Historically there have been some categories of people that I thought it was completely out of the question to date/hook up with:
* My friend’s ex
* The friend of an ex
* The brother (sister or any relative) of an ex
* Someone who liked my friend first (before deciding that he liked me)
As far as I was concerned it was nothing short of treachery for any friend of mine to date my ex. I remember and my group of college friends and I ostracising a mutual friend who started dating my ex boyfriend. We were so mean to her and eventually the guy in question did not treat her much better.
At a party in Accra several weeks …

I found myself getting irritated Saturday afternoon, I was at my favourite Auntie’s grooming & nails centre (Q’ticules & Nails, 8 Volta Street, Airport Residential) and the radio was tuned to Joy FM which was transmitting a live feed of the presentations being made at their Bridal Fair. I hadn’t been irritated throughout the presentations. In fact I had enjoyed the presentation by Bernice Sam who spoke about the legal aspects of marriage and reminded the audience and Joy Fm that the Bridal Fair needed to be more diverse in recognizing that in Ghana there are 3 legal forms of marriage – traditional, Christian and Islamic. That led me to turn and say to my …

I have to confess, I have political ambitions. 2 years ago I thought maybe I should aim to be a Member of Parliament and work my way to being a Minister (I quite fancy being Minister for Information). The ultimate of course would be to run for President but as a person with dual nationality that office is out of my reach. I then started this blog (on a whim) and thought ‘I guess I can’t run for public office again’.
One of the strategies used to control women’s behaviour is labeling. So much import is placed by society on how a woman is supposed to act, and straying beyond certain parameters can lead to …

A friend cracked me up some time ago when she said to me,
‘Nana I don’t want to fall in love with X. Tell me what to do’.
Yes, falling in love with the man you’re shagging is a bad idea. A very bad idea, especially when the relationship revolves purely or mainly around sex.
Quite a few women I have spoken to tell me that the longer they sleep with someone, the more they begin to connect with them emotionally. An emotional connection in a buddy relationship is problematic for a number of reasons. Here are some hypothetical (yet true to life) situations that make falling in love with your buddy difficult:
• Your relationship …

A few weeks ago i became ‘re-acquainted’ with my cousin Boakyewaa Glover when i bumped into her at a bar in Accra. She invited me to the launch of her book ‘Circles’ (which I’m totally engrossed in at the moment), and coincidentally we were both invited to a radio station the day after her book launched to speak on why so many ‘accomplished’ women are single. We followed up by meeting later for a drink and since we’re fans of each others writing decided to do a tag post. Check out www.boakyewaaglover.com for her version of Sexual Lessons and see below for my side of the tale:

From one ex (ex is a term i am …

Sometime last year, some of you may recall that Nana and I took an excursion to look for sex toys while she was here in Atlanta. In that time, she made it clear that she did not care for ‘coital enhancing’ lotions and creams…she was more interested in battery operated hardware. Previous to that moment, I had not given much thought to what a woman’s possible aversion to body smears could be. A few nights ago, I found out what one of those causes may be.
I’ll come right out and say. For the past couple of weeks I’ve been a little parched in the panties. No magic tricks my husband has pulled out of his …

So you are in the sack with this guy (or girl) and he (she) says something and you’re thinking “what the ….”.
A couple of the funniest things I have heard or been told about include:
“It will be nice if you could fake an orgasm”
“Where’s your g spot” as Mr X frantically digs about Ms X’s vagina
“Make it tight, make it tight, make it tight” followed shortly by “Aaarghhh, it was too big before”
“Geddit, geddit, geddit”
What are some of the funniest things you have heard, overheard or been told about…

Last Saturday I was invited to be a guest commentator on Joy Fm’s “Home Affairs” programme, hosted by Araba Koomson. The topic was “why do people use sex as a tool in marriage?”
One of my opening gambits was that for the majority of women, sex is not enjoyable; research such as that documented in the Shere Hite Report has indicated that 70% of women generally do not orgasm during sex. If you follow that logic this means a lot of women are having sex purely to please their husbands/partners/lovers so if for any reason your husband/partner/lover upsets you then your reaction is “No sex, until you have done x, y, or z”. If women were …

For some reason just started thinking about all the different types of sex one can have. Here’s what comes to mind, I will start with the obvious ones…
• Vaginal sex
• Oral sex
• Anal Sex
• Dry Humping
• Tantric Sex
• No Sex (does that qualify?)
Surely there must be more…your thoughts?

There is much that thrills me about being thirty something including:
• Being thirty something yet looking like I’m twenty something
• An increased sense of confidence and self worth
• Greater financial and personal freedom
• Being able to easily get on and be friends with people who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s
• Being fancied by men and women who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s
In short, I think it’s great to be thirty something. I also think in your thirties you should be able to grasp opportunities and get what you want out of life. Getting what you want out of life includes personal happiness, financial freedom, mind boggling sex, work/life balance, great friends and a supportive family. At …