“You shouldn’t have a problem” says a fairly new male acquaintance to me, “Where were you like a year ago?” We have been talking about relationships and sex…his assumption is that I’m an attractive woman and so should not be single. The comment about where I was a year ago is referring to his new status as a father and a fiancé hence no longer an eligible man. “That’s the thing”, I respond, “All the men I meet are either married or younger”…okay I can hear what some of you are thinking, “What is wrong with dating a younger man”. Hmmm, where shall I start from?
1. Men have issues …

Are there double standards around men and women’s sexualities? How true is this in Ghana and Africa? Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? How does society respond when a man cheats? How is this response different when a woman cheats? Just a few of the questions I have posed on my fellow blogger’s Ms Cleland’s site at http://maameous.blogspot.com/
Let me know your thoughts

How soon shall I tell a guy (who is interested in me) that I blog about sex and sexuality?
Sometimes the subject of blogging never comes up at all yet there have been three occasions where people have come up to me and either said “I love your blog“, are you the same “Nana Darkoa who writes Adventures” or “I found your blog through google“.
One of my fellow bloggers (male) told me some time ago that I should’t tell a guy I have just met that I blog about sex. I think his concern was that I might get a stalker… @fellow male blogger, correct me if I am wrong.
I find that I often tell African …

Arguably, one could say that many relationships are determined by that first kiss. I am of the opinion that a kiss, like a person’s eyes, is a window into that person’s soul. How does your man approach his kiss with you? Is he intense, shy, forceful? How you kiss and are being kissed says a lot about you and the object of your desire…or in the case, your repulsion.
I want to share a ghastly experience that haunts me to this day. Ironically, said ghastly experience brings a deep chuckle to my good friend (and co-blogger) Nana, whenever we have occasion to bring it up.
In our secondary school years (back in 1996 when light skinned or …

I remember many years ago my friend telling me that she asked her Mum if she had ever given her Dad a blow job. Her Mum did not know what a blow job was so my friend had to describe the act to her very horrified mother – the answer was NO, her Mum had never given her dad a blowjob.
I have just been listening to The Interview on the BBC world service which today featured a former trader in the city of London who has recently published an expose on life in the city including experiences of drugs, strip joints, etc. He said he had asked his parents not to read the book and …

I am defining a “good” relationship as one in which both parties are happy and fulfilled. However being in a “good” relationship does not always guarantee a great sex life (although a great sex life might be one of your indicators for a good relationship). So here are my thoughts on how to have great sex in a relationship:

Remember that sex is important! Sometimes sex gets left on the back burner, what with the demands of work, children (if you have them) and all the various other commitments you may have. You can even try making “nooky dates” to guarantee that you do have sex.

Flip the script. I know I have said this …

An integral part of any relationship is when it comes to an end…and yes, every relationship will end. Be it a one night shag-fest or the departure of souls after a long “ ‘til death do us part”, you’ll have to say good-bye to your partner in one way or another.
The other day, I was sitting around gabbing with a friend of mine who had just returned from Ghana. As usual, she was moaning about her lack of a man, and I was consoling her with information on the problems that the very presence of a man can bring. (She had just recently been dumped via Facebook). In the midst of our conversation, she recounted …