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Published on: 22 February 2014 by in Lover of Her Sole, Series

So these were to be the instruments of her torture. Six inch cloth strips. A flat wooden spatula. A bubbling pot of molten wax – all waiting to do the bidding of the grim faced Jamaican woman clothed in a white lab coat. In a few minutes – fewer if she was lucky – the […]

Published on: 20 February 2014 by in Lesbian

I never came with you So I’m gonna go You never waved in the way you moved even when I showed you how to sway your waist your hands were upset that I asked for fast While you crushed my breast and thrust hard till I bleed I was looking through the window She waved […]

Published on: 17 February 2014 by in Lover of Her Sole, Series
LOHS: Heel Me

  The entrance to the Amakom Children’s Park was a sad sight. The fence surrounding it had long fallen into disrepair, the ground was overrun with weeds and what were certainly once splendid shelters were reduced to ruins. It all seemed very ghostly, as though the souls of children who once played there and those […]

Published on: 15 February 2014 by in Creative Non Fiction

The sound of the key card entering the door woke Marissa from her light sleep. She had only laid back down moments before after ushering her girlfriend off to the airport for her 10 am flight. She kept her eyes closed and slowed her breathing down to simulate sleep. She could feel Ray’s presence enter […]

Published on: 13 February 2014 by in Relationships
‘Small Boys’ versus ‘Older Women’

Agyaakoo, one of our guest contributors sent me this image he took somewhere in Accra, Ghana. It gave me a good laugh, and I thought I would share it with you all. Malaka you see, the small boys are clearly listening to you.

Published on: 13 February 2014 by in Lover of Her Sole, Series

Two months. It had been two months since Pomaa had taken on three of Uncle Ekow’s projects and seen them to completion. Pomaa still had not been paid for her labor. That was the funny thing about nepotism is that it’s infested with assumptions. Pomaa – and rightly so – assumed that she would be […]

Published on: 11 February 2014 by in General Issues
Join our ‘Metamorphosis of Love’ hangout on Valentine’s Day

Our next hangout takes place this Friday, 14th February at 17:00 GMT. The topic to be discussed is the metamorphosis or evolution – if you will – of love or its perception from the African woman’s context. What were you taught about love as a young woman, and how did those concepts change if at […]

Published on: 10 February 2014 by in General Issues, Relationships

My boyfriend is a very giving and attentive lover. He uses sex to express things that he sometimes has trouble saying out loud. Like before he told me he was falling in love with me his body had made it clear by wrapping my arms tightly around him while he was coming and asking me […]

Published on: 05 February 2014 by in Lover of Her Sole, Series

Nhyiaeso is a suburb of Kumasi, and there are five women who have – and always will – run it. Auntie Dina was a reformed go-go dancer who had found Christ in 1979. That was the year disco died. She had buried her barely there, booty hugging shorts and white boots with the era, but […]

Published on: 04 February 2014 by in Lover of Her Sole, Series
LOHS: Blossoms Blown in the Garden City

The drive to Kumasi from Accra should have only taken four hours. It took Pomaa and Frema six. This is what happened every time Frema “fell in love”. She literally wanted to stop and smell life’s roses. Every few miles of the 200 mile journey, Frema would stop the car to ask traders, artisans and […]