*I sneaked into Yaw Obeng’s room at sunset. I knew that no one would be expecting me home for a couple of hours because I usually spent some time by the riverside every evening just to clear my head. I also knew that there would be no one in his hut at that time of the day. He lived alone although his younger sister came to help him sweep the hut and clean it from time to time.
I had prepared for whatever would ensue. I had wrapped myself with a green cloth that I had which everyone said made my skin look like mahogany. I had tied the shiniest headscarf around my head and oiled my skin with nkuto shea butter till it gleamed. I had sprinkled some talcum powder which smelled like lavender on my underarms and between my thighs. The talcum powder was one of the numerous gifts that Yaw had given me from his shop.
When I got to Yaw’s hut, I gently pushed aside the piece of adinkra cloth that covered the entrance and entered. The room was quite dim because the windows were covered with cloths which had not been pulled aside. I could see Yaw lying on the mat in the room so I moved closer with my heart thumping. “My love”, I said,”I came here to surpr–“. I stopped mid-sentence as the person lying on the mat turned and I saw to my horror that it was not Yaw! It was actually a woman lying on the mat almost half naked. Her lower half was barely covered with a piece of cloth and her breasts were exposed. Her legs were splayed and I could see her waist beads peeking out of the cloth. It took some minutes for me to make out that it was Yaa Biriwa. Yaa Biriwa whom I considered my friend. I started recollecting how she would smile so widely and tease me everytime Yaw came to my house and she was also around. Whenever I showed her a present Yaw bought for me, she would tell me ‘Eii Araba, you are truly a lucky woman! Look at all these gifts that your lover is bringing you. Hmm, as for this your man, we will share him o! I will also marry him me ware no bi!” I would throw back my head and laugh, naively thinking that she was saying all these things in jest. Little did I know that Yaa was indeed very serious about marrying Yaw.
“Yaa, what are you doing here?” I asked her my voice tinged with shock and my body going numb . “Mcheww, what do you mean by what am I doing here? What are you also doing here? Is Yaw your husband and even if he was your husband is he yours alone to keep? Don’t come and disturb my ears with stupid questions this hot evening”. I turned away and fled from the room with tears stinging my eyes. As I was making my way out of the hut, I saw Yaw in a distance. He was coming home. He looked terrified when he saw me emerging from his hut. “Good evening Yaw” I greeted him coldly. “Araba, I-I-I didn’t know you were coming to see me? Wha- Why didn’t you tell me you wanted to see me I was…”. “I’m sorry I didn’t tell you. Anyway, I have to hurry home to help my auntie cook supper. I was just passing by” I said as I walked away. He couldn’t even call me back. He just stood there looking at me, his whole body marked with guilt.
For the next few weeks, I totally ignored Yaw. When I met him in town, I’d mutter a cursory ‘hello’ and then walk past him. I refused to accept any gift he sent me through his younger siblings and returned them all promptly. He came to my house so many times and I turned him away each time. My aunties started asking me to forgive him. They said ‘Ah, Araba, you’re much too stubborn! The man wasn’t even married to you and yet look at how he’s apologizing. Even if he was married to you, is he not a man? Is he not entitled to take on as many wives and concubines as his cutlass can take care of? Why are you being so jealous? Stop disgracing the women in our family and making it look like we are selfish and we cannot share. Why should you as a woman have the mindset that you want your man to be for you alone? This is pure wickedness!’. I would say “My mothers, thank you very much for the advice. I know that I don’t want to share my husband with several women and that is why I don’t want to marry a womanizer. The other women can have him. Money is not everything’. This would make them incensed & they’d go on and on ranting and raving about how I was wasting my chance, how I was being too rigid etc. I was set in my ways and determined not to see Yaw again.
But my determination broke down the day that Yaw followed me to the riverside. He looked so different from the last time I had seen him. He looked haggard, he had lost so much weight and his eyes were blood shot. “Araba, I’ll understand it if you never want to see me again but I beg you please, forgive me. I promise that I will never look at another woman again” tears started streaming down his face. “What I did was really stupid and unforgivable. I should never have done that to you and I know that I have caused you a lot of pain. I don’t know why I did that. I only know that I didn’t want to touch you before I paid your bride price and disappoint your father. You know how religious he has become since he joined that new Pentecost church in our hometown. I should never have even looked at your friend Araba. She showed interest in me and I was so foolish to also follow her instead of thinking about you. Araba, I’m on my knees and begging you. Please, just give me another chance”. I took one look at him kneeling on the hard rocks, tears streaming down his face. He looked like a little boy who had offended his mother and seriously wanted to make amends.
I decided to give him a second chance. How could I not give him a second chance? Yaw, was the first love of my life & I don’t think I have loved any man the way I loved him. We were married less than 3 months later. It was a very low key event. As you know, in Fanti custom, the bride need not be present for her wedding and indeed neither does the groom as marriage is considered as the union of families and not merely the union of individuals. Yaw’s uncles and father went to see my people, my father, uncle, mother and my elders. Yaw’s people took my head drink, comprising of bottles of schnapps and then my bride-price, comprising of some gold dust, to my family. Yaw’s generosity was so evident during the ceremony. My family members gasped as children from his family carried in several cartons of drinks, pieces of wax cloth imported from Holland, several pieces of gold jewelry, expensive soap, talcum powder and perfume. Additionally, the amount of Ghana shillings that he gave to my father and mother to thank them for raising me well and to my brothers as their akonta sekan or ‘sword’ to thank them for protecting me was unsurpassed in our village at that time. In fact, I’m sure that probably only the chief and a handful of other rich men had ever paid that amount for their brides.
After the wedding ceremony, I moved into Yaw’s hut. Yaw was a really understanding and gentle husband. He was such a gentle lover and so patient with me on our wedding night that I don’t even recollect feeling much pain although it was my first time with a man. I had heard horror stories of how some brides would end up bleeding terribly because their husbands were so rough and demanded sex all the time. On the other hand, I heard stories of some terror inducing brides as well! There was this woman in our village about whom it was rumored that she refused to allow her husband to have sex with her unless he carried her on his back and crawled on the floor like a horse. Hahahaa!
I was so elated to be married to Yaw. I had desired this for such a long time and now that my dream had finally come true, I hoped that it would last forever. But dreams are never meant to stay forever….
TO BE CONTINUED
*As narrated to Ekuba by her grandmother. Names and minor events have been changed
20 comments On A dream come true
Hahahahahahahahahahah! Ekuba I am in love. In love with your grandma. I will buy her anything if she will speak with me! 😀
aww, thanks once again Nnenna. I wasn’t able to send in this installation for sometime because my gran is currently struggling seriously with her health & for an almost 90 year old, you know how scary that is for me & all her loved ones. It was really hard for me to write this especially since I wish I could see her but thanks to the government shutdown here, my ‘immigration documentation’ has still not been processed and so I can’t travel home now. Do keep her in your thoughts and prayers thanks.
I will, Sweetie. 🙁
That was lovely Ekuba. A breath of fresh air, kinda like reading an enchanted fairytale, except the reality of this story leaves one with a sweet after taste.
Well darn am looking forward to the next verse!!
@ Barefootcountessa: you know I always treasure your feedback. The next episode will be about her first marriage so watch out!
I’m sitting here staring @ my phone with a sheepish smile on my face, those around me must be thinking “she’s finally loosing it”…hehehehehe
Glad I could brighten your day Seeta! Please keep reading
am totally in love with this story please continue.
Thanks Grace. Trust me, getting such encouraging comments is what motivates me to keep writing. Like I told Nnenna, I was almost tempted to take a hiatus because my gran has been very sick but I can’t even go & see her so it was hard for me to write about her. Thanks for the support & watch this space for the next instalment!
Sending healing vibes to your Gran @Ekuba. I’m really sorry to hear she is not well. She sounds like an incredible woman, and I am sure she understands why you are not by her side now. Stay strong, and thank you for documenting your Grandmother’s story. I loved reading this piece. The whole series is fab
Thank you Nana Darkoa! please keep sending the healing vibes wai and thanks for the encouragement
I pray your grandmother recovers from her illness and that you will have the opportunity to see her again in good health. Thanks so much for sharing her with us. 🙂
Thanks for the support Nmo. I hope that happens too.
Holding your gran in healing light and love.
This installment was so vivid. I could see gran shining & swaying to go see her man in her green cloth (i think heart chakra), the adinkra cloth covering the doorway and Yaa lying on the mat half covered by her cloth. Powerful.
Friends eh. It don’t change!
Thank you so much Jamez. That was a beautiful comment
You’re very welcome Ekuba.
Ekuba –Did I tell you your grandmother rocks?
wow thanks she really does!
I was so sad when this ended. Gripping from beginning to end! Ekuba, I’m adopting your grandmother. It’s done!
Thanks @ Malaka. Feel free to adopt her! Actually one of my inspirations for writing this series was the lovely piece you did on your late grandma. She was really awesome