In September 2020, I attended a Sexual Attitudes Reassessment (SAR) course hosted by Sex Coach University, the institution through which I was completing my sex coaching qualification. As a baby in the industry, I was overwhelmed and honoured to meet medical doctors, psychotherapists, lawyers, pastors, teachers and sex workers who were just as invested in understanding sexual identity and expression in ways that could heal and help others live their lives as authentically as possible, and from an empowered place. …
Author: Kgothatso Motshele
I am almost running to my place when I get off the train, hoping my housemates are home to help me unpack the dilemma I am in. I am not naïve enough to think Prof had …
“I hate this bureaucratic shit.” The woman in the booth next to me turns her face towards me in reaction. Embarrassed, I turned my body inwards and away from her, wondering how long I’d been talking …
I grew up in the church. That probably tells you a lot about how I’ve been conditioned to think about sex and pleasure, especially as it relates to me as a spiritual being. I hadn’t always …
Dear mother, When I sit and introspect, and question all things that I really know, There are so few that I could bet my life on. For it seems that much of the knowledge I think …
I was in my first year of university when I owned my first toy. I was always that girl everyone knew to be sex-positive, open and free about sexual health and pleasure. So when a classmate …
At home, I treat myself to a glass of pinotage, a springbok carpaccio and avo salad. I giggle at the subconscious choice to have a light meal, something I would usually do if I had reason …
For the last few weeks, I have been feeling much better than I have in a long time. I am finally waking up and showering and feeding myself. A few days ago, I found myself leaving …
