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Published on: 06 December 2016 by in General Issues, Heterosexual
‘Working for the d’ by Guest Contributor Efua

Before I broke my hymen, I used to think I did not have a vagina. I would gaze down my lady parts with a magnifying face mirror and conclude I had no tunnel. Then the thin stretch of skin tore. It was over almost immediately and I wondered if that was it. Was this all […]

Published on: 01 December 2016 by in Creative Non Fiction
‘The reluctant celibate’ by guest contributor Cosmic Yoruba

Have you ever been irritated when sex wastes time coming through? I’ve been celibate, willingly and not-so-willingly, for about a year now. My last memories of sex are of my ex repeatedly turning down my advances and of a blip that I’m going to pretend never happened. I’ve been sweeping up the cobwebs between my […]

Published on: 25 November 2016 by in General Issues
‘This Pain…’ by Guest Contributor Tendai Garwe aka Sokostina

[Today marks the start of the #16Days of activism against gender based violence. Share your blog posts on the subject with us]   Am in bliss; total relief; loving every moment in disbelief. Will the pain return or am I in final freedom like a flying leaf.   What is this, its sharp pain and […]

Published on: 23 November 2016 by in General Issues
Let’s talk about consent!

The subject of consent is one that I feel extremely passionate about. What is consent? And under what circumstances do we consent to sex? Can consent ever be taken for granted? Should consent always be vocalised, or can you assume consent? I think this is still the area that a lot of people (*ahem* read […]

Published on: 21 November 2016 by in General Issues
Another baby?

Next year my boyfriend and I are planning to try for another baby. I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand I see next year, the year that I turn 39, or as one of my friends puts it, “your 40th year on earth” as my last chance to attempt to have a baby. […]

Published on: 17 November 2016 by in General Issues
‘Sensuality in New African Writing’ at #AkeFest16

I feel very fortunate to have been invited as a guest to the 2016 edition of the Ake Arts & Book Festival. In a few hours I will be speaking on a panel entitled, ‘Legs Open, Eyes Closed: Sensuality in New African Writing’ alongside some amazing writers including Kiru Taye, Chinelo Okparanta and Toni Kan. […]

Published on: 27 October 2016 by in General Issues
‘How Romance Books Can Serve As Inspiration To Our Sex Lives’ by Guest Contributor Shauna Williams

Having a good sex life isn’t something that just happens. Like any good skill, practice is needed before you reach the top of your game. But not just practicing in the physical form. Yes being sexual with one or more partners is definitely a great way to better know what you and your partner want […]

Published on: 13 October 2016 by in Relationships
Sex and the Differently Abled African Woman

Ever since I moved back to the Continent (I live in the Western Cape of South South Africa), I’ve found myself spending more time indulging in one of my favorite pastimes: People watching. There is a healthy mixture of all sorts of people in the part of the Rainbow Nation where I live, however it […]

Published on: 12 October 2016 by in General Issues
Hard ons and condoms

My friend and I were chatting recently about men who do not like to use condoms, or say that they loose their hard ons when they put on condoms. We both have experience with men who have said this to us and so I’m wondering how wide spread or not this is. In my case […]

Published on: 07 October 2016 by in Creative Non Fiction
Surgical Miscarriage Mismanagement

The first time I fell pregnant I kept my fit bit on, did my 10,000 steps a day, went to the gym three or four times a week and stopped playing squash. I read somewhere that pregnant women could keep up with whatever exercise regime they already had (but this is not the time to […]