We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more...
Published on: 22 July 2016 by in Lesbian
‘Pleasure squared’ by Guest Contributor Naike

My head is resting on a brick wall and I am standing in front of her. I indeed need support to hold my body up because I am using all my effort to stop trembling. We came down together to finish organizing the books that were donated to the church. It was a quiet Sunday […]

Published on: 21 July 2016 by in Sex education
Goal Setting for A Successful Sex Life

As African women, we devote a good portion of our day thinking about ways to live a successful life, whether consciously or not. Though or continent is blessed with an abundance and diversity of resources, we are rarely the beneficiaries of that abundance, though we are the traditional caretakers of those resources. The spirit of […]

Published on: 15 July 2016 by in Creative Non Fiction
Wash The Shower Before You Rent

*This story is inspired by true events   “That bitch!” Ilsa looked up from her cup of rooibos tea as Ryan stormed onto the veranda. He was glaring at his phone, sweating and swearing and sweating yet some more. Ilsa learned over the years that Ryan became easily flustered. It was cute in the beginning […]

Published on: 11 July 2016 by in Creative Non Fiction
La petite mort

Death is… La petite mort. The little death. Sensations deep within me. Clenched muscles… A quickening of breath. Death is… Pleasure New bodies, new textures, new flavors. Death is… A renewal amongst lovers. Death is… Being born anew, a reawakening, rising from the ashes. Death is… Life La petite mort means ‘orgasm’. Share your ‘la […]

Published on: 04 July 2016 by in Creative Non Fiction
‘Friendly Fire is the Worst Fire’ by Nana Oye Odame

There are a myriad of voices to be heard in a cemetery if you listen. There are contented sighs from people enjoying well deserved rest from their labors, gnashing of teeth by evil persons only remembered with curses, and the stunned unrest of people taken suddenly in sickness, accident, or disaster. There is the oblivious […]

Published on: 23 June 2016 by in General Issues
Jeju Ever Consider The Power of Public Nudity?

*When my kids were younger, they would mash their words together when they spoke. Two of the casualties of those frequent oratory crashes were the words ‘did + ‘you’ = ‘dzidju’….or Jeju. I couldn’t resist putting it in my title. Leave me alone. LOL!   At the end of May, the executives of the Ghanaian […]

Published on: 20 June 2016 by in Random
Could ‘FIN Drink’ Be the Key to Unlocking the Fire in Your Libido?

Female in Nigeria (FIN) is a closed group on Facebook, accessible by invitation only. The group has nearly 180K members, and it’s no surprise why. The revelations, testimonies and comments are hilarious, heartbreaking and always thought provoking. There isn’t a day that goes by wherein a status doesn’t cause your jaw to drop. FIN has […]

Published on: 18 June 2016 by in Orgasms
Does Squirting Mean the Sex Was Better?

“I was hitting my girl from the back – and by that I mean I was totally drilling into her ass hole…she loves that…and then she comes and squirts all over me. I was like, ‘Mate! Do that again!’ I think a woman squirting is the loveliest thing I’ve ever seen.” – Real conversation with […]

Published on: 21 May 2016 by in Relationships
Guest Post from Eleanor T.K. – What if Mama had talked about Sex?

Last week was Mother’s Day and this year marks the closest mama and I have ever been. Whatsapp has definitely contributed to building communication between us. Yet while we talk more, we still don’t talk about it (sex) all. We have never gotten around to talking about my experiences with the drunk uncle who tried […]

Published on: 19 May 2016 by in Random
Ananse, Anansewa.

I found this thing I wrote to Nana last year and did not put up, can’t remember why. Figured, now was as good a time as any! For those who don’t know, I keep teasing Nana with these little meetings where I hold my breath and try to see if she recognises me. She still […]