When I was growing up my mother used to tell me that she was saving up money so that when she gets to her retirement age, she can have herself moved into an old age home because she knew I wouldn’t look after her. Thinking of it now, the frequency of the conversation should have been a sign, but I didn’t know it then. It was usually a conversation brought on by my lack of desire to do chores of …
Tag: Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women
I need to buy a new nightdress. The one I’ve been wearing is torn all the way down the armpit and around the neck. It’s an old nightdress so it’s paid its dues, so to speak. …
“Nimechoka kupendwa kwa giza kama mihadarati” (I’m tired of being loved in the dark like illegal drugs) My best friend said this to me when we both got turned down at the same time by these …
A story in 3 parts: Part One- The Thirst Tap Don’t Close “Billy’s Hella Fuckable” Like when Lady MC said, “This chair looks hella empty, Needs something to sit on it” That’s what i’d say about …
In 2021, Nana Darkoa and I were brainstorming over how we could expand the ways in which we use this platform to amplify the amazing voices and work of African women, feminists and activists. “I know!” …
“I can’t marry you.” Those were the words that kept ringing in my head ever since he said them to me. My relationship of 3 years ended months ago and while everyone is talking about how …
Whenever my mother’s voice ricochets, I suddenly think of the first night I slept with a man. I think of the moments before he poured his sorrow in me – the ecstasy, the minute euphoria of …
Part One: HOW TO MAKE A PORTION Playlist: I Get Lifted- Snoop Dogg, Wiz Khalifa “It’s witching time!” Open your doors and windows Let the air flow freely through the entirety of your sacred space Light …
Am I afraid to have children? Yes, definitely. Not because of the usual “having people depend on me” type of reason, but the ones along the lines of “if they have a spec of the mischief …
Here’s the thing: polar hierarchies in sex don’t interest me. At all. I find nothing remotely desirable about being dominated or dominating someone else, mimicking rape or coercion, being hit or whipped. It’s not because I …
Let me tell you about this rage- I want to screamLoud and rawAnd scream and scream and screamOn and on and on Until this rage monster inside meThat has been conditioned toBe calm, legs togetherBe kind …
