A couple of days ago I had a fun skype session with Nosa of MyAfricaIs and voila, there is now a video for you to check out. Thank you Nosa for the video feature, and thanks to all the wonderful contributors, readers and 'commenters' (even the lurkers) who make Adventures the vibrant space it is. To watch the video click ...  [Read more]

'Sex in Utopia' is the title of an article I have in the current edition (October - December 2012) edition of the BBC Focus on Africa magazine. Grab a copy and let me know your thoughts... Here's a question for you. What does sex in utopia mean to ...  [Read more]

Malaka and I have decided to give over more control of this blog to some of the regular contributors who write such enjoyable pieces for 'Adventures' namely African Mami, Ekuba, Nnenna Marcia and Voluptous Voltarian. This is in the spirit of the blog being a space for African Women. Even though I do not know all these women personally (I only know one of the four listed) I can tell (or know from their posts) that they originate from English ...  [Read more]

  Being asked to speak on this topic delighted and dismayed me. Dismay because the title of the topic could lead one to assume that the African woman is not already sexually liberated or that women all over the world are sexually liberated and somehow the African woman is trailing behind. I have a problem with this idea. When I hear of women undergoing vaginoplasty in the West it gives me the distinct impression that Western women ...  [Read more]

I have always been intensely curious about sex and sexuality. Over the course of my life I have read more things about sex than I count. I have heard all the sex stories. Watched all the porn I could access. Read all the academic theories and the feminist writings I can get my hands on. All of them have a lot of useful information in teaching young women how to see sex as something that is healthy, enjoyable, shame-free and most importantly as ...  [Read more]

It was a pleasant mid-summer afternoon and I was walking through the city centre with a colleague when I asked whether our co-worker Tom - fashionable, stick thin, skinny jeans-wearing, long fringe-flipping, gay and proud Tom - was still with the firm. He replied “I don’t know, but I hope he isn’t. Every time I speak to him I’m scared for my arsehole, innit.” *crickets* Now let’s look past the abomination that is ending a ...  [Read more]

Maybe I’m reading too much into things but some of the responses in some of the articles on this website really struck me with the apparent deep convictions of those who engaged in premarital sex that what they did made them fall short in the eyes of god. The very words used to describe their experiences were quite instructive, particularly the word “impure.” I’ve long known this word to be linked to sexual interaction but it’s ...  [Read more]

I am hoping to do a series of these interviews with diverse African women. If you are interested in answering these questions (I might switch up the questions to keep the interviews interesting) please send me an email via adventuresfromgmail.com . It will be great if you could give me a brief 'sex' bio so I can decide how best to structure the interview. Let me know your thoughts on the interview in the comments box. NS: What does sexuality ...  [Read more]

A friend informed me that today is 'National Coming Out Day', and i jokingly said to her, 'Great, lets come out on the blog today'. A few minutes later I check my twitter account and www.feministing.com have a link to a post on 'Happy Coming Out Day'...I liked the following quote from their site: "It’s well documented that the more people someone knows who are LGBTQ, the more accepting they are of queer folks. So find someway to ...  [Read more]

Clearly a lot, right, but perhaps not in the way you may initially envisage. As part of my interest in researching sex and sexuality I borrowed this huge tome, "Our Sexuality" by Robert Crooks and Karla Baur* which I will be dipping in and out of and sharing some interesting bits with you all. What are your thoughts on the following: " Smell. A person's sexual history and cultural conditioning often influence what smells he or she finds ...  [Read more]