For the purpose of this article, I’m going to divide men into three groups; the Normal guy, the Open-to-Trying guy and the Badass.
You know into which your man falls so act accordingly. Please note, it’s not always easy to get a man to jump categories if he does not show the desire to do so himself, so save yourself a lot of heartache and just find the man that suits you.
1) The basic/normal guy: This guy enjoys a good fellating as part of sex but might not/never have given his partner head in return because he does not believe that it is ‘the done thing’ or thinks that area generally ‘unclean’ for anything other than his penis and is concerned about ‘menses’. He might use his hands from time to time but only through your clothes or underwear. Now, I wouldn’t normally touch this dude with a barge pole but you probably love him – sucker – and are willing to do what it takes to please him.
First start with touching this guy all over his body, but do not linger because that would be weird. Also, do not go anywhere near his buttocks or arsehole. He is not gay, you silly mare, as I’m sure he’s probably told you.
Next, move all his clothes away from your target – you don’t have to take them all off, but make sure that his dick is free of zippers and elastic bands. Give it a few firm strokes with your hand. You can use lubricant for this but if you’re worried about swallowing non-edible products like Vaseline (I don’t recommend using this. Are you trying to fry something?!) or lotion, a nice dollop of saliva will do. Drink some water to get the nice, clear type flowing.
If you want to add variety, use both hands to pump up and down, but try moving your hands around his dick in opposite directions.
When he is firm enough slip him in your mouth. Tuck your teeth behind your lips – no man wants to be reminded he is sticking his precious appendage into an orifice used to masticate things to a pulp. Not everyone can deep-throat so if you find that he is hitting the back of yours, wrap a hand around the base of his dick to shorten what goes into your mouth. If he has way too much girth for your comfort level – mandibular dislocation is a thing – then he will just have to content himself with you sucking on the head of his dick. You can still have fun if this is the case. The number one secret to eating dick like a pro is that you have to love what you’re doing.
Use your tongue to stimulate the underside of this dick as it goes in and out of your mouth. You can also stick it in the eye of his penis, a personal favourite of mine. It’s amazing how open it can get at this point. Do NOT blow into it, no matter what. When you are comfortable, try moving your head up and down to take the power of thrusts from him. You don’t want him to go too deep. If you feel brave, lie down and let him control his movements.
If you don’t like the taste of sperm, watch carefully for when he balls start to tighten and rise up. This is your sign that he is about to come. GENTLY tug on his balls just as he feels an orgasm, pinching the head of his penis shut. He should then come without ejaculating. Don’t feel bad if there is still some liquid. Practice makes perfect.
Your ‘normal’ man may like it pretty straightforward but if he is the kind that takes a while to come, try having some props nearby; gargling some cold or hot water (not icy or err…boiling) can change the sensation he gets. Likewise peppermints in your mouth (if you must use Altoids, do not use more than one. Those things are curiously strong) or TomTom or Trebor sweets will be nice and tingly in between sucks and licks. Fizzy water is good too.
Naturally it’s up to you whether you spit or swallow. But I find that swallowing means less to clean up afterwards.