When I was in secondary school there was nothing better than having a boyfriend who was a couple of years older than you were. When I was in Form 3, my boyfriend was in Lower 6. Having an older boyfriend was a bit of a status symbol, and I kind of grew up with that as my norm – older boyfriends I mean 🙂
Ages ago, I wrote a post where I shared some of the concerns I would have about dating a younger man. I wrote that post on 5th June 2009, and I’m really going to have to eat some of my words here. Okay not ALL the words because in re-reading that post I recognise that all the fears I had about ‘dating’ younger men are real and still ever present, BUT somehow I have found that in the past 2 years the vast majority of my sexual relationships have involved people younger than I am. A few of them have been significantly younger, 9 years younger being the biggest age gap at the moment. Now if you had told me 3 years ago that I would be doing the horizontal tango with someone who is the same age as my youngest sibling I would have thought that was inconceivable so what the h*ll happened to me?
Well, first of all I dated M for about a year. M was one of those where there was a significant age gap, but intellectually and sexually we were on a par. Plus M was one of the rare ‘young’ ones whose finances matched mine so we were able to do the things we liked to do – eat in fine restaurants, go bar hopping, attend concerts…Part of my fear of dating younger ones is being unable to do what I want to do because the other person cannot afford it.
There are a couple of things I’ve discovered since I started ‘dating’ younger people:
- There are tons of smart young people out there who are on their grind and have huge visions, which they are working to achieve.
- These young people are FREAKY! They don’t have a lot of the hang-ups older people have about sex, and are down with exploring their sexuality.
- Younger people (in the mid 20s age range) tend to be in peak physical condition, so are a joy to look at and feel.
So yeah, I’m kinda eating my words right now…