My boyfriend is in abrokyire for like two nights, and the one thing we agreed he needs to prioritise going shopping for was some delectable edible lube. When I started having sex eighteen years ago, lube wasn’t a thing for me. I just had no concept of how good quality lube can enhance sex. I remember in those faraway days of my early sex life, buying some banana lick thingy from a sex shop, and it was so sickly sweet that after using it once I relegated it to the bottom of my sex drawer (everybody has one right? The drawer where you keep your sex toys, condoms etc) never to be used again. And several years going shopping at a women’s only sex shop in London and my friend telling me about this amazing lube that she said felt just like a woman’s wetness. I still wasn’t on the lube train though so wasn’t particularly interested. Skip forward to a decade and now GOOD QUALITY LUBE is EVERYTHING to me. Which is why I was so shocked that my co-blogger Malaka found the very suggestion of needing lube offensive . So I thought I would share what I like about quality lube, and put out a poll to find out whether people are generally pro lube or anti lube.
So here are a couple of reasons why I’m a fan of good quality lube:
- It takes me ages to get turned on, and nowadays I don’t have a lot of time but I still want to get jiggy. Preferably in the morning after going to the gym and before starting work. So I don’t have time for the long foreplay that my body prefers, and lube offers a shortcut because I will get more turned on when we get going. And the use of the lube becomes part of the turning on process. Just think of rubbing your clit with lube, or your partners genitals with lube and then you’ll get the picture 🙂
- For me good quality lube is also edible lube. And great lube today (sorry, not the kind you get in pharmacies) tends to be edible, and so you rotate between licking, sucking and stroking your partner. Using lube doesn’t mean you can’t go down on your partner anymore, or s/he on you, or that you can’t 69…you get the picture?
- Lube is essential for kunyaza, a technique said to originate from parts of Uganda and Rwanda where the man uses his dick to stroke the woman’s clit until she cums. Supposedly this is the secret to squirting. Sadly I still don’t squirt with kunyaza (or ahem, I need to get my partner’s permission to try with a Ugandan/Rwandan man who’s an expert) BUT I get pretty amazing orgasms from it.
So can you now see why lube is important to my sex life? I’m curious though. Do you regularly use lube? Why and how do you tend to use lube? Do share, and please fill out the poll via the @adventurefrom Twitter handle
Is lube essential to your sex life?
— Adventures (@adventurefrom) June 5, 2017