PART ONE First times and introductions The first time we met I was surprised, I expected my supervisor to be older with salt and pepper hair – our line of work doesn’t attract younger John Wayne types. When I walked into his office I was genuinely surprised but recovered quickly and grasped his hand in a firm shake and it was his turn to be surprised by the firmness of the handshake, it registered for a few seconds and was gone – ...  [Read more]

I've recently found myself questioning my desire to have multiple sexual partners. I have always been monogamous even when I'm with a casual sexual partner as with my current situation. He is great in bed...exceptionally open to trying new things so logically I should be satisfied but he is not my boyfriend and whilst I am not in a steady relationship I want to have as much (safe) fun as possible. I recently bumped into someone who I have ...  [Read more]

You haven’t told me that you miss me The fact that I haven’t told you that I miss you, doesn’t mean I don’t miss you So why don’t you tell me? What’s the point of me telling you that I miss you? In my head I am thinking, “You’re not mine to miss. You’re somebody else’s man. Why should I tell you I miss you?” I’ve known him for years. We’ve never been more than casual acquaintances. Sometimes he commented ...  [Read more]

'Sex in Utopia' is the title of an article I have in the current edition (October - December 2012) edition of the BBC Focus on Africa magazine. Grab a copy and let me know your thoughts... Here's a question for you. What does sex in utopia mean to ...  [Read more]

I'm sharing another writing exercise my Fab Fem group did a while ago. Why don't you share your own response. "The relationship between power and sex is most evident to you when..." Send me your post via adventuresfromgmail.com and it could be posted here.   I allow someone to fuck me when I am not completely ready When I allow someone to fuck me just because he has made me cum…and thinks the next move should automatically be his ...  [Read more]

Adventurers, is there anything you used to believe when you first started having sex that you now have a totally different frame of mind about? Anything you used to think was a “sure-banker” rule that you are now slightly embarrassed that you ever saw that way? What was it? Never giving blowjobs? Never doing doggy-style? Never letting yourself get sweaty during sex? Oh. You won’t tell me till I tell you mine? Fine. Sigh. Don’t laugh, but ...  [Read more]

“Invite Mansa to that event you go to regularly,” said my friend Kojo to me via DM (direct message facility on twitter). She’s just moved back and wants to meet some new people. “Sure”, I responded. Ring, ring Nana: Hey how are you doing? Kojo says you’re interested in coming along to x event. Mansa: Is that what he said? I told him I want to meet someone to marry, and he advised me to come to x event with you. He said ...  [Read more]

I’ve just been counselling my friend about her relationship over BBM. She loves her man, he loves her but they keep arguing over small things. They have had long conversations about ‘it’. They know it’s fundamentally a communications challenge. When they get angry they tend to go silent rather than talk about the issue straightaway. That is their default response to conflict. We chatted about why she is currently angry with her ...  [Read more]

Dear Missie (short version of Mistress), You probably expect this to be another article that condemns you and tells you you’re a horrible person for banging another woman’s husband.  You probably expect me to urge you to leave him. But I won’t say these things to you because I know you’ve heard them over and over again. How do I know? You see, Missie, I have been you before- once. Actually, I have been you five times. I have ...  [Read more]

Afosua and Gertrude wrapped up their proposal and recommendation to the Deutsch Tech group. Though the men didn’t say so, it was a resounding success, judging from the smiles and chatter that filled the board room. All that was left for the women to do was to get their findings back to Phillips & Boakye so that they could proceed. Lucas Gottlieb approached Afosua from behind and cleared his throat. She stopped packing her briefcase and ...  [Read more]