I finally managed to upload this video about my writing process which I filmed on the 19th of June inspired by the fact that my former male BFF @kobbygraham wrote about his when we had both been tagged at the same time...I love Kobby but he is a serial procrastinator and I just could not believe that he had responded to a challenge before me :) Clearly I am not competitive at all... So this video doesn't have much to do ... 

Remember Purple Tussle that I commented about one time having sex against my will and not even being sure about what happenned during that encounter? Well I wrote about that for This is Africa. And A.M. I know you prefer to comment over here so go ahead :P Everybody else, your thoughts over on TIA please. Here's an excerpt. "In conversations with one of my close male friends he shared with me an experience he once ... 

God, I hated when  it rained. It was hard to hear anything above the thunder and the incessant drumming of rain upon the roof, but I did. Three loud bashes on my door threatened to take it off its hinges. It startled me from my assignment which was due in the next few days. If I was not already saturated with information I might have ignored it, but as it was I needed a break from all the facts and numbers, numbers, ... 

We’ve been good friends for over 2 years. To me she was the straightest person I knew, so it came as a huge surprise when she told me out of the blue that she has a girl crush on me. I told her I was flattered and didn’t read much meaning into it, after all a girl crush is nothing but admiration right? A couple weeks later she told me her girl crush was actually sexual, she wanted to have sex with me. Her only ... 

“Let me come over to your side and just rub on you until I come. I won’t enter you.” I was thinking: “fool you mussee lost yo mind cos you aint ever gon enter me if I have anything to do with it!” “Please. You’ve made me this way, now I have to release. You are so fine. You have to help me.”   I was trapped in a pickup truck with a man I did not know. I had met him about five hours ... 

I am horny. Again. I could take care of it myself, or wait for my husband to get home. Increasingly however, I find that it's not dick I think about on some of those days when my husband is away on business and I have to make like a physician and 'heal myself'. It's not what I want. On those days I crave the taste of a warm, slimy pussy and no man,  not even a buck naked Michael Ealy could convince me to stick to dick - ... 

Mwenda was straddled on top of Qata, topless; plaits tousled, white cotton sheets on the rustic bed, crinkled. Her dainty hands were wrapped around his strong neck. He was looking up at her with a bemused look on his face, a mischievous smirk. “Or I just kill you right now,” she declared exasperatedly. *** Qata had been Mwenda’s childhood crush, those years ago. He was then in his mid-twenties, she, a young teen. ... 

Flat. On. My. Back. That’s how I crave you now. I summon your scent into my room, my childhood bed where I nursed my first period cramp and my first unrequited love. There’s a comfort in my bed and the memories it holds. My bed knows all my folds. Knows how I lie when I am happy or hurting. My bed holds me, the way I imagine my mother’s womb held me and allowed me to grow, allowed me to live. Like right now-my bed knows ... 

One of the reasons we all connect so well on this space is because as African women, we have shared or similar experiences with our bodies. Of course there are those lucky anomalies out there who grew up with “non-traditional” African parents who created their own value system, but for the REST of us sex education was very simple: don’t do it. Or more specifically, don’t do it until you’re married. And by the ... 

Awkward! At least that's how this situation felt. Dude was a total hunk and I was hot for him even before first date. I might not have spoken to him enough to get into his head. That's the only way to explain my suddenly flat libido when the condom was in my hand and I was slipping it over his dick... This is just the most uncomfortable situation I have ever been in. I do not even understand how! This very physically ...