Par Kgothatso Motshele Très souvent, quand les gens entendent parler de polyamour, leur première réaction est de se demander comment c’est possible d’aimer et de vivre ainsi, avec tout ce que nous venons avec en tant qu’humains. Bien que cela n’ait pas toujours été le cas dans l’histoire de l’humanité dans de nombreuses parties du monde, dernièrement, la plupart de nos sociétés promeuvent la monogamie et utilisent de nombreuses façons différentes pour la défendre comme la seule manière acceptable d’aimer …
Author: Kgothatso Motshele
Par Kgothatso Motshele En septembre 2020, j’ai assisté à un cours de réévaluation des attitudes sexuelles (RAS) offert par l’Université Sex Coach, l’établissement par lequel je terminais mes études en coaching sexuel. En tant qu’un bébé …
I was incredibly stressed. Everything was going according to schedule but every time I looked around I couldn’t help but notice things that were not as perfect as I imagined. Chairs weren’t sitting right. I hadn’t …
I am sitting on the balcony of our family home in Jinja, Uganda, looking at the River Nile right at the bottom of our garden. This spot and this view has truly added a lot of …
We’ve spent a considerable amount of time in the previous pieces unpacking non-monogamy and discussing how to navigate jealousy, envy and compersion in these dynamics. The idea of managing multiple relationships or seeing yourself share your …
There is a ton of material out there that advocates for the use of pleasure products and toys, and how instrumental they can be in the journey of exploring pleasure. Toys have empowered a lot of …
Squirting: What’s all the hype? Thank the pleasure gods that for the last few decades, the myth on female orgasms has been dispelled! The conversations now are moving towards exploring the pleasure potential of female-bodied people …
Very often, when people hear about polyamory, their first reaction is to ask how it is possible to love and live like this with all that we come with as humans. While it hasn’t always been …
In the first part of this series, we discussed differentiating between envy and jealousy, and how it’s possible to view these emotions as opportunities to identify what you may be lacking or desiring in your relationship. …
“But how do you deal with jealousy?” This is the commonest question I’ve had in all my years living as an out non-monogamous person, and in my work as an intimacy and sex coach. I hear …
Like with any relationship, monogamous or not, safety is a big thing that needs careful attention and thought. The responsibility to maintain safety increases when you are intimately involved with more than one person; simply …