They say when you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas, and nothing puts a damper on any sexual experience, clandestine or otherwise when you get out of bed with proverbial “fleas”. These include STDs (herpes, the “clap” or *shudder* AIDS), parasites (like crabs and body lice) or the occasional blastocyst, which left unchecked will become a cute little baby boy/girl in 9 months.
As fun as sex often is and can be, it is one of the most dangerous activities an African woman on the continent can engage in. With dubious and perverse men running around engaging in hybrid sex with multiple partners (some human and some not), they introduce all kinds of elements into the sexual experience that can leave a woman devastated. It’s estimated that 1 in 20 women will die in childbirth in Africa (1 in 7 in some parts of the continent) in contrast to more developed parts of the world where the rate of risk is 1 in 100. Some experts say the most dangerous thing an African woman can do in her lifetime is to get pregnant and attempt to deliver a baby. Let me quickly say I am not anti-birthrate. I’m just saying in this new century, African women need to be empowered to take control of their own bodies and their destinies. That means equipping ourselves with knowledge, down to the last tomato selling villager and choosing to engage in sex only when we choose to.
But for those of us who are internet savvy and have access to “dot com”, please learn as much as you can about your sexual partner before hopping in the sack with him/her, and always (always!) use protection, no matter what their protests may be. Take it from me, it makes all the difference from a life of peace and several trips back and forth to see a judge trying to figure out child support and visitation.
Happy banging my friends.
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You know what I really want to talk about? How we know all this stuff intellectually yet never seem to practise it. I think most people have bought into condom use but not getting tested before starting a relationship with each new partner (including myself). We seem to get caught up in the moment forgetting that the consequences could last forever
This is true! Intellectually, I think we all know that we should always use a condom or do SOME sort of preliminary interview with the person you’re about to hop in the sack with, but that puts a damper on the “heat” of the moment, doesn’t it? I suppose that’s why we even have women/men with Phd’s caught up in foolish life long drama. This is something to explore!
Could it be that sex is fundamentally about the life (reproductive) instinct (bastardized Freud and Darwin), no matter how much we make obeisance to HIV/AIDS and the other arguments against barrier method sex?
Happy Banging?? LMAO
Kofi, you could be right.
I personally think it is a mindset & if we work harder on always using protection, it will eventually become a habit.
@Kofi: That’s something to ponder!
@Mike: Happy Banging! I think that will be my standard holiday greeting in lieu of Happy New Year or Happy Independence Day. I totally agree with you. It is indeed a mindset. Once you put something into practice it will eventually become a habit and then a part of your behavior.