The happy singleton, now that almost sounds like any oxymoron doesn’t it? A few days ago I was listening to one of Ghana’s most popular commercial stations, and heard an advert which more or less said, “This film is the story of 6 successful career women who have everything they could wish for except a relationship”. Arghhh! I am sick and tired of all these films that present single women as unhappy because they are not in relationships. ...  [Read more]

Friday. 5.30pm. Time was of the essence. He had a plane to catch, I’d been stuck in traffic. There was only time to grab the cases, snatch a hug and a kiss goodbye before the dash to the airport. 5.32pm. The hug lasts thirty seconds too long, yet he doesn’t seem as anxious as I. He holds me and as we peel ourselves off each other, he asks, “Will you marry me?” Time stops… Having dated L for almost a year and a half, the question of ...  [Read more]

I promised Nana to write an article for her blog over two years ago. Since then, many things have happened.  At the time, we were at Nana’s house, with this dashing young lady from America with Ugandan blood flowing in her veins. At the risk of objectifying her, I will say she was a looker, the kind that makes you want to go down on your knees and promise her the world, including learning the Kazkh  language. After a wonderful chat, I asked ...  [Read more]

I have a boyfriend! Or maybe I should say a man friend? Or shall I say partner? I like that word ‘partner’. It’s ‘adult’ (unlike boyfriend) and implies someone who shares your life, someone who supports you and is there for you. On the other hand, ‘partner’ sounds a bit faddy daddy’ish and even a little boring. So what can I call my boyfriend/man friend/partner? How about lover? I know it kind of implies a purely sexual ...  [Read more]

Recently, one of our readers (Naa) mentioned in a comment that she has been enduring what I consider a HORRIBLE ordeal for the last 11 years. Her husband, who I assume she has been committed and faithful to (she didn't indicate that she has cheated on him), performs very poorly in the sack. Specifically, he is prone to premature ejaculation and has been for the duration of their marriage. Now, what one person deems as "premature" ejaculation ...  [Read more]

I recently recounted on this forum the very torrid and unfortunately very brief affair that transpired between myself and Ms. S about a month ago. At the time I thought it would be a 'hit-it-and-quit-it', 'wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am' kind of deal and was prepared for that. Boy was I wrong! We’ve communicated almost every single day since then and are making plans to see each other again soon. In the interim, we’ve agreed to what I ...  [Read more]

My dream man will be a feminist. This means he loves women completely and utterly. He has not bought into narrow minded definitions of “womanhood” and thinks a good woman wakes up at 4am to make Koko for him. My dream man is confident, he doesn’t need me to make less money than he does or to be less educated than he is...he wants me to be the best that I can be. My dream man is supportive of my dreams and has dreams of his own too. ...  [Read more]

I am defining a “good” relationship as one in which both parties are happy and fulfilled. However being in a “good” relationship does not always guarantee a great sex life (although a great sex life might be one of your indicators for a good relationship). So here are my thoughts on how to have great sex in a relationship:Remember that sex is important! Sometimes sex gets left on the back burner, what with the demands of work, children ...  [Read more]