So you are in the sack with this guy (or girl) and he (she) says something and you’re thinking “what the ….”.
A couple of the funniest things I have heard or been told about include:
“It will be nice if you could fake an orgasm”
“Where’s your g spot” as Mr X frantically digs about Ms X’s vagina
“Make it tight, make it tight, make it tight” followed shortly by “Aaarghhh, it was too big before”
“Geddit, geddit, geddit”
What are some of the funniest things you have heard, overheard or been told about…

Last Saturday I was invited to be a guest commentator on Joy Fm’s “Home Affairs” programme, hosted by Araba Koomson. The topic was “why do people use sex as a tool in marriage?”
One of my opening gambits was that for the majority of women, sex is not enjoyable; research such as that documented in the Shere Hite Report has indicated that 70% of women generally do not orgasm during sex. If you follow that logic this means a lot of women are having sex purely to please their husbands/partners/lovers so if for any reason your husband/partner/lover upsets you then your reaction is “No sex, until you have done x, y, or z”. If women were …

For some reason just started thinking about all the different types of sex one can have. Here’s what comes to mind, I will start with the obvious ones…
• Vaginal sex
• Oral sex
• Anal Sex
• Dry Humping
• Tantric Sex
• No Sex (does that qualify?)
Surely there must be more…your thoughts?

There is much that thrills me about being thirty something including:
• Being thirty something yet looking like I’m twenty something
• An increased sense of confidence and self worth
• Greater financial and personal freedom
• Being able to easily get on and be friends with people who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s
• Being fancied by men and women who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s
In short, I think it’s great to be thirty something. I also think in your thirties you should be able to grasp opportunities and get what you want out of life. Getting what you want out of life includes personal happiness, financial freedom, mind boggling sex, work/life balance, great friends and a supportive family. At …

Clearly a lot, right, but perhaps not in the way you may initially envisage. As part of my interest in researching sex and sexuality I borrowed this huge tome, “Our Sexuality” by Robert Crooks and Karla Baur* which I will be dipping in and out of and sharing some interesting bits with you all.
What are your thoughts on the following:
” Smell. A person’s sexual history and cultural conditioning often influence what smells he or she finds arousing. We typically learn through experience to view certain odors as erotic and others as offensive. From this perspective, there may be nothing intrinsic to the fragrance of genital secretions that might cause them to be perceived as either …

Why is it that people ask if you’re gay when you stand up for gay rights?
Why do I know so many wonderful single girls and no single men?
Being in a relationships is overrated.
Religious people get married early so they can have guilt free sex
Pre-colonial African women had more control over their own sexuality compared to African women of today
Polygyny should be outlawed
Teenagers should be encouraged to masturbate as part of comprehensive sex education

I find it interesting that the articles that inspired me to write this post both focussed on how much women love to receive oral sex – that a man is not a man if he doesn’t “lick her till Tomorrow comes”.
As far as I’m concerned, yes oral sex is nice, but trust me, if your woman doesn’t know how to enjoy receiving oral sex, you might as well be licking a money’s ass because I can bet you my puny Ministry salary that she’ll be wishing that’s what you were doing instead.
Pussy eating, clam diving, carpet munching, cunnilingus… it’s a fine art – hello! it’s the basis of lesbian sex – but not many …

I have written a guest contribution for Female2Female on the subject “Learning to have good sex”…you can check it out at here
Feel free to leave a comment here too

I have just had a brainwave! I would love to start a series of interviews with readers of this blog – “The Sex Interviews”. Think of it as a normal interview with a focus on sex and sexuality. The interview will be conducted over email, you can be anonymous or open, the choice is yours. Questions will range from fairly innocent (well as innocent as you can be when talking about sex) to risque…
I want to start this as a series so would love to interview as many people as possible, as usual I am primarily interested in the experiences of African women. This is sex research so its for a good cause! If you …

Lately I’ve been experiencing miscommunication. My mind and my body are tuned into different channels. I’ve made up my mind that I do not want a relationship. I’ve just left one. It’s been painful and heartbreaking, and I’m not ready to open myself up to someone else right now or in the immediate future. But my body is craving the attention of a man. It wants to be made love to, to feel the pleasure of having someone close to it through the night. The solution? Get a bed buddy. Now regulars to this blog know that Nana is all in favour of the buddy system, but a newbie such as me is not so …