We think there is a serious lack of relevant and useful information about the sexuality of African women. This blog is a space for African women to share tips, experiences and more...
Published on: 13 December 2017 by in General Issues
‘Sexy African Visuals’ by Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women & HOLAA!

Over the past few months, Malaka, I and our friends at HOLAA! have been working with a talented artist (spoiler: my partner) to create an amazing set of illustrations depicting African women’s diverse sexualities. We are so excited to share this with the world, and I for one am super excited that we can stop […]

Published on: 10 December 2017 by in Creative Non Fiction
What kind of porn do you watch? By guest contributor Proudly Ugandan

I am sexually sad. I have watched so much porn recently that at one point I genuinely contemplated the idea that someone had bewitched me. I had my suspicions too. Not too long ago an angry young woman found some correspondence between myself and her boyfriend about an AirBnB arrangement. She contacted me of course. […]

Published on: 03 December 2017 by in Lesbian
‘That night!’ by Guest Contributor Mama Mkenya

I was deep in thought wondering how the people in this village in Ndaragwa, Nyahururu felt about having a castle rudely thrust onto them by their wealthy neighbour, when I saw her walk towards me. “May I join you for your walk”, she asks.  And I know it’s happening today. I don’t know exactly what […]

Published on: 26 November 2017 by in General Issues
The sexy bits in ‘When we speak of nothing’ by Olumide Popoola

One of my pet peeves is when authors skim over details in describing sex. When the act of two or more people fucking, making love, being intimate is glossed over or merely implied. I recognise that writing about sex, a bit like speaking about sex is often portrayed as low brow, as if it doesn’t […]

Published on: 19 November 2017 by in General Issues
‘Shopping of a different kind’ by Guest Contributor Mama Mkenya

This morning started out like any other Saturday. See, as a full time working mother, Saturdays are usually super busy. It’s the day I get to “do the yoga” in the morning, grocery shopping, take the kids to play, pick laundry and other mundane chores. I left home at about ten set to go through […]

Published on: 15 November 2017 by in General Issues
Definitions of Femininity

What makes you a woman? What circumstances need to exist in your life to feel as though you’ve earned the title and trappings of womanhood? I ask because there has been a longtime conversation raging in popular culture about what makes a man “a man”. The responses are very limited in range, in my view, […]

Published on: 12 November 2017 by in General Issues
Sex thoughts from the son of a pastor by Guest Contributor Danyl Oppong

I have been thinking a lot about what will happen if I write this. I am a born-again youth leader in my church, son of a pastor, and a bible enthusiast. But I don’t know how I’ll deal with the thoughts ravaging my mind. In my walk to the future, I have uncovered something about […]

Published on: 08 November 2017 by in Erotica
Video: Nana Darkoa reads ‘Three is definitely not a crowd’

I had a lot of fun sharing, reading and being in conversation with the SOAS community about my passion and work documenting the diverse stories around African women, sex and sexualities. Some of you may be familiar with my story ‘Three is definitely not a crowd’, which I read in the video below. In Nollywood […]

Published on: 05 November 2017 by in General Issues
3 reasons why relationship are not all that

Yesterday I had the pleasure of being in conversation with my sister-activist-friend Dr Njoki Wamai at an event hosted by the Queens College Feminist Society and FLY- Women of Colour Forum. One woman shared that she and a friend had concluded that perhaps they had to give up on the possibility of finding good relationships […]

Published on: 29 October 2017 by in General Issues
Sexual pleasure is a right

In January 2009, Malaka and I began blogging about sex and sexualities. For me the inspiration had been going on a girls holiday with a group of women from different African countries, and having the most open, non judgemental conversations about sex that I had ever had (at the time). I knew that I wanted […]