The title of this blog is a rearrangement of the International Planned Parenthood Federation’s Byline, 'From Choice, a World of Possibilities' as it is a byline I most identify with and within which I want to locate my thoughts on sex, sexuality and the aging woman!  I like the byline, it seems very innocuous, and we have even been challenged that it does not speak to people nor does it reflect clearly what we do at IPPF where I work, which ...  [Read more]

I’d kissed Greg before when we were children and I wanted to practice for kissing Emeka Umekwe, the most handsome boy on school. He had just transferred from Imo State and all the girls fawned over him except for me. When I fell down in front of the ‘Girl’s Tree’ during break time, all the girls laughed but Emeka helped me up and invited me to his party. "Just bend your head this way," Greg instructed when I bumped noses with him ...  [Read more]

N.D: What is ‘Intimate Pleasures’ and what inspired you to start this business?   I was inspired to start my business Intimate Pleasures Desires of the Heart after having shopped for several friends who never had the courage to venture into a sex shop whilst abroad and select what they wanted. So they’d say, Madam Butterfly you know you have no shame, when next you’re in London please pick up these items for me. Often times, ...  [Read more]

I found my first Mills and Boon book at age eight. Someone had abandoned a bunch of dog-eared, moth-eaten, mouldy romance novels in a box in the corner of my house. When I landed upon them it was like I had completed my journey to the centre of the earth, chale. The men were always rich and handsome and damaged. The dating was always passionate. The sex was always hot. The women were always beautiful. The stories were always filled with longing ...  [Read more]

This is what he asked me as he traced the silky smoothness that had pooled beneath the bend of my knee and was dripping down the back of my calf. “Wet enough to make you feel like you could drown” I answered. “Wet enough to fill a bathtub so I can swim in it?” “I think so. But would you want to?” “I would. I would slather that pussy juice all over my body like lotion. Then I would lick it off every part of my body that ...  [Read more]

Sarah Amuah and Wes tore up the dance floor. People were taking pictures of Wes as he matched her step for step, in perfect rhythm. Belinda tipped the contents of her shot glass into her mouth and slammed it down on the table, face down. I counted. It was her fifth. “Just who does she think she is anyway?” She tossed her choppy bob when its too-long fringe grazed against her fake eyelashes. “She’s Sarah Amuah. She told you,” I ...  [Read more]

"Hey" was what I whatsapp's him just after midnight. I don't even know why I was whatsapp'ing him. I had asked him several times why he would always contact me after the midnight hour even though he has a girlfriend and all he could say would be something along the lines of, "You're a good friend and I like to stay in touch with my friends".  Yeah right. He responded almost immediately:   "What you up to?" "Nothing, I just got ...  [Read more]

Ah, Sarah Amuah. That girl could singlehandedly make peace between warring countries. Or cause war between peaceful nations. However way you choose to look at it, she was a force to be reckoned with. And so it was that seven minutes after we arrived at the joint, I was feeling considerably better. We were early but since it wasn’t a normal night out, the place was already jam-packed and speakers blasted out the latest Nigerian hits. In ...  [Read more]

Wes palmed my right breast and rolled a nipple between his thumb and forefinger. Someone moaned in my ear, a breathy, shuddering thing that was full of as much heat and pain and lust and when I closed my mouth to swallow, I realised that it was me. The minute he licked my neck, I knew it for what it was: a dream. I intended to enjoy it anyway. I was being so good; a thousand times I could have had him in real life. He wanted me. He told me as ...  [Read more]

We're having our very first 'Adventures' event as part of AccraAlt's Talk Party series this Friday, 29th March at the Passions Cafe in Osu, Accra. A couple of writer friends and poets who may or may not have contributed to Adventures - Kuukua Dzigbordi Yomekpe, Nana Nyarko Boateng, Famia Nkansa and Nana Akosua Hanson have agreed to join me for a series of readings, performances and conversation about 'Surviving Sexual Abuse'. This will include ...  [Read more]