For this month’s vlog topic, I am discussing how women can protect themselves from the dangers of a fauxnogamous relationship. Fauxnogamy manifests a little differently than mere adultery, in my opinion. Adultery suggests that a cheating spouse may have had a lapse (or series of lapses) in judgement and carried on an affair with one particular partner. Fauxnogamy – a term coined by Kobby Graham – is indicative of a system of accepted cheating, where male fidelity is a myth and a man can have as many girlfriends and lovers on the side as he wants with no expectations of responsibility.
If we are going to accept a system of fauxnogamy as our new reality (and I’m not saying we should…I think it’s absurd), then we need to have a discussion about how to keep women safe in these marriages that are little more than a trap. Conventional wisdom would say just leave, but it is not often that easy. How do you approach condom use with a cheating spouse? Should you deny your cheating partner sex? Should you demand that he use protection while he’s playing the field? How does one even gather the strength to ask these questions?
Over to you, Adventurers!