I grew up in the church. That probably tells you a lot about how I’ve been conditioned to think about sex and pleasure, especially as it relates to me as a spiritual being. I hadn’t always internalised the shameful messaging I was taught about sexuality. I remember being 10 or 11 years old and starting to notice things about myself and my body. I enjoyed the tingling feeling I got when I peed and then wiped myself afterwards. My growing …
Category: Sexuality
Written by Remi * Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual harassment, sexual assault and homophobia. I started to consume BL and ‘yaoi’ content in my early teenage years. Most of the ‘sex scenes’ were in fact sexual …
I was in my first year of university when I owned my first toy. I was always that girl everyone knew to be sex-positive, open and free about sexual health and pleasure. So when a classmate …
At home, I treat myself to a glass of pinotage, a springbok carpaccio and avo salad. I giggle at the subconscious choice to have a light meal, something I would usually do if I had reason …
Here’s the thing: polar hierarchies in sex don’t interest me. At all. I find nothing remotely desirable about being dominated or dominating someone else, mimicking rape or coercion, being hit or whipped. It’s not because I …