Do you really care what size the person you’re having sex with is?
Let me give you a brief background into why I set up a poll to ask your opinion on this. By the way the poll is on the right hand side of the home page of the site (just below popular posts so please take some time out to answer the poll).
I was chatting to two of my girlfriends (in separate conversations) a few days ago and all of us were stressing about the amount of weight we had put on. I was complaining that in the past week I had gained a kilo which is sitting around my waistline (add that to the 2 kilos I was supposed to have lost and now I’m 3 kilos heavier than I want to be at my heaviest!) Gifrlfriend 1 was stressing because she’s going to be hooking up with her ultra fit lover in a number of weeks and she’s not happy at all with her body. Cue copious amounts of green tea and an extreme diet. Girlfriend 2 said she definitely does not want to take off her clothes in front of her boyfriend and just wants to wear her most comfy pajamas and get under the covers. This is in spite of her narrating a scenario after a period of weight gain during which her boyfriend affirmed his love for her body by saying, “Your boobs looked hot before, and now they look even hotter”.
So of course I am trying to play the rational friend (in spite of my own weight neurosis) and said to Girlfriend 1 “Ah, don’t worry, he won’t even notice that you have put on weight. Guys don’t notice these things in the midst of action. We are the ones who get super conscious”. “Really?” said Girfriend 2. “Really” I said. I said the same thing to Girlfriend 2. Her response, “Yes, but you know all these rational thoughts don’t make a difference to how we feel?”. “True”, I thought.
So I had a conversation with one of my good male friends. “So does it really make a difference what size the woman you’re having sex with is”. His response “Yes, of course it does. I don’t like to sleep with a woman who is less than a 10 (he is referring to UK dress sizes. A UK size 10 is an American 6), my preference is a 12 on top and a 14 on the bottom. At a size 16 I would say you need to stop eating those pies and an 18 is really scraping the bottom of the barrel”. I have to confess that his response made me laugh but then also made me think “Oh no, do guys really care about size when they’re having sex with you”? “Is this part of the reason why women have so many body neurosis?” The logical part of my brain says to me that confidence (and body confidence) and a sex positive attitude is what is most sexually attractive but the illogical part of my brain is reluctant to reveal my bloated tummy in all its glory.
What are your thoughts on the subject? Please also take some time to answer the poll on the right hand side