Mature Men Make Better Lovers?

creative non fiction photo credit (Nana Kofi Acquah)


Last friday night I engaged in unrestricted conversation with a group of people under the influence of bonfire, alcohol, dance, sweat and motley humans. Among them was an English man and his gorgeous 21 years younger, Turkish wife who had just had their first baby at 36.

This man stood out because he had a lot more of life’s experiences to share. He told us about when Samuel Doe was an officer in the army, told us a bit of Ghanaian history through Nkrumah, Busia and Rawlings. He had left his home country and travelled the world working on projects right from when he finished college with concentration on Africa.

Mr Flinch knew things about Africa I had only sniffed in old library books.

It’s a shame our economic history isn’t taught in Ghanaian schools. There’s so much important information lost to us.

The conversation wafted sensually and mutually on to odd couple pairings. He laughed at himself and insisted that he had only managed to secure his wife with the double advantage of financial and sexual superiority. Because of course she was so much younger and so very pretty. Financially because of course he had had an early start and accumulated money from living lean.

Sexually he said there was no better lover than an older lover with piles of experience.

Hmm, I don’t know about your encounters but with mine, the most cutting edge sexual experience I have had so far (honey my sex life hasn’t even started properly, wait for it) was indeed with the oldest of the pack. He was the lover who would lean in and make me choke in public merely by whispering the naughtiest shit to me.

He was the man who ate pussy with dexterity and finesse (God bless all men who eat pussy) He could eat me out for an hour. All I had to do was lay there and let the sensations sweep over me. He relished it, begged to do it and thoroughly enjoyed himself in the process. I find that some younger men do not agree to eating pussy or rush through it. Did i already say God bless all pussy – eating men? Hmmph! And baby I ain’t talking only pussy. Best moments of being with him were when he would wake me up with his tongue on my butt hole. Yes, I definitely mean my anus. Lawd! He ate my butt and cakes out like it was a recipe for long life. I would run to this man and do him any day if only he would let me go afterwards. Pity it cannot always be about sex. Don’t you ever miss an old lover and then it just hurts so deep that you cannot pick him apart whenever you want to?

Indeed I agree with Mr Flinch,  the older the lover, the higher the possibility of him having extra knowledge, patience, skill ;). What say you eh?



14 comments On Mature Men Make Better Lovers?

  • I’ve never been with anyone that much older than me, so I can’t say. But if age does bring experience then yes, the older the better! After all, it would be a shame to get to age 45 and still deliver yawa performances in bed…

  • They say that with age comes experience and wisdom. Unfortunately, the latter praise has become diminutive in our society. However, wisdom is really irrelevant to the innate ability that humans have for the art of copulating. Some just have the talent, many are a work in progress and others are just a sexual disaster. Therefore, experience can be irrelevant to age, but completely relevant to maturity. Full sexual contentment is the pre and post effect of the act. Which is measured through the expectations that you have envision in your mind. So, other considerations are factored in when engaging in sex ( for the most part). What you want, what you need and what you got is ageless!

  • It will definitely suck to age and not know a thing about really good loving. @Malaka.

    @Leslie,you may envision hood stuff and still end up with crap. It would be a nightmare to end up a sexual disaster or be with a sexual disaster in mature years.

  • Younger men make better lovers. Correction, younger people make better lovers. The best sex I have had has been with people younger than I am. They are freaky, energetic, curious, open minded…#TeamYoungerPeople

  • #TeamFreakyDeeks. I have never had an old lover…is 20 years old? And even then I didn’t have sex with him. His dick was too big.

  • I mean ’20 years OLDER’.

  • If he is 20 plus years my senior, due to increased vanity issues on my part, he better cum correct. You don’t want to be in a situation where you are being dicked down and wondering why Methuselah is still alive, when the Bible states he’s been gone.


  • Nana we appreciate your “Ode” to the younger lover. I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing older lovers, they are less inhibited and not afraid nor shy when it comes to bedmatics. In Ghana it seems the mature ladies are shy though, and especially at the mention of cunninlingus

    • You’re welcome Ike 🙂 I guess it depends on the kind of experience the older woman has. My friends and I were shocked when one 40 something year old who seems really sex positive expressed disgust at the thought of her man going down on her. I guess not everyone loves oral

  • We men came from there and the nutrients there formed us to what we’ve become, so it’s all in the eating and sucking back some nutrients. The lady in quote should be careful her loss could be another woman’s gain, and vice versa. I’m guessing some of our religious leaders are ardent at it, why not we simple folk?

  • I’ve been blessed….even though I’ve had some pure waste men I’ve also had some great lovers (I look forward to sharing my stories one day when I’m sitting in my rocking chair under a mango tree….or just keep writing for Adventures). I have sampled a variety of ages although no toy boys, a few months younger me doesn’t count does it? My older lovers have usually shown more dexterity however to be honest it all boils down to sexual energy as opposed to age for me. If a partner is willing, ready and able to do all the things….I mean ALL the things that are necessary to reach those heavenly heights then age is meaningless.

  • Don: White Chocolate

    I am an older White man. My African Queen is much younger. I too like your British encounter am a man who loves to eat pussy for an hour or more, and the butt hole is not off limits to my tongue. When I was young, sex was about me getting off, not being concerned about the lady. When I became sexually mature, my belief changed to being more important to get the lady off, not me. Old is gold. Lots of life experiences in and out of bed.

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