I have been propositioned by older men before. The last time it happened it was completely inappropriate, aside from the fact that I considered him to be a mentor he was also married. Recently one of the older men that I enjoy spending time with as a mentor professed his feelings of adoration to me and that he wanted to date me. The man is about 3-4 years younger than my father. Truth be told I do not find the man in the least bit attractive…I mean in the least. We had our first proper “non-business” related conversation and he jumped at the chance to drop hints that he could still get it up (he did it tactfully but I picked up on it) and then once I made the mistake of letting him know that I was still single he took his chance to ask me for a date. I immediately said NO, under no circumstances was I interested in a relationship with him and that I didn’t want to lose him as a friend. He said it was not fair not to at least explore the possibility. He surprised me with some gifts (including jewellery) and told me that he would not pressure me into a relationship. I have always been VERY independent, I don’t rely on men to get me anything in terms of material gifts unless we’re in a relationship and even then I only expect surprises on special occasions (this is something I started to change in my last serious relationship as I realised that I like to be surprised once in a while). Anyway I’ve had female friends who have happily “rinsed”* guys without having sex with them, one had a chap buy her a car, another a sat nav and clothes, another rent repayments…I always just laugh (somewhat bemused at how they managed to get all this stuff and also feeling a little perplexed as to whether my feminist values were somehow holding me back). I have now realised that I have had many opportunities to rinse men, as a business woman I come into contact with many powerful and wealthy men but I have never either wanted to take advantage of my feminine charms and sensuality nor felt the need to. But this situation has stumped me. I’m single, I know what I want, I enjoy his company and he clearly enjoys mine (with added extras) and I KNOW that the closest physical contact he’ll get from me is a peck on a cheek and a hug…so the question I ask you all then is…should I go ahead and let him spoil me for a short while whilst still maintaining our friendship?
Your thoughts please! 🙂
*rinsing a person is the act of accepting gifts from them based on the knowledge that they find you attractive but you will not cross a sexual line to receive these gifts nor is there any promise of sexual favours.