You know what sex hair is don’t you? It’s simply the style of your hair after amazing sex. For Caucasian women, sex hair is usually tussled and frames their faces messily, but oddly ‘sexily’. Since Black women’s hair is a lot more versatile, our hair has a larger spectrum ranging from dred locs gone awry, to fuzzy cornrows, to a carefully arranged weave. Since I have been natural for the last 3 years, my sex hair manifests itself as a 7” sloped flat-on-one-side afro.
My husband has informed me that this look is not cute at all. I of course translated this to mean it was not ‘sexy’. Which it in truth, isn’t.
I immediately set about fixing this. If you know anything about Black women, you know that we are extremely sensitive about our hair. You can talk about our weight, our accent, our fashion and in a few instances our children…but the moment our hair becomes the subject of scorn, that’s cause for a fight. That being said, you also know that we don’t just let anybody put their hands in our hair.
So one night, I decided to put my hair into twists, so that in the event of sex, my sex hair would a lot cuter. I was having a hard time twisting the nape of my neck, and enlisted my husband’s help.
“Do you trust me to put my hands in your hair?” he asked hesitantly.
“I trust you to put your penis in my vagina; why wouldn’t I trust you to put your hands in my hair?”
Confused by this sudden approval to tend to my tresses, he fumbled around until he produced something twist-like. The result was great sex and hair. There’s something intimate about letting your partner enter a domain that is otherwise off limits. But like I said, why wouldn’t I let him put his hands in my hair when they’ve been every place else? 😉
Is your hair off limits to your partner? What style do you wear? What does sex hair look like for you?
8 comments On I Want Sex Hair. Can you Give it to Me?
Hahahaha! I love it! As a dread locs sistren I find that for quite a few guys their sexual fantasies of me involves me having my hair down during sex, whereas I prefer for my hair (during sex) to be up and out of the way.
The other issue we need to talk about with black women’s hair and sexuality is what you do to your hair after you have had sex and need to spend the night. On my own I will quickly don my ‘do rag’, but if I’m sleeping over at someone else’s in the early stages of the romance then I might just put it up in a hair band so I can remain ‘sexy’. So so wahala
I wear a weave an I’ve also been hit by the fear of “unsexy” hair in the morning. I’ve gotten over this by making sure I’m comfortable with the person I’m sleeping with. Plus with this whole ‘Brazilian’ hair craze, my hair doesn’t tend to look too crazy in the morning.
I don’t think I’d have a problem w/ my partner wanting to put his hands in my hair. You said it best with “if they’ve been everywhere else….”
Too funny, Abena… one more thing to think about. 🙂
Yes. It’s a ‘hairy’ situation, isn’t it? Har har har! Get it? HAIRY?
I’m corny, I know.
@Abena – Herh! Wa sai pa pa …
Going back to the “7” sloped flat-on-one-side afro”. Wouldn’t matters be helped if y’all changed positions regularly, i’ve a turning on a lathe in mind, you’d end up with a nice little pointy cone. I bet that would be cute….
@Kofi -Lol!! 😀 That’s an excellent recommendation. Or I could avoid the slope altogether by refusing to be placed in a position that would foster its manifestation. Then again, that requires much more work on my part…Pros and cons, pros and cons.
Interesting one. Lets get HAIRY. Lol