A lot of us are used to not getting aftercare. There’s the wham bam, we say thank you ma’am and everyone goes on their merry way. As such, we may not even realise that it is a need we have until we experience it that first time with someone who cares about more than the sex.
And because we may not know it’s a need we have, we in turn don’t know that it’s a need we also have to fill for our partners. Aftercare is reciprocal. The more we get, the more we’re inclined to give.
It’s usually in the little things; holding your partner after sex, getting them a drink of water after a particularly draining orgasm, talking about the sex y’all just had, etc
This poem was written and illustrated by Sarah Ijangolet
2 comments On Aftercare – A Visual Poem
Yeah….This one shook me. I have been in this position in the past, and it’s not place I miss. Great visuals and storytelling!
The worst I have experienced is a person who wanted to quiz me on the session we had just had. Mid catching their own breath, they had nothing but a million questions about their performance. Abeg!