A reader asked me a while ago to blog on ‘vaginoplasty’. I had completely forgotten about that request but earlier today I was browsing through comments on ‘Adventures’ and saw that request.
Vaginoplasty makes me think ‘ouch’. Why would anyone want to have vaginal surgery? I can understand that women who have survived FGM for e.g. might choose to have surgery to make it easier to have sex, give birth or make menstruation easier but from where I sit its hard to understand why anyone else would choose to have a surgeon trim or tighten their ‘bits’.
Like some of you I have watched one or two of those reality shows where women undergo vaginoplasty, and I’ve …

Vagina is for lovers
Yes, I said it! So what? You were thinking it…were you not? I guess this must be one of those topics where I think everybody is on board.
Here’s what I think. I’m a lesbian for a reason. Contrary to popular heterosexist belief, I was not molested by my father, brother or any other dominant male in my life. I am a lesbian because I love the softness of a woman, I crave a gentle touch and I can appreciate her with all her sexy curves.I prefer breast to chest and when I embrace the person I love, I prefer the feeling of a cushion rather than a steel wall. You feel me?
Vagina …

Whoopi Goldberg refers to hers as a Punany, six-year old Kate calls hers tata, Annie cheekily calls hers her va jay jay, Steve calls mine a Punkie and Dufie calls hers a pussy.
I don’t have a name for mine. Why? because I tend to only refer to it in a sexual context. Either I am telling someone to do something to it or with it…and in that instance I call it whatever they call it.
As an 18 year old College student watching the Vagina monologues, I was moved to tears. The stories of the liberated women in the vagina monologues were confrontational, reflective, challenging and beautiful. The only relationship I had with my virginal …