thing to be ‘complex’. Being ‘complex’ implies you are interesting, that there is more to you than meets the eye, that your thoughts are not just one dimensional but multi-dimensional, layered and multi-faceted…
So what would you rather be?
Hmmm, where do I start when it comes to giving sex tips to men who have sex with women? …

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My grandmother and I shared what I consider a unique relationship. Having no daughters of her own (she bore four sons), she often referred to me as “her daughter”. I was also her namesake and I’ve always considered both titles an honor.

Our relationship was unique to me because unlike so many of my friends’ grandparents, she was uncommonly open about the details of her private and personal life. I remember one conversation we had while sitting on the veranda in our house in Labone. I’d just finished my homework and was listening to the sounds of the residential area, content from a meal of boiled yam, plantain and palava sauce that …