Yesterday I was privileged to be at the first meet-up for Queer Ladies of African Descent (QLAD), which took place in a Seneglase restaurant in uptown New York. I ate grilled tilapia, couscous and kelewele in the company of some of the nicest ladies I have met in a long while.
C and I were ‘doing’ kokonsa (gossiping) during the meeting about a party of 4 women and 1 man that were sitting to the right of our table. ‘Are they all his wives?’ C asked me…a little while later I nudged her, “Look, look she’s arguing with the other women. I heard her say, “He’s my husband”.
T & C have been in a relationship for the past 2 years and live together. N had her first experience with a woman only 6 weeks ago. M recently came out of a long distance open relationship. B is the founder of the group and like myself had relationships with girls whilst at boarding school in Ghana. We laughed about how in school we had no explicit consciousness of sexuality and how the girls who had relationships with other girls in school were all straight and married now.
All the members of the group are of African descent and those I met originated from Ghana, Uganda, and Sierra Leone with some members also having links to Nigeria and Tanzania. Well 1 woman is African-American but we’re still claiming as our own.
I asked B why she started the group, “I wanted a sense of community. I knew there were other African lesbians out there but I never met them. Sometimes I would go out on a date and say I’m from Ghana and get a blank stare in return.”
Do you identify as a queer woman of African descent? Are you looking for a sense of community with like-minded women in NYC? If so I thoroughly recommend you meet-up with the members of QLAD. B has promised to make me an ‘honorary’ member so I might get to hang out with you when I next pass through the Big Apple. To learn more about QLAD visit their meet-up group here.
P.S: Do you belong to a group of African women who meet up to discuss a variety of issues around sexuality and relationships? If so let me know about your group and if I am ever in your part of the world I might pop into your meeting if I’m allowed honorary access with permission to blog about your meeting.