Happy New Year, Adventurers! We are back with a bang and ready to take 2025 by whatever protruding part it presents us with. We are all about equal opportunity pleasure over here. Now normally, we would kick off our year with new year sex goals. This year we are doing a little something different for our younger audience. (Yes, we are aware that you’ve been lurking! LOL) Some of you will be having sex for the first time, or for the first time in a very long time. So here are some new year safe sex tips for the uninitiated!
Before you dive into bed, take a moment to dive into yourself—literally and figuratively. Get to know your body, your boundaries, and what brings you pleasure. If you don’t know what you like, how will anyone else? As Tiffany Kagure Mugo says in her book, Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex: “Pleasure is not one size fits all. Find your unique fit.” Explore solo before inviting anyone else to the party. You’re worth it.
Safe sex isn’t just about not getting pregnant; it’s about protecting yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Condoms are your best friends here. And no, they’re not just for penises—there are internal condoms and dental dams too. Stock up on what you need and keep them within reach. Oh, and don’t forget lube! Friction is not your friend, and lube makes everything smoother and more fun.
Sexual health is part of overall health, so get comfortable with regular STI testing. If you’re about to hook up with someone new, have the “when’s the last time you got tested?” conversation. Awkward? Maybe. Necessary? Absolutely. Make it a fun outing—go together, grab some snacks after, and celebrate taking care of yourselves.
Let’s make one thing crystal clear: consent is non-negotiable. And it’s not a one-time thing; it’s ongoing and enthusiastic. If you or your partner aren’t into it, it’s a no-go. Practicing consent can be as simple as asking, “Does this feel good?” or “Can I do this?” Communication makes everything hotter, trust us. Safe sex isn’t just about condoms and testing; it’s about emotional safety too. Check in with yourself before, during, and after any sexual encounter. Are you doing this for the right reasons? Are you comfortable with this person? If the answer is no, hit pause. Your peace of mind is priceless.
Curious about positions, techniques, or how to navigate queer sex? Hit up books like Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex by Tiffany Kagure Mugo. It’s packed with practical tips and written in a tone that feels like a chat with your bestie. There’s no shame in educating yourself—knowledge is power and pleasure.
Sometimes, things don’t go as planned. A condom might break, or you might forget to take your birth control. Don’t panic. Have a plan. Emergency contraception is available, and so are resources to help you navigate the situation. Keep numbers for local clinics handy, and know where you can get tested or treated if needed.
For our queer Adventurers, safe sex practices are just as important. Dental dams, gloves, and even barrier creams can help reduce STI risks during oral and manual sex. And remember, communication is key, especially when exploring new dynamics or kinks. Make sure everyone involved feels safe, respected, and turned on.
Safe sex isn’t just about protection—it’s also about pleasure. If you’re not enjoying yourself, something needs to change. Don’t be afraid to speak up or switch things up. You deserve to feel good, and that starts with being honest about what you want and need. Sex is a journey, not a destination. Keep learning, experimenting, and growing. Whether it’s trying new positions, toys, or techniques, stay curious. Just make sure you’re doing it safely. The more you know, the better your experiences will be.
As we always say in our community, “safe sex is sexy sex.” It’s about respect, trust, and making choices that prioritize your health and happiness. Whether you’re just starting out or getting back in the game, these tips will help you navigate your sexual adventures with confidence and care. And remember, Adventurers, if you’re ever in doubt or need a little more guidance, check out the numerous posts on our site and resources on our sister site holaafrica.org.
Here’s to a year filled with joy, discovery, and epic adventures…in and out of the bedroom. Stay safe, stay sexy, and stay adventurous!
